choirfarm Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 My children have had the same bedtime for years and now my 13yo is wanting to stay up later. What is a reasonable bedtime? Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lwilliams1922 Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Bed time here varies based on the maturity being displayed. If they are using the evening in positive way (not for TV or being goofy) If they can get up at 7:00 and be productive Based on these two factors bedtime can be 9:00 pm or we do 10:00 as long as things are doing well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Teenagers here are responsible for their own sleep habits. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Our dc had to be in their rooms by 9. Whether or not they went to sleep was up to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In The Great White North Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 When ds(oldest) was 13, he was in bed at 8 and read til 8:30 and still couldn't get up at 7. Now, dd(11 - youngest) is lucky to get to bed by 9, because there is so much going on. She doesn't get up well either. How do families with 7 or 8 kids get the younger ones to actually sleep (not just in bed and quiet) with the older ones still up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammy Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Same at my house! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 My kids seem to need to drop off between 9 - 10 to be able to get up and function in the morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Only me Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 During the summer I pretty much let my kids go to bed and wake up when they want unless we have somewhere to go the next day. During the school year my 13 year old will have to be up by 7:30. She will have to be in in her room by 10:00 with lights out by 10:30. That will give her 9 hours of sleep. If that doesn't seem like enough sleep we will arrange her bed time. I'm also trying to prepare her for next year since she will be going to a private high school. She will have to be up by 6:15 and I doubt she will be able to get to bed before 10:00 due to homework. My oldest rarely gets to bed before 11:00 due to homework. I've always believed in letting the older children have a later bedtime than their siblings if they are mature enough for it (can remain quiet) and are getting enough sleep. My youngest (10) has to be in bed by 9:00 with lights out by 9:30. He has never had a problem with having to go to bed earlier than his sisters because that is just the way we do it in our house. I have friends who make all of their kids go to bed at the same time. To me it doesn't seem fair that a 14 year old (freshman in highschool ) should have to have her jammies on by 7:00 just because that way her younger siblings won't complain. It's just my opinion but a 14 year old shouldn't have to go to bed the same time as a 4 year old. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fshinkevich Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 My almost 13yo twins have a bedtime of 9pm. They can read or draw in bed, as long as they are quiet. I have not seen them stay up past 10pm and they have always been able to get up in the morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Teenagers here are responsible for their own sleep habits.__________________ Pretty much the same here. Except I will, if needed, let my teen know I'm "done and off duty" and if he requires anything he's to take care of it himself. My teen is going through some stuff right now, and late nightime is a time where he can process things and talk to me alone. I've been liberal around bedtime because of that need. ETA: He typiclly goes to bed around 11:00, sometimes later. My others go to bed at 10:00. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peri Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 When ds(oldest) was 13, he was in bed at 8 and read til 8:30 and still couldn't get up at 7. Now, dd(11 - youngest) is lucky to get to bed by 9, because there is so much going on. She doesn't get up well either. How do families with 7 or 8 kids get the younger ones to actually sleep (not just in bed and quiet) with the older ones still up? Well I don't have 7 or 8 but I do have 3 whose ages are 11, 4, and 2. By a certain age I think kids should be getting themselves to bed. Everybody has to start getting ready for bed at 7. I have the younger ones go straight in the tub while I tidy up their room and the 11 year old has to tidy up her room too. I then go and wash them up in the bath tub while the 11 year old brushes her hair and her teeth. By the time 11 is done I'm also done and 11 jumps in the shower. I get teh younger ones ready for bed and we read a story and its light out at 8 for them. The 11 year old gets out of the shower at around 8 and then she puts on her jammies, journals for 10 mins and then she has to read until 9. For her its light out at 9. Now I did think I put my kids to bed early but I had a visiting cousin who said it was still a late bed time:001_huh:. She did then tell me that they need to be in their rooms at a certain time and then they could actually go to sleep later than that. :glare: I then informed her that the times I told her about were the light out time and not the time they went to their rooms to get ready for bed. Anyways Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VaKim Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Mine goes by 10. We live in a teeny tiny 4 room house, and nobody can be sitting up much later than anybody else without keeping the ones in bed awake. We can even see the light from every room from our bedrooms, with the doors closed. Let alone if there is any noise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 I'd say 9pm to bedroom, can read until 10pm in room... but if the child is cranky at normal "wake up time" well, 9pm lights out. On Friday nights, you could say 10pm bedtime, though -- as long as there is nothing scheduled. This is pretty much how it went for us, growing up. My kids are still all in bed by 8pm (my oldest is almost 9), but he's allowed to read quiety in his bed until 8:30 or 9:00pm... usually, though, he's asleep by 8:30 at the latest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 And after that is allowed to read til 10 in her bed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 In their rooms around 9pm and lights out at 10pm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheryl in NM Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Ds, 11, goes to bed to read at 9, lights out at 9:30pm, except on the weekends where everything is shifted later 1/2 hour. We determined this because he can still be out of bed in time to start our day. Basically, if she's not getting to sleep at her bedtime, move it back to when she finally falls asleep. She if, after about a week, she can get up on time for your family and function throughout the day. Since we have to hard and fast schedules around here we just use what physically works. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janet in Toronto Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Teenagers here are responsible for their own sleep habits. Same here. My older son (16) needs a lot of sleep and tends to drift off around 10 pm. My younger son (13) is a night owl and simply cannot fall asleep before 11. They both need to get up at a certain time to leave for school, and it's much harder to get my older guy up than my younger one (who gets up on his own with his alarm clock.) But all screens are off by 9:30 pm so it's reading or sleep. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in Orlando Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Our teens are in charge of their bedtimes. Like Joanne, I do have to tell them that "I'm done for today" sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cedarmom Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 At 13, my son was in charge of his own bedtime. However, if he wasn't getting up in time to get school done, or if he was cranky, I would give him an enforced bedtime. As others have said I am off duty. We aren't discussing your writing assignment at eleven at night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 On school nights my 13 yo is in bed at 10 and non-school is whenever we do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riverfront Headmistress Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 My 10 year old (who is mature) is responsible for her own sleep habits. I help "guide" her sometimes by letting her know the next day activities/responsiblities. However, she must be in her room after 9:15 because that is my off-duty time. My 16 year old also sets her own bed-time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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