It's how he went looking for it that would bother me. Every relationship is different and spouses usually grow to KNOW what boundaries there are. Some are fine with reading one another's stuff, mail, etc. without batting an eye. Some know to just ask and it's not a problem. Dh knows that it would bug me for him to come across something of mine and read it. He'd just say, "Hey, I saw you wrote something for class...can I read it? Looks interesting." And I'd say yes, end of story. I think he's the same way, but we don't share computers. Knowing that he KNOWS me enough to ask is kind of a precious thing to me and if he acted differently, I *would* be a little suspicious or at least befuddled and want to know what's up. And I'd ask him.

We have 2 Elantras. Dh's has 284,000 miles on it and has been the best car we've ever owned. Ds bought one with 120,000 miles on it for a thousand bucks and has put about another 15k on it with only one major repair due to it just being old. He loves it. I have no experience with newer Elantras, but our 2001 and 2003 have been awesome. We would buy another one in a heartbeat, and may later this year.

It looks like it's just a diffuser and not also a humidifier? (This is why I'm asking here because I don't know if they are the same thing! If you use without oil is it essentially a humidifier? If something IS just a humidifier, does it hurt to put a few drops of oil in the water? lol)

If it has the option of using essential oils for aromatherapy, too, that's a plus. It mainly needs to be quiet and I kind of like the color change ones. This is for one of my kids who has really bad post nasal drip/mucus in her throat that keeps her up at night!

Oh, Pinterest! I forgot about that for all the smaller stuff that needs organization. (Or furniture hacks, etc.)

Great ideas! Looks like I need to make a road trip to IKEA. Never been there so I will just trust you all and go for it! lol

Eve is mentioned so few times in the Bible, IMO, that the extrapolations made about her and gender astound me sometimes. LOL But what little is said does say a lot. It's interesting to note how weakly she is portrayed and yet she is given the exact same AGENCY to choose on her own as Adam. They just chose to sin in slightly different ways. She was the first and only woman born without sin. She is the first friend, the first wife, the first mother. She figured out how to make clothes for herself and Adam. LOL! She is the first human being to be told about the GOSPEL and hint at what Christ will do! (When God speaks to the serpent/Devil about putting enmity between him and woman, etc.) Both she and Adam are referred to in the New Testament as examples for both men and women not to follow; they both represent humanity. God said, "Let them have dominion over..." creation. She is the first woman to lose a child--to murder by one of her other children, no less--and yet she carries on, doesn't she? We don't know if she was a terrible mother; we don't learn any of her other sins, I don't think. The above is kind of the extent to which we know her. Enough to admire? Maybe not, but more out of lack of knowledge because the other strong women in the Bible have fairly detailed descriptions of their positive traits without many or any specifics about the ways that they sin like everyone else. It's a dangerous thing to idolize anyone in the Scriptures except Christ. lol

The Family Under the Bridge Dr. Doolittle? (Can't remember actual titles) If they can handle slightly more difficult (books labeled for 8-12) and you're OK with a selection that isn't a "classic", my vote is for The Book Scavenger by Jennifer Chambliss Bertman or Wonder by R.J. Palacio.

Just small stuff. All 4 posts holding our volleyball net up--which we asked if we could put up. Our dog's 30 ft. leash staked into the ground--that we also told him was there and we put near the deck and coiled up, not out in the middle of the yard. He hit the metal pole holding my bird feeders--I happened to be looking out the window as he hit it, bent it and then shoved it back into the ground where it tipped over after 2 minutes. LOL If I bring it up at all it would be to maybe ask him to be more careful? I dunno. It's NOT a huge deal, I'm just wondering to what degree a landlord can be careless just because we're taking a risk having stuff on his property. lol Our rental situation is weird because it's a house AND 2 businesses (in one separate building) on the same property. All three entities even share ONE single mailbox. It's weird. People from the businesses come into the yard, even walking from the backyard up our driveway to get to the street just because they can. We're moving in a year or two if we can last. :laugh:

I can't seem to find this answer, but is a landlord generally allowed to include in a lease that he isn't responsible for anything that happens to the tenant's personal property in any situation whatsoever? Our says that the "Owner shall not be liable for any damages to said personal property...(long section explaining circumstances of bursting, leaking pipes, etc)....from any acts or neglect of co-tenants, other occupants of the building, or any other person...in, on or about the Premises." I've left other wording out that just describes other stuff, but this seems SO general that we would not be able to ask landlord to pay for things that HE has destroyed. He has run over or hit at least 3 items--none expensive, but all were ruined--while using his riding mower to do lawn care as he is obligated by the lease. So, do you think "any other person" means the landlord can break our things and not have to replace them? We've chosen not to make a big deal of it and he's never even approached us to let us know these things were broken. I'm just wondering if this is typical for landlord-tenant law to not have a responsibility for the tenant's property. Is it truly "All personal property in, on or about the Premises shall be at the Tenant's risk only"?

Can you show me an example or picture of the type of coat racks you have?

