MHowell Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 Tomorrow is our anniversary, and this year I decided to get DH an iPhone. I have one, and he uses it all the time to FaceTime his sister, and play around. I used money from consigning some clothes that don't fit me anymore, but I think he's still going to be upset that I spent that much when he doesn't really 'need' a phone. So now I'm questioning myself, should I give it to him? He wouldn't care at all if he didn't get a present, but I feel he deserves it. He never buys anything for himself. I know he'd rather me take that money and put it towards bills, but we don't NEED that money for bills, it would just be used as extra money toward a balance on a cc or something. So, should I take it back? Or risk him being upset that I got it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KirstenH Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 If you can afford the monthly payment, get it for him. If you can't, then get him an iPod touch for the Facetime and games and save yourself the monthly fee. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plink Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 (edited) but we don't NEED that money for bills, it would just be used as extra money toward a balance on a cc or something. IMHO, carrying debt is a need. I would be highly ticked at receiving an expensive gift, especially one that requires monthly payments heaped on top of any pre-existing balances that we were already working to pay down. I'd return the phone and give him a homemade card with a promise to bake cookies every month. ETA: it is very sweet of you to try to come up with a nice gift for him. Sorry my post sounds so negative. Edited December 31, 2011 by LibertyH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KirstenH Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 IMHO, carrying debt is a need. I would be highly ticked at receiving an expensive gift, especially one that requires monthly payments heaped on top of any pre-existing balances that we were already working to pay down. I'd return the phone and give him a homemade card with a promise to bake cookies every month. ETA: it is very sweet of you to try to come up with a nice gift for him. Sorry my post sounds so negative. I agree with this, other than the cookie thing. If you like that he can talk to his sister and play games, I think the iTouch is the way to go if you can afford it (not cookies). But if you are in debt ... yeah, you need to make paying that off a priority. Spending $200 on a toy won't make that easier, and REALLY, an extra $100/month phone bill won't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MHowell Posted December 31, 2011 Author Share Posted December 31, 2011 IMHO, carrying debt is a need, and I would be highly ticked at receiving a gift that requires monthly payments on top of any pre-existing balances. I'd return the phone and give him a homemade card with a promise to bake cookies every month. It's just Christmas debt, not long term. It will be paid of by March, I spread it out so no month becomes tight and we always have healthy savings. We CAN afford it, he just doesn't like spending on himself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalknot Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 It's just Christmas debt, not long term. It will be paid of by March, I spread it out so no month becomes tight and we always have healthy savings. We CAN afford it, he just doesn't like spending on himself. I had no desire for an iPhone, no credit debt, and I'd never spend that on myself; I'm practical and would much rather put the money towards extra payments on something or a purchase for the home/family. I don't need toys, am generally not tech-y, and for the most part I hate this mobile phone culture and the idiots it seems to have turned everyone into. My husband bought me an iPhone for my birthday anyhow. He likes for us to have the same phone, for whatever reason. I was annoyed. Then a month later once I started figuring out all the stuff I could do with it, I told him I'm glad he got it for me :D. I didn't know I wanted one, until I had it LOL. And I hate anything Apple, so that's sayin' something. I vote you gift it, and brace for a lukewarm reception (that'll likely turn to a boil in time). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MHowell Posted December 31, 2011 Author Share Posted December 31, 2011 I agree with this, other than the cookie thing. If you like that he can talk to his sister and play games, I think the iTouch is the way to go if you can afford it (not cookies). But if you are in debt ... yeah, you need to make paying that off a priority. Spending $200 on a toy won't make that easier, and REALLY, an extra $100/month phone bill won't. The bill only goes up $30 for the data package. And I guess I should have been more clear, we're not in large debt, just what was spent over the holidays. We have a healthy savings and other than house/cars carry little in debt (under $1000 during most of the year). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 I got dh a kindle fire for Christmas even though I thought he would be upset about the expense, but it turns out he loves it and is very happy that I got it for him. We could afford it and there is no monthly commitment. I would get it for him! He will likely love the phone even if he is shocked at the price at first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 I would give it to him. I wanted to get my dh one for Christmas but Verizon was sold out in my area. He may be shocked but I think your dh would love it. Most guys are closet geeks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 You can talk to him about it when you give it to him. You should be able to tell what he wants to do when he opens it. And Happy Anniversary on New Year's Eve!! Very romantic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 that's what I was going to say-if you can swing the monthly note do it but if not consider IPOD..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 I would definitely give it to him! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MHowell Posted December 31, 2011 Author Share Posted December 31, 2011 Okay so I'm giving it to him. It's sitting here wrapped on the coffee table. We'll do gifts at dinner, hopefully he won't make me return it!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prairie~Phlox Posted December 31, 2011 Share Posted December 31, 2011 Let us know how it goes. We both have iphones and LOVE them. Our bill is not much more for two than it was for one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MHowell Posted January 1, 2012 Author Share Posted January 1, 2012 Let us know how it goes. We both have iphones and LOVE them. Our bill is not much more for two than it was for one. He likes it, and thinks it was really nice of me to give up some of my stuff to buy it for him. He thinks we should sell it on ebay, double our money and go snowboarding. :glare: Would that be fun? Yes, but we can do that anyway!! Right now it's still in the box, I think it will take a couple days to get him to use it. he also says that though he'd love to facetime his sister on his phone, it's just as easy to do it on mine. Of course, the last time they facetimed together it went on for HOURS and I really, really, wanted my phone back. :001_smile: Anyway, here's to hoping he keeps it!! At least he wasn't ticked about the cost. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PentecostalMom Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Oh, I am so glad! I bought my dh "good" stocking gifts when we usuallu only visit the Dollar Tree. He was happy too! Glad yours turned out good. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blondeviolin Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Just wait till he gets it out of the box. If my husband's experience is anything, it won't go back. LOL Happy Anniversary! It is our anniversary too! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 He wants it. He just doesn't know it yet. I also didn't want that expensive, overkill gadget. DH got me one anyway. I use it for EVERYTHING. It's great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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