extendedforecast Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 11yo DD, who constantly struggles with keeping her things put away, left her trapper keeper with her school work out on the couch. DS (22mo) found it and is scribbling on one of her Latin worksheets. I'm not stopping him. Does that make me a mean mom? I'm just tired of feeling like a broken record reminding her to put her things away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 No, you are not mean.....natural consequences! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratia271 Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 No, you are not mean.....natural consequences! :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 Mean mom? No... Smart mom! ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 :iagree: I am SO tired of having to repeat myself OVER and OVER and OVER and OVER and................... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shannatheshedevil Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 Well, if you're a mean mom, I'll save you a seat on my bench. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gwenhwyfar Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 i'd stop him. i understand that you want to encourage your dd to put her things away, but i don't think that *allowing* a sibling to destroy them is the way to go.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaissezFaire Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 This happens here a lot, if they leave something down low and the toddler scribbles it...I have zero sympathy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
extendedforecast Posted September 25, 2010 Author Share Posted September 25, 2010 :iagree: I am SO tired of having to repeat myself OVER and OVER and OVER and OVER and................... Is it just one child you have to get after? All of mine need occasional reminding, but this one child is going to drive me insane. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LauraGB Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 No, you are not mean.....natural consequences! :iagree: In the real life of things, if she left her work lying about and this happened to it, she'd still be responsible for it. Hopefully, lesson learned the first time around. I'm there with my own kids. :glare: (but no little one running around to help me out with this life lesson) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hana Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 See, I'd also stop him. Logical consequence, yes. But I wouldn't want him learning that it's okay to scribble on other people's papers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stansclan89 Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 I'd tell dd that he's doing it--let her take care of it now, instead of just watching. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 :iagree: I'd tell dd that he's doing it--let her take care of it now, instead of just watching. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 See, I'd also stop him. Logical consequence, yes. But I wouldn't want him learning that it's okay to scribble on other people's papers. :iagree: I guess this is my take. This is also a lesson about teaching a little to respect other people's things and to know where it's ok to scribble. I totally get being exhausted by teaching these kind of lessons though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sukale Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 My dd K is 11 also. Then we have the 2 1/2 yr old L . I kinda do both. When L is coloring K's math I tell L " No No that K's school work", and put it up. Then when I see K again I tell her I had to put her things up because L was getting it. In the morning when K gives me her math to check I ever so nicely tell her I can't read it and she need to re do it. She has learned to keep all of her school stuff on the high shelf now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
extendedforecast Posted September 25, 2010 Author Share Posted September 25, 2010 Thanks, everyone, for giving your opinions. Next time I might consider the lesson taught to both DS and DD, but this time I'm okay with looking the other way. I think if he had been very destructive, like ripping the paper, i would have stepped in. Tomorrow, when DD sees her paper, hopefully she will learn from this. BTW, the scribbles were very light; DS doesn't push down very hard when he colors or draws, so it'll be easy enough to erase. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 27, 2010 Share Posted September 27, 2010 Is it just one child you have to get after? All of mine need occasional reminding, but this one child is going to drive me insane. I do have to get after all of them from time to time, but one drives me to insanity on a regular basis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annandatje Posted September 27, 2010 Share Posted September 27, 2010 If I witnessed it, I would intervene to stop the toddler from defacing another's papers. Then I would show tot where his/her drawing paper and markers are stored and allow him/her to use those for awhile. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Sherry Posted September 27, 2010 Share Posted September 27, 2010 (edited) If you allow a toddler to be disrespectful to an older sibling you may be setting up your older child to have some hard feeling towards the younger sibling and you. She will know you are not respecting her, even if she should have put her things up. It's really not that hard to take a paper from a toddler and put it up on a shelf and then ask the older child to put it where it belongs. If the toddler was getting into something of yours - such as your checkbook or makeup - and your husband or older children did not take it from him simply because you should have already put it away think about whether you would feel they were disrespecting you. Edited September 27, 2010 by Miss Sherry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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