********* Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 You know, my bio mom who recently found me on facebook? She lives in a motel in Flint. 2 miles from the hospital my father is living in. It all just makes me so sad. I mean, she *lives* in a *motel*. In *Flint.* That's two tiny steps up from homeless. You've got motel, homeless shelter, the streets. Anyway, I don't really know why I'm sharing except it makes me sad. In happier news, my dad was in good spirits at my visit with him today. He has plastic surgery scheduled for Monday to put a skin graft over his pressure ulcer. Still no idea how many more weeks he'll be living in the hospital. He SOOO wants to go home. He was talking to me about the fun things he wants to do with me and the boys this spring and summer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowing Brook Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 :grouphug: I am sorry about your mother. Just keep praying for her. I am glad your dad is getting better. I hope you all have a good spring. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 Your biomom is where she is because of her own choices. Feel sorry for her, pray for her, help her find whatever resources she may need if she asks, but DO NOT GIVE HER MONEY! Be gentle, but wise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted March 31, 2013 Author Share Posted March 31, 2013 Your biomom is where she is because of her own choices. Feel sorry for her, pray for her, help her find whatever resources she may need if she asks, but DO NOT GIVE HER MONEY! Be gentle, but wise. Um, Chucki already told me not to give her money. :D Seriously, I'm not going to. I realize she may very well still have an addiction problem, and there's no way I'm going to support that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 Bethany, I hate to say this, but your bio mom is a walking, talking trainwreck. I truly believe that the less you find out about her and her life, the better off you'll be. Why are you torturing yourself by finding out more about her? You have enough to worry about with your wonderful father; don't waste your time, your energy, your grief, or your pity on your bio mom. Seriously. She's not worth it. She is where she is because she made, and is probably continuing to make, terrible life choices. And I agree with Wendy -- it does make one wonder why she decided to contact you recently, out of the blue. Run. Just run. The farther away from her, the better. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 What Catwoman said. So glad to hear the news on your dad! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinmami01 Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 (((HUGS))) I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 But, Bethany... a motel IS a step up from homelessness, and she isn't homeless. For a lot of unfortunate people a motel is a success, a victory over whatever put them into homelessness in the first place. I'm not saying to continue involving yourself in her life -- in fact, I'd suggest not doing that -- but I think she deserves a little grace, not so much pity. She may have been much worse off previously. She could be much worse off right now -- but she isn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 Glad to hear good news about your dad, Bethany. Sorry about your momma. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koerarmoca Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 Prayers..and hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 Oh Bethany, I am so sorry. I know exactly what you mean about a motel in Flint. For those that have never encountered the non-shopping districts of the area such as Miller Rd., they may not understand the implications. Bethany, I know this has to be horribly difficult for you, but just remember your first priority is your family - husband and children - second is your dad. You need to protect them from the upheaval that your bio-mom's life could cause. Cat is right, she's made decisions that have turned her life into a trainwreck and while you can extend grace and forgiveness from your heart, you still need to "RUN" and not let her life set consequences into motion for your family that you may not be able to overcome. It's okay to do that. Protecting the innocent is always a good thing. I'll keep praying for you sweetie. I know you will appreciate this - Christ is Risen. Remember that. Place your hope and trust there and stay strong. :grouphug: :grouphug: Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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