Can I just say, "Wow!" I could have written the EXACT same post. Not kidding. I am the oldest of four, the personal hygiene issue, struggle with mothering (esp. sitting down and playing with them), and I was the mother to my siblings as well as my mother. Never any physical or other kind of abuse, except neglect. The only difference was she just remarried once, though now divorced. But my mom and stepfather would smoke pot in front of us and even grew it in the house. :( At least it kept me from the desire to do drugs of any sort. You can say I rebeled against them.
Feel free to PM me. I also feel like everything I do to be a good mother is more work than normal because I don't have a frame of reference.
BTW, I have 3 girls too. :001_smile:
And I am :bigear: as well.