I am meant to be op shopping right now but instead I am googling 20th C ceramics. ~ Rosie, what colours?

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Tell him.about how the book inspired lots of conversation? Who is the artist he collects?

Collectors are interesting. I'm not a collector. I just skim read this: https://nga.gov.au/exhibitions/australian-decorative-arts-1900-1985/ and got interested in connections between Anglo and Japanese potters.

The trick with reading a dry history is not to try to take it all in, but just read it sideways so that you emerge with no real idea about ceramics 1900 - 1950 but with a very specific and probably irrelevant knowledge about one of the pieces or artists or dominant influences.

I'd smash em up and make something gorgeous from the bits. I guess you can't really cut up and collage someone else's book. I'd be pretty interested in the aesthetic history of the time they were made, and then I'd probably want to muse on the concept of 'ugly' for a time.

I literally know nothing. I just get moved by some pieces. Guess I found my next special interest, lol.

Yes! It's just ..I don't even have words, tbh. Thrilling?!

I think it's misogyny to downplay the extent to which women and girls are impacted by male violence https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/violence-against-women

This is hands down the best thread I've ever seen in my time here. I am sitting here feeling thrilled about bowls and vases and pots , even ugly mid century ones. There's something stupendously spiritual about a glazed and fired clay bowl. I want to go to the gallery immediately and see an exhibition that is just clay bowls. Empty or with water or maybe a mix.

Ok, hand made ceramics also are awesome because they come from the potter's (ceramicists?) hand. Actually, are ceramics and pottery the same thing? I have no idea. I am curious to know the book. With pottery (which I don't do) there's something about the rise and fall of clay, and the making and firing of an object from earth.

I can send you a poem (or two!) about the role some particular ceramics have played in my life, lol I am very taken with bowls, particularly with a blue glaze. I bought a blue bowl from one of my students and it's likely to be one of the few things that survives the great purge of belongings I feel oncoming in my soul. You did ask...

I don't judge anyone for working; I judge a system that promotes the success/survival of some off the (underpaid, female) backs of others. ~ I was thinking about this thread yesterday, as I walked past a house where a r*pe (r*pists convicted and jailed) took place. And about how misogyny is also the division of women and girls into 'good women' and 'bad women' - this particular case involved a man describing the r*pe victim as 'meat left out for a cat'...aka she was immodest, and so could expect to be r*ped. And then I was thinking about the way when men here are asked if they would ever r*pe or coerce a partner, they say no, but then when the question is rephrased to describe the behaviours without the word 'r*pe', a solid third of them both agree with those behaviors and have undertaken them. And then I was thinking about how, in the last week of school term, a male student punched and kicked a female teacher. And then I was thinking about how a Year 4 boy thought it appropriate to make 'sex noises' - not at his male teacher - but at his female support teachers. And then I was thinking about the disability royal commission here, and how women with disabilities are at a staggeringly increased risk of r*pe and sexual assault, and how they are sterilized without consent to deal with this reality. And then I thought about a 15-year-old girl who was murdered by a machete in the UK this week, standing up for a friend who had rejected a boy. And how the boy brought both flowers (to try again with the girl) and a machete (in case the girl or her friend said no). And then I thought about how much I like my son, and my dad, and how NAMALT, and how I dislike, say, my female boss, but I still feel pretty much like, no, women are not women's worst enemies.

There are studies out there showing the differences in how we socialize baby boys as compared to baby girls, even from pre-birth. I'm sure that accounts for some of the difference in confidence. I'm not a blank slatist though - I don't think all population differences between males and females are environmental and can be put down to socialization. I think there are some very real sex-based differences between the sexes at a population level (which makes sense, as we have different reproductive roles). It isn't misogyny to see that some (limited) sex-based differences exist in populations. It is misogynist to place a higher value on one sex than the other, and to make traits which may be more typical of one sex, the standard by which both sexes are measured and valued.

White/silver/grey is fine if you are gorgeous and have gorgeous and/or salon-cared-for hair. If you just look like a witch and a bedraggled one at that, it's not so easy. I think there are class and age issues that intersect with the choice to go natural.

I disagree with affirming femininity. Femininity is culture-bound, stereotypical, and a reflection of misogynist norms. Let's just affirm female people as having equal value.

Plus, it's not comfy to align oneself with victim-survivors of misogyny. Sensible women know which side their bread is buttered.

Men perpetuate misogyny - obligatory NAMALT. There is no particular race, class or sexuality of men who are exempt. Women can perpetuate internalized misogyny.

Rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment, violence against women and girls - endemic, driven by the dehumanisation of women and girls.

https://carolinecriadoperez.com/book/invisible-women/ Good book to read for data on systemic devaluing of girls and women and their needs.

I had mine done without anything other than local, and it was fine for the upper and a big mistake for the lower! He's young, so mmv, but I was pretty shocked by the experience of the lower ones - Uber home for sure, if he can.

https://theurbanposer.com/vietnamese-chicken-salad/

I really hate the line 'the child is attention seeking', because it takes you nowhere and it's part of a mindset that sees neurodivergent and other coping skills being 'wrong'. Change it in your head to 'connection seeking' every time someone says it to you, and remember that behaviors have a purpose. If she is 'attention seeking', why? What does she need? Honestly, Mercy, I would not do this service for the family without a lot more background and connection. It will probably be OK. But the risk when it isn't...

That's a lot of transitions. Social stories, and five and one minute heads-up have worked for one of my autistic kids going-to.a new place, and having his preferred activity (drawing) ready helps to ease the transition into at the other end. We also use walks, sensory activities (water, playdough), weighted toys, calming breaths, a calm down corner and calming objects to help with meltdowns and disruptions in a classroom/during an activity. For floor time, he has a hoop to sit in to help him visualize his personal space. But that's our kid. You need info about the child from parents or other carers. Just knowing she is ND doesn't help you much. You need to know her, and what works/doesn't work with her. Too little info = not safe. I'll give one piece of advice to you - wear really comfy shoes. If she runs, you'll be running too. And be clear on what you can do if she runs. It is very hard to deal with a runner without any form of restraint available to you. Of course, you shouldn't use restraint without being trained, and ideally, the environment is set up to let her run safely. I am concerned that her ND is being seen punitively (if she leaves, she's punished by not being allowed back) and that you do not have the information and resources needed (including a supportive, non-punitive environment) to make this work.

Same. As I don't want twenty people waiting on me in surgery, the lack of waiting rooms for those twenty people is not something I feel bitter about.