This is why those kinds of bathrooms need a separate deadbolt. Then I can double and triple check the lock without unlocking it accidentally.

I only dislike the one-seater ones that should just be a private bathroom--the ones where there's one tiny metal stall, and then the sink and paper towels are outside the stall in the same small room. That pretty much always seems super squished, and I don't like the "pressure" of being the only one keeping the person who's right outside the stall waiting. I love the single-room/single-toilet bathrooms.

One thing that really helps me with things like the eggs (or anything in the oven or simmering) is to set a timer. I've been trying to train myself to do it every single time. I get distracted easily when I don't stay in the kitchen, and it's amazing how many times a timer has helped me remember something before it was overcooked or burned.

Ditto, but from what my hygienist and dentist have said, we're rare birds. Last time I saw a substitute dentist who raved about what good care I take of my teeth and gums. Um, no. I'm just lucky genetically on that front. That being said, I do think there's probably a benefit to flossing, even for me. I definitely get food and plaque out when I do floss, even after brushing super carefully.

Ack. Double post.

I've seen some fancy kitchens with runnels carved into the counter next to the sink, but sinks with built-in drainboards are pretty rare in the US. They do seem awfully practical!

But how do you soak it without the handle? I've never seen a double bowl sink that lets me set my large skillets flat on the bottom to soak. Is it on its side in a full sink of soapy water with the handle sticking out? I guess it would work that way but would require me to run a full sink of soapy water to soak it. I stick most everything in the dishwasher and only have large pans or things with aluminum to wash by hand, so I usually just wash them without running a sink full of water.

What I don't understand is how all you double-sink lovers wash large skillets. Am I the only one who has large skillets that you absolutely can't soak in a split sink? All of my skillets, except for the tiny one used for a single egg, are between 19 and 23" long from end to end of handle. We use one or more of those at every single cooked meal. Having to always wash those balanced on one end in the old double sink or with them sitting on the counter was a real annoyance to us. We switched to a big single sink (with a second sink on the island), and I am over the moon happy with it. I love being able to soak my skillets and half sheet pans with room to spare!

One other thing to know is that if you use one-click to buy something, whatever else you may have in your cart will stay in your cart and will not be purchased with the one-click item. If you use one-click to buy an item, it only buys that single item. I use one-click a lot, but if I know I'm going to buy several things that might add up to the $35 needed for free same-day delivery, then I'll just add them to the cart and buy them at once.

Oh, yeah, I'm nowhere near where they are, and I don't want to be there either. For example, I'm a big believer in safe cars, and I'm not sure I'd feel too safe driving what I could get for under $5000. I just take inspiration from there and leave behind the parts that are too extreme for me.

:grouphug: It will get better, and it will start to feel ok. It really will. You've gotten a lot of great advice, but I wanted to add something about changing how you look at money. I've been reading a lot of frugality blogs, forums, and websites, and it's been changing my attitudes toward money for the better. This is akin to the advice someone gave above to read Your Money or Your Life. Right now you're embarking on a big life change, and I think this might be a great time to try to live really frugally with a few splurges for a while. Living frugally for a while would help you build up your emergency savings and your retirement savings much more quickly, and sooner is always better for those types of things. I've been getting a lot of good out of Reddit's personalfinance and financial independence groups. I've also been reading Mr. Money Mustache a lot. That kind of frugality doesn't come naturally to me and still strikes me as more extreme than I'm ready for, but reading about it has really helped me change my perspective on daily purchases vs. long-term savings. I've started tracking my "non-expenditures." These are the things that I would have purchased without a thought before I started to focus more on savings. I'm really enjoying seeing that number grow, and I find I get at least as much pleasure out of watching that number creep up as I would out of buying/doing whatever I was thinking about. Since you commented that you've always had troubles with money management, I wonder if reading the thoughts of people who are very focused on it could be helpful to you as well!

Yeah, I'm barely above "underweight," and people have made those comments to me when I've mentioned camping or hiking.

