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  1. Very close but the wind was in our favour. Pretty common around here this time of year.
  2. Glad you have power again Rosie! We are all enjoying the cool change and the stillness, it was blowing a gale all day. We had 2 small fires within 5ks today, one at either end of a connecting road. No danger though, the local fireys were on the ball.
  3. LMD

    Who does Keto?

    Yes, that will definitely send you into ketosis. If you can hang on past day 3 it gets easier, I promise!
  4. LMD

    Who does Keto?

    How long have you been on it? Day 3 ish is usually the worst, called 'keto flu' After that I feel great on keto. We do very low carb <30ish grams (only from vegetables basically), but plenty of people do 50-100ish carbs instead. Carbs are for high physical activity and special occasions. I do miss bread & sweets - dh is a baker by trade, currently working in a literal chocolate factory - but it's more of an emotional craving than physical. I enjoy good bread on special occasions. I have PCOS and it's the only way I lose weight.
  5. Yes, this is what I do too. We go our own way a lot with math. I've seen enough k-6/7/8 math sequences now that I'm pretty confident of the skills needed before algebra. That means I'm no longer beholden to the number/sequence on the books. I can jump between beast academy and miquon and singapore and mep and math mammoth and life of fred and khan academy and homemade worksheets (I could go on, I have more on my shelves 😂...), depending on what skill we're working on and how my child is grasping it. E.g. for math today with my third grader, we went through an old math competition paper. We worked the hard problems together, with manipulatives, and he ended up making an octahedron out of paper (we needed to make a clear distinction between counting edges and faces in a stacked octahedron tower). Todays main skills to practice were, general arithmetic, problem solving, careful reading and understanding of word problems, geometric and spatial sense, and persistence. Again, I care more about them having a good sense of mathematical concepts and being able to apply them in real life. I don't care one bit about finishing books or tests or grades. I want them to feel confident in their own skills, in their growing abilities to affect change in their world. Okay, I do care a little about tests for one of my kids, because he needs to practice the skill of calm under pressure 😂
  6. I agree with the previous posters, they need time. If their days are packed with school and structured classes, they don't have time to be out of the box. I really don't care at all about grades. Not one bit. It's family priorities and thinking of your child as a whole person. What I want for my children is, yes, an excellent education, but not at the expense of an excellent childhood. Each family has their own unique strengths. How we are out of the box, we live on 20 acres and my children spend a lot of time outdoors. They chop wood and look after animals and do plenty of farm-y chores. We are off grid and still building our house so they get plenty of interesting experiences. I try to keep our school day short-ish (done by 12/1pm for anyone under 10/11, done by 3pm for everyone else). We severely limit afternoon/evening activities so that they literally have hours every afternoon to do whatever they want, we only have one evening commitment a week and that is new (my oldest, age 14, does orchestra one night a week) I guess the way I think about what's important to me, and how I divide up our time, is, 1. Excellent and efficient schooling. Charlotte masony, short lessons, rich feast. 2. Real work and responsibilities. Character development, part of a family, meaningful work etc. 3. Free time. Time to think, try, explore, play, follow interests, etc. Leisure and depressure.
  7. Yes, this stuff is great. Worms are totally not a big deal here (we had it once and the choc medicine did the trick very quickly and easily. All my kids were fine taking it) But, to the op, I get pretty cranky about people bringing sickness into my home. I'd probably be upset at their rudeness but too chicken to cancel, maybe we would come down with a sickness of our own and cancel...
  8. My 8th grader does around 5 hours a day. We are... sort of rigorous? I do count music practice as school time because it is not optional in our home and also because she wants it to be a priority. She pretty much does her list in the order she chooses, but basically it washes out to (roughly) an hour each for math, LA and violin. Then about 40 mins on 3 other things like science, history or another elective subject. She is very independent minded though so wants a lot of control over her subjects. I say sort of rigorous because I have high standards but have to deal with the moody teen in front of me 😄
  9. I think some people are trained to see the flags differently. Instead of seeing red flag = danger, they see red flag = familiar/home/comfort/love I am a fairly decent judge of character in some circumstances, dh is very good in other circumstances. Between us we can be sufficiently suspicious 😄
  10. If sister is a decent sort, who keeps a decent relationship with quill, I'm quite sure she wouldn't see quill struggling under the burden of solo elder care and simply shrug that her hurt is more important. I wouldn't do that to my sister. I wouldn't leave my no contact mother on the streets. Nor would I throw my kids and dh under the emotionally abusive bus for either of them. Exactly what that will look like, I don't know yet. I can't see my sister suddenly taking on the care of our father either, I guess we worked it out well to have a parent each to deal with! 😄 Quill should be able to set her own boundaries regarding how much care she can handle, and she should be able to be honest with her sister when she needs help.
  11. I'm sorry for the difficult situation in your family atm Quill. I agree with whichever posters said that pressuring (not purposely, I'm sure!) your sister to just make peace for the holidays will backfire. Whatever your kind intentions, no matter how careful your wording, the wound is too raw and this will likely read as dismissive of her hurt and siding with your parents. I'm no contact with our mother, and my sister is somewhat estranged with our father. We kind of have opposite relationships with each parent 😄 how this works in real life is, I do not talk about our mother or ask about her - nor do I get upset if sister talks about her. Sister invites me to events, lets me know if mother will be there, and doesn't take my answer personally. We tend to do big holidays with our respective in-laws and the contact parent tagging along if possible (ie, our mother goes along to my sister's in-laws Christmas lunch) and then catch up separately. But, we are quite a way out from the original hurt and I know that it was tough on my sister, I know she felt immense pressure to fix things. I guess I'd just advise to let your sister have her space and her feelings. Don't try to fix things. Make peace with the fact that this holiday season will not be what you hoped it would and try to see the joy in the options you do have. Maybe this is a good year to start a new tradition with your sister's family?