Trying to get our home a little more organized now that we can actually get some shelving or other pieces for our kids to put stuff on/in. 2 of our girls (who are 18 and 20) share a room and they literally have one tiny closet, a small desk, and a very old dresser with shallow drawers. They put a lot of stuff under their beds, but they have jewelry and bath stuff and art stuff and on and on. They are decluttering but they still need SPACE for their things. What are some items you use for keeping everything in its place? (Gosh it feels nice to be able to ask this and also be able to afford to get them something at long last! :) )

These wireless charger pads for our phones. https://www.amazon.com/CHOETECH-Certified-Wireless-Anti-Slip-Qi-Enabled/dp/B00C40OG22 (They unavailable but probably just need to restock or are slightly changing the design. There are other brands, of course.) I LOVE just setting my phone down on it and not fiddling with a cord in the port.

I'm a poor girl who loves champagne. LOL But for mixed drinks, my favorite is probably the Seabreeze: Vodka, cranberry juice, grapefruit juice. I won't turn down a pina colada, either, if that counts.

Thanks! Forgot about hummus because I only get it on a rare occasion. Good ideas, this will help. :)

I don't necessarily want to bake something sweet, just offer a nice (slightly hearty?) snack for a friend who is coming over next week. It can be homemade, just not too involved, and enough to offer to about 6 adults. I'm ok with totally store-bought options, too. I'm just having a brain freeze.

I haven't been to church regularly in about 2 years. Our youngest has issues and really doesn't enjoy going. I'm not going to force him and so I needed to be at home with him. However, over the past 6 months or so I've realized that I'm sort of putting off getting back into things--and I WANT to go. When I stopped, it was a huge relief because I get tired of constantly serving. I don't have to serve, I love to, and I'm ok with saying no so it's not that. BUT, in every church we've attended, a small minority do 99% of the work. After a while, it gets old and I'm fine with withdrawing for a bit. For me, the issues with ds made it a total withdrawal, but I miss Bible study and teaching and discussing books, etc. with people who mostly share my values! I sometimes feel like our family is appreciated for what we DO for the church but not for who we ARE. It can be lonely and to me, the worst kind of loneliness is the one in the midst of a group of people with whom you SHOULD feel like family--even if only distant relatives. LOL Another thing holding me back is that I can be critical of how things are done. Things tend to slowly irk me more and more over time and I need to get that under control. My dh works at our church we really like it so I don't want to ruin it for myself. But that's MY issue! I also tend to stop reading the Bible and just read theology books. Nothing wrong with some good, deep stuff, but if I'm honest, I'm replacing the Bible with those books because they are just more appealing to me! I sometimes look at the Bible as an "assignment" and would rather read on my own terms. I need balance with that.

I agree with checking out Lynda.com through the library.

That is a good point. I also think that even though she praised the media a bit in her speech, does she REALLY trust them with the "narrative of her life" in a no-holds-barred presidential campaign? It would be hard for ANYONE to!

Yes, I do. I think it's extremely difficult for human beings with that much money, power, clout to NOT grow huge egos. She's been trying to educate people on her nutty form of spirituality for decades and her responses to people who ask logical, reasonable questions about religious/spiritual pluralism and her weird sort of relativism show to me how highly she holds her own opinions. If people are going to consider a candidate's religious beliefs, then I sure hope they will fairly assess some of the whacked out crap she's peddled. Like the time she had some guru on her show, let them advertise their wellness/spiritual retreat and then when someone died at that retreat, I don't recall hearing a thing from her. She never retracts when her pseudoscience gets called out. Someone who can't admit they are wrong? Narcissist.

I'd have it looked over, but trust Hyundai more than most other manufacturers. Our Elantras have been excellent for us! (2001 and 2003; still going no problems!)

LOL I was just watching the weather report here and the meteorologist used that phrase because they're unsure if the system moving through will be more rain or a LOT of snow. They're just flying by the seat of their pants, you know! :P

Oh gosh, Case is great and SO close to a ton of great things! On a decent weather day he can walk to the great museums and Severance Hall (Cleveland Orchestra). Hop on a bus on Euclid Ave. right off campus to Playhouse Square for theatre! OK, enough gushing. Enjoy your visit!

I think it's a real possibility but I hope she doesn't. I think that narcissists who can hide behind more eloquent language can be more dangerous than those whose brash and obvious egos are simply predictable. And someone who believes in "your truth" rather than objective THE truth about certain things scares the crap out of me. I know she was referring in her speech mainly to the #metoo women, BUT she uses that phrase a lot. I don't want a self-help guru as president.

I do both AND after a person has answered my question I try to gauge if they would be interested in hearing MY take on the same topic. I offer stuff maybe 50% of the time, it just depends. I did not ask others questions (not peppering them with them the entire time, mind you!) until I read How to Win Friends and Influence People. A friend recommended it and said it helped her a lot; you can take or leave any advice Carnegie gives and my big takeaway was to ask people questions 1) to keep MYSELF engaged, and 2) so that they know they are worth my time to want to know more. Asking the right kinds of questions without making the other person feel like they are being interviewed may take work for some people--it did for me--but overall I think it really helped me to be less reserved (read: totally clammed up, lol) in social situations.