Yes, I definitely will. I have a name for a person and from what I can find on her it sounds like a good starting place at least.

She's 10. She is adopted and knows she was abused by her birth parents. She's been with us since 7 months old but you can't erase those first months, especially when you have scars staring at you. Now she's watching her father and I deal with marriage problems and its really upsetting her. She doesn't have a therapist but its high on my priority list now.

She told me today she feels like a bad person, she deserves to have people hurt her. Sigh. Why does life have to hurt so much and be so hard?

I'm sorry tht would be heartbreaking.

I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry you won't be able to go to the funeral. Hugs to you.

I see what you are saying and that makes sense when dealing with things in ourselves. The type of compartmentalization I was thinking about deals more with trying to process things that happen to us. For example growing up in an abusive home. Assuming the child isn't removed from the home for whatever reason and instead has no choice but to learn to deal with it. If the child is in church they may learn they should surrender the home situation to God... but how would years of doing that not end up with a life that's so full of boxed up issues. Is it inevitable or is there something else to giving problems over to God that keeps one from ending up this way?

I do see that compartmentalizing is good and necessary at times. I didn't intend to make it sound like I thought it was always bad. I guess it is when it becomes a long term solution for dealing with life particularly for on going and long term situations. But yes Julie is right, I don't see how to practice faith and turn situations over to God without creating a scenario where things end up boxed up indefinitely. If there's nothing you can do to fix something and you can't leave the situation and you can't control how or when or if God will work in a situation it seems hopeless.

Here's the assumptions... an overly compartmentalized life = bad because you end up disconnected but giving situations over to God to handle = good because you are practicing faith and not worrying however what's the difference in the two? Or maybe thats the wrong questions... you can compartmentalize without giving a situation over to God and without having faith. But how do you practice faith and walk away from worry and give a situation to God without ending up with your life totally compartmentalized?

I'm sorry for your loss and how you found out. That would be an awful way to hear the news.

I'm sorry. It does sound very overwhelming! I hope something happens to ease your burden.

I went to a school like that. Granted I was a kid but I loved it. I definitely wouldn't mind it at all dot my kids.

We take off nice big chunks of time in the spring and fall so we don't feel like we are plowing through and we don't feel like we immediately do the next thing. Now if we happen to finish a curriculum in May or June or July I don't start a new one right away. I'll do something different. My kids like "starting" a new year the same time as their PS friends so we officially start new stuff in the fall.

Ugh, I hate church "shopping". That's probably why I ended up back at the same church 4x even though I know I don't want to be there. I thought I'd found MY church finally with our current church but I'm not so sure anymore. I did the web search, found out where the pastor had been before and since he was from a local church I was able to talk to people who knew him. I also knew people from the church who had been involved in starting the church. All that background info made me feel a lot more comfortable. After a few weeks I talked to both the pastor and his wife on separate occasions. I had a few questions for them and from there I was pretty settled that it was where we were supposed to attend.

Trying to stay focused so I don't crawl into bed and hide today like I did yesterday, and the day before that, and the day before that... yep hiding is a trend it seems! school with the 2nd graders done! 4th/5th: DONE! spelling math writing geography clean kitchen - done clean living room - done, by kiddos but it's still done laundry - doing make meatballs play a game with kiddos! - played several!

Ideally I'd want my kiddo to give up the seat and just talk to me about it and let me handle it. As far as a 3nd chance this afternoon, I think that would depend on my own mood.

We take off birthdays and adoption days. It's a Family Fun Day for everyone. Sometimes we even take 2 days off if that means we can end up with a 4 day weekend.

A leader.

Sounds like typical church talk. Fits right in with what i was recently advised, "Better to stay in an abusive marriage than risk teaching your children to be quitters." Because surely as a single mom I'd be doing a great injustice to my kids, 2 parents are just that much better. I'm quickly becoming cynical about the church!

We sleep together part of the night. I go to bed earlier than he, once he comes to bed I usually wake up and leave the room. So maybe an hour or 2 a night we are together. If I had my way I'd sleep elsewhere all night, it would be more restful.

I can't accept that he doesn't exist. I've tried. Tried to walk away. But I can't get away from it. The more I fight fath the more it seems to hold tighter to me. Most mornings my first thought is, can there really be a God in all this? But before my feet hit the floor I'm certain there is. He is certainly a God I do not understand but I can't deny him.

two of my children were under 2lbs at birth. But like the others said it's the rest of the picture that has more to do with their current issues than the birth weight. Both were 15 weeks early. They were both also exposed to drugs and alcohol prenatally. One has hydrocephalus. She spent 8 months in the hospital. The other only spent 2 months. Currently both have medical problems, obviously the hydro is still an issue. They both have some emotional issues. Both have learning issues. But overall they are happy healthy and normal girls. If you met them at the park you wouldn't think twice about them as being special needs.

We have 5, doesn't seem large to me till all of them are having off days. We have always gotten lots of looks and comments though. But I think that has more to do with being a biracial family and the fact the 5 kids are very close in age.

Love my life proof case. My phone sat in a puddle in the rain for an hour and was fine. Was dropped in a sink and still fine. Spent a little time in the washing machine and still fine. Love love love my case!

6/3 $66 grocery store... more than I should have spent so I'm annoyed. I bought dumb things. I shouldn't shop when I'm crying.