Oh, to be clear, I don't care either who does what to their hair, it was just noticeable to me that two distinct peer circles I'm acquainted with seem to have all decided to cold-turkey quit coloring. Had me wondering if a larger "movement" were afoot. I like that AARP video linked upthread (tho I'm not sure where I stand on the AARP itself 😂).

And certainly a bigger crew of explorers. Sign me up.

Here is what gets me.... How does holding, defending, arguing FE "truth" strengthen the case for Christ? Like the OE/YE wars, it's decisive and diversionary and unnecessary. It makes a major out of a minor. Such a waste of time and opportunity for actual service and contribution to the common good. Plus, yeah, it's taking up an unintelligent position. Perhaps they feel better about themselves - more righteous somehow - because by believing in FE, they're believing in something that takes more blind faith to adhere to? I don't know, I don't get it. What's the point? Seems fruitless all around.

AimeeM, I think?

lol right??? I was wondering what I've been missing out on!!!

I made mine at the ceramic cafe. It was meant to be a noodle bowl, but it had a perfect hole on the upper edge of one side for chopsticks to rest in. It might be a fun activity to have her paint one for herself, if you have a local ceramic shop.

Yes, I remember a while back we had a discussion about Emmylou Harris's gorgeous gray. I'm sure she's truly gray, but I bet she has lots of help maintaining that beautiful 'natural' look. It sure is pretty, though!

Ok, it's just had me wondering because the cohorts I'm noticing it in do happen to be clusters of Christian women. And many are younger than 60, say mid 40's to mid 50's on the hair and all ages for the running/hiking thing. I truly just wondered if there were someone folding these practices into her teachings on Christian living. I am a Christian, just doing studies with my mixed gender small group the last few years, so not familiar with the newer popular women's teachers.

Ok, I have noticed a couple of trends in the last year or so among some area home school moms I know. First, letting hair go gray. I mean, in drastic, cold-turkey ways. All of a sudden a whole gang of women I'm acquainted with are doing this. Then, the physical challenge thing. Like, they train and train together and then travel together to go climb a mountain or run a half marathon. I know this is a bizarre question, it's just that the people involved and the timing and other little factors have me wondering if there's a recently popular Christian women's leader advocating these things. Sound familiar to anyone? Or am i just coincidentally surrounded by a ton of women doing these things at the same time?

I agree with not sending that message to her, but actually doing the things you state you will do. I also agree that it would be good to get off social media in whatever way necessary to avoid seeing her stuff and to keep her from seeing yours. I personally have a number of people blocked, and I only follow a fraction of folks I am friends with. I just don't have time to follow all their "likes," and I sure as heck refuse to let their posting cause me any angst. The people who care know my phone number. One set of grandparents here chose to be uninvolved in my children's lives. We found grandparent surrogates in who have stood in the gap and have long term, meaningful relationships with each of my children. I never talked down the inattentive gp's but didn't make excuses for them, either. My kids are now all old enough to understand. It was hurtful, though, and still is, when I find myself dwelling on it. But I choose not to dwell on it.

Yeah. Really, not well thought out.

The only thing we know for sure is that we don't have enough details about the actual event in question!!! So... I keep going back to the fact that the complaining guy was not acting as a polite guest. What if this were a sit down meal at a restaurant? That was planned to take place at say, 1pm, but the guy has to work until 2pm. And he's a casual plus one, not a fiancé or even steady BF. Does the whole family then rearrange their plans to accommodate? What if they can't reschedule the reservation because after all, it's Thanksgiving Day and the place is booked solid? Not so much for this particular issue, but for any other sort of event, there's a kind of standard etiquette: Invitation issued Invitee politely accepts or declines RSVP graciously received At no point is it proper etiquette for the invitee to rsvp with, "Thanks, I can't make the invite as issued, but hey, if you change your plans to do abc into my preference of xyz, that would be great, I'd come to that!" Or, "Sorry I can't make that, but I'll send a friend to pick up a to-go box for me!" Ok, before y'all throw tomatoes, of course with my example I am being somewhat facetious, and my example doesn't really match the OP guy's circumstances (or maybe it does, we don't have all the details!!!). I'm just making the point that there's a pattern of etiquette to follow when one is an invitee. Of course if he were a regular part of the group, his availability would have been taken into account during the planning phase, but it doesn't sound like that was the case with OP guy. As a hostess, IF I KNEW someone would be arriving later to an at-my-home meal, of course I would save some food aside if I could. i wouldn't let someone knowingly go hungry. So maybe the gf is at fault for not helping him in some way get a meal. But imo, her behavior and his behavior are two separate issues.

I completely get what you are saying!!!!!!! The point I was making upthread had to do with someone's speculation that one's home value was perhaps added to income for purposes of this BBC quiz. That's all. ETA, fwiw, in the original example I gave, I was specifically talking about folks who'd been in their home a long time, who would have likely paid off the mortgage and only have monthly taxes and insurance.

Yes, that's true, but it's an asset, not necessarily cash flow, was the point I was making upstream. So it doesn't really add to one's income, but rather one's net worth.

Oh! There's a boardie whose husband did so much of the cooking over the years. Iirc they dropped hosting for some reason...unappreciative relatives? I can't remember. But a husband was represented here!

I was in the same position years ago. We had friendsgivings before friendsgivings were a thing. And I enjoyed them more! (Don't tell my extended family I said that...)

IKR? Same. Noooooot.

I think it's more a measure of assets than income. Because if you bought a house a long time ago, and don't spend a whole lot on a mortgage payment anymore, but your area has suddenly become trendy and increased in value....that doesn't necessarily mean you have a high cash flow.

Hmmm. We are not what I got. 😆 I'll wait for the US version, if Dawn can find it.

Likewise. I mean, it was a clean carcass as I pulled off all the meat for gumbo and pot pie and omelets, but no bone broth this year. I've had a busy weekend and didn't want to deal with another pot going.

We have cooled relationships with a couple of our "all of my kids or none of my kids" acquaintances. The youngers were welcome but not welcome unaccompanied. It would have been fine if they played nicely together but the truth was the younger ones were very...demanding. It left the older playmates unable to enjoy their time together.

This is how I feel from the perspective of a hostess - I was raised by a bunch of southern aunts who would have all been mortified to run out of anything. Didn't matter if the hostess (and immediate family!) had to eat leftovers for a week. As far as the girlfriend fixing a plate, I believe it would have been rude of her to fix a plate for someone not there which meant a guest actually in attendance went without a portion. When she realized there wouldn't be enough food, she probably should have called or texted him with that news so he could pick grab a bite en route.

Bill's polite reply should have been gracious thanks for the invitation, apologies that his work schedule wouldn't permit him to join at dinner, but that he'd love to see everyone a bit later at dessert. He then should have grabbed a turkey sandwich from the deli to eat at his desk, and a pie to contribute to the dessert offerings when he arrived. Teddy should be pleasantly astonished when anyone actually invites him to dinner anywhere.

I believe that includes not even being able to acknowledge that they are his patient, doesn't it?

Yes, sometimes you just have to wait for the crisis point and hope the person survives the crash-n-burn stage. https://m.alz.org/types-of-dementia.asp