DawnM Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 He certainly doesn't seem to want to be around us! :glare: I have offered on numerous occasions to send him to school so that he can be away from us for at least 8 hours a day. :D That is all. He is only in a bad mood when he is awake......:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Because sometimes teens don't *want* to do anything. Except be grumpy, maybe. :D Not that I, *ahem*, have ANY experience with that, either in my own teen years or now with my teen stepkids. No, of course not. Not I, said the fly. Sorry you and he are having a rough go of it. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 It's because you, simple woman, are just incapable of understanding him. Yeah, I live there too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 23, 2011 Author Share Posted December 23, 2011 Well, very true. Thankfully DH is home for 11 days for break and can help with some parenting. Dawn Because sometimes teens don't *want* to do anything. Except be grumpy, maybe. :D Not that I, *ahem*, have ANY experience with that, either in my own teen years or now with my teen stepkids. No, of course not. Not I, said the fly. Sorry you and he are having a rough go of it. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m0mmaBuck Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 It's because you, simple woman, are just incapable of understanding him. Yeah, I live there too. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Preach it. :D My ds does or says one nice thing per day that keeps me from strangling him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Preach it. :D My ds does or says one nice thing per day that keeps me from strangling him. Is this resulting from a rule, or just a sense of self-preservation? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Is this resulting from a rule, or just a sense of self-preservation? It is a testament to my will power. :D There was 1001 Arabian nights, right? Well this is 1001 nights of puberty. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Your answer is in your question. 8) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
choirfarm Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 It's because you, simple woman, are just incapable of understanding him. Yeah, I live there too. Quote: Originally Posted by Heather in NC Preach it. :D My ds does or says one nice thing per day that keeps me from strangling him. Is this resulting from a rule, or just a sense of self-preservation? :lol::lol::lol: Thanks everyone. Maybe I won't kill my 14yo this morning either!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Well, when ds1 was that age we *made* him go to school. Homeschooling him was intolerable and *I* was starting to get a bad attitude. At some point before we sent him off (for 9th grade) I discovered that ds struggled with needing to separate "mom" from "teacher." I think he felt like I was always judging him as "teacher." He was reluctant to go to school, but things went a lot better once he did. He became more willing to ask us for help with school (see, he couldn't before because I was his "teacher" not just his "mom") and our relationship became less adversarial. It has worked well for us. Just wanted to share our experience. I know sending kids to school isn't an option for everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Mine will be 15 in a fee weeks. I asked a friend with an older daughter if 15 was any easier. She said, "No, but you'll be more used to it." NOT what I wanted to hear. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Preach it. :D My ds does or says one nice thing per day that keeps me from strangling him. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma23peas Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 My son is 16 and I can vouch for IT DOES GET BETTER!!! 14 and 15, so much is going on hormonally, growth, confusion about their 'place' in the family. My son would see my girls be very affectionate towards me and their dad but my son was uncomfortable trying to figure out if he was a 'man boy' or a 'boy boy'...the best thing to do is to not change your modus operandi! Make sure to show him that you do indeed love him when he's being a porcupine, being stubborn, obstinate, disrespectful, lazy...one of the BEST things that helped my son was to do things that built his confidence...he did speech/debate and did quite well (starting to find his niche) and now he does competitive rowing and he is now motivating ME! :) He's started to let my hugs last a little longer and he smiles during them! :) It does improve!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 :iagree: Hang in there mom, it gets better with love and time. My son is 16 and I can vouch for IT DOES GET BETTER!!! 14 and 15, so much is going on hormonally, growth, confusion about their 'place' in the family. My son would see my girls be very affectionate towards me and their dad but my son was uncomfortable trying to figure out if he was a 'man boy' or a 'boy boy'...the best thing to do is to not change your modus operandi! Make sure to show him that you do indeed love him when he's being a porcupine, being stubborn, obstinate, disrespectful, lazy...one of the BEST things that helped my son was to do things that built his confidence...he did speech/debate and did quite well (starting to find his niche) and now he does competitive rowing and he is now motivating ME! :) He's started to let my hugs last a little longer and he smiles during them! :) It does improve!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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