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  1. 22 and 23 six months out of college and one year married
  2. I send jerky, squeeze fruit like applesauce, granola bar, cut cucumbers, blueberries, cheese and nuts
  3. This worked for both my girls. Doctor had them take it daily for two weeks then switch to every other day unless they felt a migraine coming on then they could take one if they hadn't taken a pill that day. Both have chronic almost daily migraines. So far this has been the most effective treatment we've tried.
  4. If possible maybe he could take the math courses in the summer at community college. I did this and it really helped me. In person, small class, lots of help. I have seen students at our local large university choosing this option as well because all lower level math classes are online there and difficult to get help. adding: my husband switched from business to economics when he found the math too difficult.
  5. Family of seven. When everyone is here we use every square inch of our 4500 square foot house. Only two kids still live here with us now an there are two empty bedrooms but when covid lockdowns hit we were back to four kids at home. We're a family of introverts so personal space is a must for survival. I see a future where dh and I live on the ground floor and never go upstairs though unless we're having company or using the treadmill. I think if done well we could comfortably live in 2400 sq ft in future and still have room enough during the holidays and when kids come and stay. With no spouses or grandchildren we regularly have thirteen people at each holiday and birthday and only see the number growing.
  6. I did this with my mom when I was in college. We did a different one called color key system You were either a key 1 (cool colors) or a key 2 (warm colors) from there she would refine it down to your best color choices. The biggest point was not to mix the two keys when using color for a more harmonious feel. I see she is still out there and has a website called Beauty and Color Education. with Renae Knapp she wrote a book too. Both my mother and I were Key 1 but she would have been classified a winter and I would have been a summer
  7. I'm sorry you're going through this and for the loss of your mom. My mother had breast cancer twice, once at 45 and once at 69. All four of her sisters had it between ages of 55 and 67. Fortunately because of early and regular screenings they all came through it, though one aunt has it again at 70 along with multiple myeloma. I've been screened regularly since the age of 30. I assume sometime in my life time I will also get it but try not to dwell. None carry the gene though doctors assume they were all exposed to something in their childhood that caused them to all have breast cancer. My mom is oldest and there is a fourteen year age difference between oldest and youngest. I was told sisters had the highest risk factor then daughters and sons. Other than trying to keep up a healthy lifestyle and regular exams I haven't done anything else to mitigate risk. I'm oldest child and now 58, my mom is now 82, so far my generation hasn't had a person with breast cancer. We briefly considered the double mastectomy prophylactically but decided against it. I was also advised against genetic testing since nothing showed up in any of the sisters that were tested. I do have negative from all know genes from 23 and me as does my brother. Again, I'm so sorry about the loss of your mom. Kimberly
  8. I had the implant done. For me I wouldn't have enough chewing space without it. I have a small mouth with four teeth pulled before braces for space. It's a pretty long process for an implant so you have time to decide. I'd recommend it. Kimberly
  9. Have you looked into Mast Cell Activation Syndrome?
  10. I took a two week spring break in Florida to visit grand parents from the age of 12 to 22 when I graduated college, this is when we moved across the country from our extended family. I always missed the first week of spring quarter at college. Crazy I know. At least it wasn't a semester school like my kids attend that would have been much more difficult. Otherwise my parents didn't make demands on my time in college nor did they visit. I was expected to come home on weekends when possible, first two years my mother wanted me every other weekend but then they moved and were 3-4 hours away instead of 1.5 hrs so she made it once a month. I did not do that to my kids when they started college. I would tell them about a family event, trip, etc and they can join if they have time and we understand if not.
  11. My whole life has been about adoption so I'm sure that influences my opinions and ideas. My grandfather grew up in a Presbyterian Children's Home with his brother. He was the youngest child to ever be placed there when his grandparents and father placed the boys there at 2 and 4. They did not allow the boys to be adopted when a family inquired but said he already had a family, though they never once visited. My grandfather ran away at 14 to go live with biological family who didn't want him and sent him away. So he started working at 14 as an apprentice printer and was on his own. His brother stayed at the children's home and graduated high school and they paid for his college degree. I heard tons of stories about his growing up there and the family that wanted to adopt him but couldn't. He often told me that kids belong in families not children's homes. My husband and I adopted five children from South Korea. I always wanted to adopt from a very early age and read everything I could get my hands on. We researched all our options before choosing international adoption. We were very uncomfortable with the "dear birth mother" model of most private adoption agencies and the idea of trying to sell ourselves as a better choice was extremely uncomfortable, I wanted to adopt a child that was in need of a home already, where I wasn't a part of the decision to relinquish. I was naïve. We went to all the classes and read all the books, was on forums, discussion groups, etc to learn all we could. My grandfather kept telling me to go get the baby because he was scared. Guardianship where the child isn't a permanent part of our family I don't think is healthy. The child having to decide at some point they want to be adopted really doesn't work either. Knowing my kids at say age 6, they would have said yes, at 12 maybe no, at 16 yes. Growing up is hard and complicated enough without having to wonder where/who you belong to and feeling a part of the family. There was definitely trauma and you cannot convince me otherwise. Looking back I can absolutely see how difficult this all was for them. Some were obvious like the child who I couldn't put down at all for six months and would scream for hours like they were terrified. But also the one who slept almost all the time for the first three or so months to the point his brother asked if he was always going to be asleep. Now in as younger adults making their way they are doing well, are healthy, know how to make healthy attachments but the transition to our family was hard. Things that I think need to change. I would love for my children to have access to real, true information on birth family as well as health information. I think this should be a right. Now I know that most of the paperwork we have on birth families are pretty much lies or doctored to sound better for American ears. I asked at the time of adoption and was assured they weren't doing that any more but since kids have grown up and friends have searched and met families we have learned most is false on their report. I think it would be wonderful to have access to well trained people through out our parenting journey that continue to train us and work with the parents and families before there is a crisis. I think the "story" of the you're so wonderful for adopting, you saved them, etc mindset has to go. We are not amazing or saints, or anything special. We are just parents who love our children and want the best for them. I think race mattered a lot more than we were told. It has been hard for the kids to always be a walking advertisement for adoption when we're together. They can never have that part of their life be private. (well since four of the five are grown they don't always have to share but their names make it pretty obvious since there are pretty Caucasian sounding vs Asian. We did adopt all from Korea so they would have each other and not be the only Asian in the family. Adoption is complicated and it affects different people differently. Some of my kids struggle much more than the others. They probably would have also struggled in their family of origin as some of their struggles can be tied to the prenatal conditions. Loud, angry adoptees get more attention. We know many healthy, happy adoptees as well. Kids attended heritage camp since before they could walk and built many friendships with other adoptive families so we've seen a wide range. Parenting is hard, adoptive parenting is hard. Growing up is hard, growing up in an adoptive family is hard. Just my rambling post
  12. My oldest son went on one. My uncle is on the board and all three of his daughters went on at least one trip, my brother went when he was a teen as well as another cousin. All but one loved their experience.
  13. My daughter uses a livescribe smart pen for note taking along with copies of power points and any other notes available. Don't know if something like this would help, it records as she is taking notes and then can fill in what she misses. https://us.livescribe.com/ My daughter has found it difficult and time consuming to get accommodations in place every single semester with each professor, should be easier but we have not found it to be. She has meeting with disability office then which each individual professor sometimes the semester is almost over by the time everything is in place. . ADDED: My daughter is dyslexic and has auditory processing disorder along with some other challenges and is in grad school so that may be different. Most professors have been great but every single quarter there is one who challenges every accommodation on her form. It's exhausting.
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