  12. Hmm, it sounds like you're trying all the usual things. Are you still catching up with those 6 homeschool family friends? How well did the families get on? Were you similar in your family philosophies/homeschool goals? Or is the fortnightly co-op and church the only current social time they're getting? August to now isn't really that long to make friends - if it's fortnightly, has it only been 6/7/8 sessions? - especially if the time is super structured. Are you quite extroverted or looking for community for yourself too? What I did/do is cultivate friendships with the like minded families, I prioritised them in my time budget. Quality over quantity. If you want to teach those subjects, even one family is enough. Do any of them want to learn Greek too? But yes, it's a constant juggle. My kids would always like more time with their friends but reality has to be understood! We are also fairly rural, we have 2 homeschool groups now, each is fortnightly (on opposite weeks) - 1 is more older kids, unstructured and support for me. The other is more co-op like and younger kids, but I run it so I only do exactly what I want to do. As they get older it takes care of itself a little more, they grow closer with their own friends and can chat/visit without it being a big family deal. But really, it is okay to just be with family/siblings for a good portion of your time. Down time and family time are important too, they have their whole lives to work on friendships. Don't fall into the trap of romanticizing childhood friendships, focus on what you do have. It sounds to me like you're doing great!
  13. You have my sympathies op. My dd is 14 now but that whiny sulky stroppy attitude nearly did our heads in. Fwiw, I don't think missing coop is too harsh a punishment. But, it is an oft repeated refrain around here that kindness starts at home. If you act like a brat at home, I sure won't be taking you out in public. You don't get to save your best behaviour for friends and treat family like crap. No way. Hugs! Parenting ain't for the faint hearted.
  14. If it's aops pre algebra, ch 2 is notoriously brutal!
  15. It's very hipster, often goes with a bearded* and sockless (cropped pants) groom... My sister had no phones for photos at her wedding last year. They say it in a nice way 'we are just so thrilled to share the day with yoooouuuu' so I didn't take any photos. It was okay, in the realm of minor eyebrow raise but not actual annoyance. All the extraneous people in my life who know my sister but didn't go (my children and inlaws) were quite disappointed that I had no photos to share. It did seem to involve the photographer, though I have no idea if it was a contract. The photographer put all the photos up on a link a couple of weeks later, and we could download any we wanted. *My (lovely) brother in law doesn't have a beard 😄
  16. My oldest boy is 12. He literally goes and chops wood every morning before we start school. 😄
  17. I was hoping someone had some more reviews of this. I went and had a look and it is intriguing... they actually have the language we're learning...
  18. We do run into this issue too. We just don't have room in our schedule to commit to organised sports. We try to get to the pool - I'd like to say weekly/biweekly but in reality we're lucky to go once a month. The kids do a lot of at home stuff, intentional physical work (wood chopping, lawn mowing etc) as well as incidental (running around playing, walking, bike riding etc). It is an issue for us because it is an issue for me. Dd and I keep planning to do walks/jogs but we both give up too fast... that's my fault.
  19. We presently have a non traditional home set up, and my husband frequently works non traditional hours... mealtime etiquette is very hit and miss in my home. My children can pass for non-feral in public eating situations! *ponders the link between haphazard meal time structure and messy kitchen/house* As for 'how to make sure they understand what firm means' - you have to put in the training. Plan a light week where your priority is to run the mother's helper through the scenarios. Show her (and your kids) what you expect. Debrief after each shift. And pay her for her time.
  20. This is so helpful, like everything you post, thanks Ruth! I do have one question, if your resource doesn't have (inane) questions like this, how do you come up with questions to answer? My 8th grader is self studying interest based science, mainly through narrative sources and clinical books, but I'm stuck at how to get that next level output - so far it's mostly discussion and notebooking/summary pages. I have one of your older posts about science fair project process bookmarked - off to re-read it now!
  21. This is how it would go with my 8th grader, with added eye rolling and 'duh's...
  22. If you're done with homeschooling, that is okay! You don't have to keep going if you don't want to. What does your husband say about the behaviour of his sons? Does he step in? I have similar aged boys (12 & 9- the 9 year old isn't an easy kid), while they can be annoying and rambunctious and lazy and messy and..., and not much work gets done when I'm out of sight- unless they're separated, your boys' behaviour does sound a bit extreme to me. My first instinct would be to pare down school work and stuff to manageable levels. I would give them a pencil case each and fine them if they need to replace anything due to neglect or misuse (fine with either money or jobs, replace an eraser with sweeping the floor, that kind of thing) - even let them pick out or personalise their own case. I wouldn't give them access to the nice markers, I would put them far away and let them know that until they respect my things they can't touch them. What did you enjoy about homeschooling them? Get some of that back! Make it a priority. Go back to read alouds and Lego and narrations (no answer book to cheat from 😉) for a while. How are they with non-school tasks/behaviour? Is this an issue mostly only with the school part of their day, or a generalised issue?
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