Also, I love tacos. Anyone who snarks at me for eating a taco will get thoroughly ignored - cos tacos! Ditto for pizza, sauerkraut, curry, fried rice, my mother in law's delicious cabbage rolls and tortes from the old country.... Okay, maybe just don't bother me if I'm eating. ?

I do get what you mean, I agree with the difference between cultural Christianity and personal lived faith Christianity, and that the latter is often not comfortable in our modern world. But that is at an individual level, not a class analysis level. At a class level in the west, Christianity has a majority of the population and therefore institutional and cultural support. That is class privilege, even if individuals have particular bad experiences because of their faith (btdt). Non mainstream denominations probably feel the discomfort more, true.

It's mocking and offensive and wrong and hypocritical, yes. Appropriation, as I understand it, requires a power imbalance. I think it would be hard to argue that Christianity is an oppressed class in the West.

Just choosing to celebrate secular/cultural Christmas isn't appropriation. If a secular group decided to serve a fun Eucharist theme along with their santa cookies then that's offensive. If this secular group has institutional power over Christians then that's also appropriation.

Not necessarily sacred, but I'd say meaningful or culturally significant. So the clothes that were no big deal because they were just practical and everyone wore is just sharing. The specific leader items that are somehow earned is different. Just be respectful about things that are important to other cultures and faiths and you'll be fine.

No-one is appropriating anyone. Both cultures are sharing non sacred traditions in a equal power structure. If the Americans decided a fun japanese themed craft for the white guests was gifting versions of the Imperial Regalia or something else culturally sacred then Yeah, that would be appropriation I think. Partly because an American company on American soil automatically has home ground advantage. Partly because non-japanese have decided to use traditional Japanese items in a disrespectful way, in ignorance, without advice from the Japanese community they are trying to join with, for frivolous fun. Does that make sense?

Okay thanks. Look, I agree that certain online types love the idea of cultural appropriation as another way to show off their wokeness. Chinese prom dress guy for one. Sharing food and style, products and technology is not really the point. It's about not taking sacred traditions from marginalised people and using them for profit or otherwise disrespectfully. But the theory of cultural appropriation as a power structure as explained previously is useful in discussing power, class, oppression and liberation ideas. So, wearing styles from other cultures is fine. Being from an oppressor class and wearing items from the oppressed class with sacred significance is not. Moccasins Okay, headdress no no.

Did you read the rest of my post? I'm thinking not...

I think it's more about power structures than individual culture specific items. So, a person with cultural privilege using that privilege to take/use (without permission) or explain/represent something - especially if it covers over a voice from the minority/oppressed culture. So the uncle remus issue as I understand it is someone from the privileged class taking stories from the oppressed class and therefore inserting a privileged voice into what was something special to that community. It's rather tone deaf. I wouldn't make and sell aboriginal art prints, because it's not my cultural history, I don't have the roots to understand the meaning on the same level, and I'd be taking up visible space in a community that is already pushed to the margins. I don't think you can appropriate food really. Maybe if it's a specific recipe that has religious or historical significance. I'm thinking it would probably be rude if I, a white Christian, learned a recipe for a sacred Hindu dish used in temple ceremonies and opened a restaurant to profit from it - disregarding the cultural meaning. Iykwim.

The first couple of chapters are hard going in that book! It took until about chapter 3, 4 for dd to get comfortable and be able to do it independently.

We keep cars until it's less expensive to get a new car payment than to continue paying to fix the old one. My car is a good 20 years old and is hanging in there. Dh's car is 14 years old and still good. We look after them with regular servicing. We will probably replace mine in the next few years.

Negative. When someone is tunnel vision focussed on unimportant minutia and spectacularly missing the point. Another variation is rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic

I'm sorry, I understand. Sometimes I wish I could unsee it. But women are strong, we haven't been crushed yet.

I didn't want to say it and add to Chelli's fear, but yeah. This. To some men a cold response is as a red rag to a bull. It's the 6th rule of misogyny. She's trying to go about her life like every other human. Misogynists just see her as being female at them therefore they are entitled to her attention. I know that I'm banging on about this somewhat, but she needs to know that she is absolutely right to feel angry and fatigued by this. That is a normal and healthy response to being dehumanized every time you leave the house. It's not flattering, they're not doing it because they like her - they're doing it because they hate her. They've trained themselves to hate women through porn. Misogyny and dehumanization is a manifestation of hate - a response to a thwarting of their entitlement to our daughters' time, attention, deference, performance, body parts... I absolutely believe that men are worse now, violent porn is ubiquitous and many men (and boys) are addicted. This is the lens they see the world through. I love the blood capsules hahaha! Brilliant!

I said the feminism thing not to mean that we can all be perpetual victims together. Feminist theory can give her the insight to understand her world, the language to describe her experiences and generations of fearsome women who didn't just endure their lives to look up to. That computer lab guy sounds like a dangerous creep. Red flag parade.

I'm sorry Chelli. I hate this for your daughter. For our daughters. My daughter turning 12 - and the subsequent behaviour of old men in the supermarket! - is what radicalized me. I really don't have any advice, because none exists. Women and girls are treated like public property. There is no way to win, if she does the icy stare/witty comeback some guys will back off, some will decide to teach an uppity girl a lesson. If she does the polite route some guys will push the boundaries. What I would do it reiterate to her that it is normal and right to feel vulnerable and pissed off when you're treated like prey just for daring to exist in public. I would reiterate that she's learning clear messages about what some boys are like and learning to spot and avoid them is, unfortunately, a useful skill. Help her to feel empowered by strategizing exit-to-safety scenarios. Lastly, I would plug her in to feminism. Feminist history & theory. Reading biographies of the suffragettes etc. She isn't alone. Her foremothers and current sisters stand with her and understand that it's not fair, it just sucks.

Warming cat food. Every day is a school day at the hive! (If my cat wants warmed food, she catches it herself...)

We haven't had a microwave for years now. We are off grid and need to watch our power and microwave just doesn't make the priority list. I re-heat on the stovetop or in the oven. For baked potatoes I just pierce the raw potato, wrap it in foil and chuck it in the oven, or on the barbeque. Let it cook for a while. Half the baked potato experience is unwrapping that foil...

The clue is in the name!

I don't use iew so maybe I'm not helpful, but I snagged a copy of this 2nd hand. I agree with Familia, that's a good summary imo. It's a fun extra to look through but we've never really used it.

I'm not much help, but I've had this on my wishlist for a while! https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/086565171X/ref=ox_sc_saved_image_7?smid=AKRKOJJ7RPM4Q&psc=1

Ah crap. I'm so so sorry to read this Quill. Praying for you and your loved ones. You are a fierce woman Quill.

My #1 reason would be for my kids. I will not ever have men flitting in and out of their lives. Even if they're grown, I won't do it to grandchildren. I just won't. If I ever have a companion it will be private and compartmentalized. #2 - I think I would just want to do something different. I've done great marriage and I'm thankful. I don't want to do building a marriage again, but with new and different baggage. I'd rather put that energy into my kids, my community, my hobbies, a career... Probably more but those are my initial thoughts.

My child does the writing in their own notebook. I copy out copywork into his notebook as needed (literally as we sit down to do the lesson) I have previously done both printing pdf student pages and tearing out. I settled on this because my kids do most of their work into one notebook and I like keeping everything together.

Oh man, when we got our kitty she brought ringworm with her. My kids got it too. None of us adults did. I bathed that cat in solution every darn day for... a while, weeks and weeks. We rotated through some spot ringworm treatments on the kids and washed everything with treatment repeatedly. It took a long time for it to be completely gone. Months and months. But it was doable and we got through it.