I think a lot depends on what you mean by millionaire. In high COL areas, paper millionaires are pretty common. When a small house is worth close to a million dollars, it's not unusual for people who've owned property for several years to be millionaires from their total net worth. Far fewer have a million dollars in liquid assets, though by the time relatively high earners reach their 50s or so, it's not unusual for retirement accounts to be well into the seven figures. I guess for my area I'd say that millionaires who reach that level due to real estate they're living in and or with flush retirement accounts are not wealthy in the way that used to be meant by that. (Don't misunderstand me. They're extremely affluent, but that's perhaps different than very wealthy.)

That was so far off from my results in a high COL area that I had to check. Upper class (upper 18%) on that calculator starts at 170,000 for a family of four in San Diego. I found it interesting that different metro areas have different percents defined as "upper class." In my metro, "upper class" for a family of four starts at 160,000, but that's for the top 26%. Anyone know why different percents have different percents in what that site considers "upper class"?

Since you have to keep expensive medicine in the fridge, I'd suggest a model with a door alarm and a temperature alarm. That way if the door is left ajar or if the temperature rises too high, it will beep and let you know.

Ditto on the window AC. If your window won't accommodate a window unit, you can get units that can be installed in a wall. That requires having a hole cut, but since this will be a chronic summer problem, it might be worth solving with a permanent air conditioner installation. --Sun with the attic bedroom who had to get AC just for the bedroom

New listing I saw in my area today: $675,000 for 1300 square feet. No basement. Small lot. Kitchen has new formica counters, but the cupboards are from the 1940s. Bathrooms look like they were updated in the '80s. The kicker? It will almost certainly sell in a couple of days for over listing price due to multiple offers. 10% over is typical at the moment.

So did we. The difference is that the small, low-ceilinged houses in my neighborhood would be worth well under $100,000 in many parts of the country. Just because people live in a high COL area doesn't mean they're living in luxury. In fact, quite often it's the opposite! Sometimes I browse real-estate listings in cheaper areas of the country and fantasize about the mansion we could live in if we sold our house here and moved there! I don't really have any desire to live in a giant house, but it's fun to dream!

Do you want an urban getaway or more nature? What time of year?

I wouldn't bother calling and asking. I'd just make the appointment, get my teeth cleaned, and decline the x-rays. What are they going to do once you're there?

If you don't want to come to Seattle, don't, but deciding that based on this thread would be a bit extreme. I've never met anyone in the Seattle area who expresses these kinds of ideas. I'm not really sure why one strange thread would lead someone to think the people in an entire metropolitan area are "hideous."

Have you tried something like Nair or Veet? I find that they generally dissolve the hair a smidgen down in the follicle "hole," so maybe that would help? I also have very pale skin, and I've become a fan of self-tanning lotions, and I find that having slightly "tanned" legs helps blur the dark hairs against the pale skin. I also shave with the shower door slightly ajar because it makes me have goose bumps, which leads to me getting a closer shave. I've found that the expensive, 5-blade razors really do work better, at least for me and my naturally bumpy and goose-bumpy skin. They seem to glide much more smoothly over any imperfections. I was resistant for years, thinking it was just a gimmick, but a friend gave me one once when I was visiting and had forgotten my own razor. I couldn't believe the difference.

Can you be more specific about what is bothering you about your legs? For example, I get ingrown hairs and have keratosis pilaris. Certain lotions have made a huge difference in my legs' appearance and texture, but your issues could be completely different.

First, do you really know that she's complaining? Or is that just your interpretation? Could she possibly be just checking what his timing will be? I say this as a SAHM who doesn't have multiple children. I often call around 4 or 5 to check when he thinks he'll be heading out. Unless he puts her on speaker phone, you have no way of knowing what she's actually saying, and you have no way of knowing the backstory on it. Second, how do you know that she's "demanding" the move? You don't. Even if he's said that, you still don't know whether that's just how he's presenting it at work. As for why she doesn't work, it really sounds like this may be more your issue than hers. Why do you care so much? It sounds like you resent her for not having to work, and this is negatively coloring your impression of her. For all you know, she has a chronic illness that makes regular work hard. Many, many people who don't work full-time have invisible illnesses that others don't know about. Maybe she's depressed. Maybe she's a lazy gold digger. Does it really matter?