Mommamia Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Would it be considered inappropriate or illegal to ask a potential employee.... 1. Who wears the pants in the family? 2. Who wears the pants in your parents family? 3. what is your relationship with your parents, siblings? 4. What is your wife's parents relationship? These were questions asked during an interview for an executive position. Illegal? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ali in OR Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Not sure if they're illegal, but I wouldn't want to work for anyone who thinks these are good questions to ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennifersLost Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 No idea about legality, but if someone asked me those questions, my (coffee, tea, water) would be in their face and I'd be out the door before they could blink. I sure as heck wouldn't be pursuing a job there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 (edited) Bizarre, inappropriate and in my state treading into illegal. They generally can't ask about your marital or family status. Asking about family members and family relationships is strange. I wouldn't want to work for a company that was that off the wall in the interview. And who says "wears the pants" except as a joke? I don't want to KNOW, much less work for, anyone who speaks like that. Edited November 13, 2012 by kijipt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Pretty sure that any questions re: marital status, etc are illegal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommamia Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 Yeah, the person that was interviewed was completely shocked during the meeting. This was the 4th or 5th interview. Wondering what he should do about this now. The interviewer calls himself an executive coach and was hired by the potential employer. Seems like they were trying to do a personality analysis. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 That is very bizarre. I would want to know what the heck they mean by who wears the pants.....we both wear pants.....it keeps our butts warm. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommamia Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 Trying to decide if he should say something to potential employer or just take legal action?? or just walk away.... FYI-the potential employer set up this interview. The "executive coach" met potential employee at a diner. The employer said that this man was his mentor and had some questions for potential employee. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiana Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 what??? I wonder if that would be a good time to point out that I was, in fact, wearing pants instead of a skirt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Durriyyah Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 My husband was asked such things by a psychiatrist before he got hired. He didn't like it, but he loves the company and the job, so it worked out. I think they are on the line of legal/illegal, and they are definitely a little creepy. If it is by a psychiatrist, it may be legal because they could possibly have an agreement they won't share that info with the employer but rather their general thoughts about you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommamia Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 After he left diner he started thinking about what he wished he would have said. He said that he was so shocked and taken off guard. Not one question was asked about potential job. He had already had a great meeting with 5 men from potential new job. He got a call from owner saying that the meeting(before diner meeting) went great and he would be calling Tues(today) to let him know. Potential employee thinks the diner meeting has blown the whole thing. But, like others have said, why would he want the job in the first place(except that it's a lot more $$, better location, and cool job).ugh! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto2Cs Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 That is very bizarre. I would want to know what the heck they mean by who wears the pants.....we both wear pants.....it keeps our butts warm. :D :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 After he left diner he started thinking about what he wished he would have said. He said that he was so shocked and taken off guard. They wanted to see how he reacted to being shocked and taken off guard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommamia Posted November 14, 2012 Author Share Posted November 14, 2012 They wanted to see how he reacted to being shocked and taken off guard. Yes, indeed! After a few questions he realized it was a game, and he is kicking himself for getting so annoyed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennifersLost Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 I'm sure people are right about it being a game. I still wouldn't work for any company that would condone "games" in an interview situation. I'd never trust them to be truthful about anything..... After all - it could just be a "game". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blessed3x Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 After he left diner he started thinking about what he wished he would have said. He said that he was so shocked and taken off guard. Not one question was asked about potential job. He had already had a great meeting with 5 men from potential new job. He got a call from owner saying that the meeting(before diner meeting) went great and he would be calling Tues(today) to let him know. Potential employee thinks the diner meeting has blown the whole thing. But, like others have said, why would he want the job in the first place(except that it's a lot more $$, better location, and cool job).ugh! Do you know if he got the job offer today? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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