Did she give up coffee? I feel like he is telling me to give up breathing ;why would anyone do that?! :confused1: I am not sure if it is like the 21 day sugar detox...I guess? only shorter? This one looks like it might have specific meal plans. No dairy. I am still in the chapters where he is comparing sugar to heroin.

oh, I did not know that lol. I got The Blood Sugar Solution 10 Day Detox Diet by Mark Hyman from the library. http://www.amazon.com/Blood-Sugar-Solution-UltraHealthy-Preventing/dp/0316127361/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1427934606&sr=1-1&keywords=blood+sugar+solution

Anyone done this one? I am considering it.

I was thinking the same thing. Let dd have his old room..

Even though piano is the same time and day all year for some reason I showed up a half hour early. Lol! Idiot! We are skipping aikido to get ds' glasses that came in today. Then I have GOT to go to Walmart. I seriously hate that place but I need my medication and have been putting it off for days. But I need the meds so I can get my bloodwork done ( thyroid) which would be good to see bc I am tired a lot. I always feel like my life is an episode of "if you give a mouse a cookie" Did the laundry and even put it up! Took care of and educated little ones (though that was kinda lazy. I need a list I think) and cleaned the hedgehogs cage. Guess when I get home I will make the beds, clean the bathrooms, and dinner.

I would like to participate! I have had some very unproductive days and need to stop. We have school, fold the laundry. I make no promises to put it up. I hate it enough without adding that. I need to wash the sheets and clean the bathrooms. Later I have to take kids to piano and aikido. I have got to go to walmart too. Those are the major things I hope.

What is that do you think? Like before when you weighed more you did not feel fat ,but when you as you weighed less you did? I do that too! (or did when I was smaller)

:grouphug: Please go to a lawyer. :grouphug:

I like what abacus said. And clementine! Not only was dh paying attention to you but he said something instead of turning around and sticking his head in the sand! Maybe look at what it takes to be a 'healthy person'- there is the physical side which sounds like you got that. There is also emotional, spiritual....maybe obsess over another side of the triangle for a little while :coolgleamA: ...It certainly can not hurt! Which choice did you go with?

I take effexor. There are times I want to go off and my husband is very against it. Which I find hilarious bc he was extremely against me starting meds in the first place; until he saw the difference :lol:

I think you are right. I was panicking my son was turning into a jerk but I need to just correct him when I see it I think. I was not worried about whether they stayed friends just whether my kid was being mean. You are right, some people just do not get along.

well right now I am feeling like I will actively avoid these two boys getting together for a while. My ds got upset with me and cried which I knew he would so I put dh on it for follow up. He said he did and he just meant it as a "give the guy a break his *mom* said no-he can't wrestle so moving on guys let's pick somethng else to do " kind of way. e was not trying to make a joke, be mean or anything other than try to figure out something the 4 boys could do. I feel bad for accusing him of sarcasm and for even bring it up.

Yeah they have been friends since K. Thanks for your words. We are going to work on the crassness and knowing your audience so to speak. Kids. ha! People.

Good idea. Yeah we have not been forcing but there are times -bday parties and stuff where they will have to get along. He has other friends and I am trying to get him out more, this was just an issue bc the younger boys would play. I think they can get together when my ds is doing other things.

No, I got you and your words did not come out wrong. It actually did not occur to me that the freak out comment part would be a problem. We talk that here a lot; I can hear myself saying "people clean this up or I will freak out" - so anyway I apologized for that to her this morning on chat. SHe said well, I guess I kinda did but was hoping it could be seen more like spoken with "great volume" lol. Guess no one is perfect.

Yes. That is it. I can see ds doing that..albeit unintentionally. He can be sarcastic and I completely blame dh for that. :mad: It is hard! :(

Maybe it is like what a PP said and it is a build up of little comments like this. That has to be it bc she could not give me any other examples and ds is really not mean. I think they are drifting and I am with you, no forcing! Science centers etc are a good idea. Thank you for understanding and giving me a way to bring it up. This is a hard age. I think I have that article on board to read. Adding in case anyone else is interested and has not seen it. Plus if it is the wrong one lol http://boingboing.net/2015/03/24/how-being-12-is-a-second-toddl.html

Yeah, that may be it. They have very different interests. Neither of her boys will let something go easily and they will also not give forgiveness. It is something all the kids in our group have told me.

They do, but I am not sure there have been that much...could be and I do not know it though. Since she mentioned it a while back that hers thought mine was mean there must be. But she could not tell me HOW he was being mean or what he said. I think they do not have much in common which is why I am thinking I do not care about preserving the friendship per se. yes! So what is that? being bossy? insensitive to how someone else might feel. Here is the thing- I will bring it up to him and he will cry bc he did not mean it.

A friend has 2 boys who for 6 years have each been pretty close friends with my 2 boys. This school year her older is - as she has said- going through a "prickly phase" and not really been interested in playing with my older or anyone else. At first, it was not an issue too much but lately my ds12 is feeling left out and hurt that the other child does not want to play with him and is not inviting him over when my younger son is invited. So dh and I talked and thought it might be best to welcome the child here but not really play over there for a while. It was feeling too much like "yeah you are not invited" and when he asked why all I had to go one was "so and so doesnt feel like playing today". Today while ds was in class I took younger ds over there so I could chat with the mom. She keeps inviting just younger over to play and so I wanted to let her know why I was saying no and that it is not that my younger doesnt want to play with her younger or that I was avoiding her but just the whole hurt feeling thing. She is my close friend too. So I am trying to explain this awkwardness lol and she says that she thinks it is her son just not wanting to be around others and then also that she thinks they have different sense of humor. My ds puts hers down a lot, she says, and it is prob just joking but it hurts her ds's feelings. Well, yeah. BC putting others down isn't funny......??? So I ask what she means and she says that at the last park day (just a few families) another boy wanted to wrestle and her son said no and mine said "yeah he can't bc his mom will freak out" which made her son feel badly. She said I am sure he was joking.... I said I did not think he was joking at all when he said that he was speaking the truth :confused1: SHe doesn't want him to wrestle. It sounded to me (if we were going to nit pik the convo) that he was annoyed. For clarification :The last time they wrestled, my ds accidently hurt hers (hers is 11). And after that they (mom and son) both got so mad they left the park without accepting my ds' apology. SO I told my ds to not wrestle with him. This was many months ago but to be fair I do remind my son lately before we leave to see them at any other free play thing bc I was still hearing about it from her every so often (little comments here and there). I think perhaps I did not handle it well; it was right after my grandmother's death and I was not caring about childhood drama. If he wanted to sulk off, so be it, yk? I did have my child apologize- and he was fine with that bc it was truly an accident- but when he would not accept it, I thought whatver then and never followed up. Maybe I should have? I was annoyed he would not accept the apology and he did not seem that hurt anyway and annoyed she left like that and really just sad about my own life circumstances. So I guess I am trying to figure out if what my ds said at the park was so bad and if so how am I supposed to talk to him about it? What is it that he did exactly and how was that putting her son down? The best part of this is that I am a really sensitive person! I feel badly that her son thinks mine is mean -she said this a while ago - the whole sense of humor thing. I also feel badly that he is thinking mine is mean and mine is wanting to play and making an effort to be nice when we see him. He is completely clueless. It is like I want to tell my kid "let it go, he does not like you" bc ...I dont know. bc her child is picking apart everything mine says when I can't see what the big deal is! There are a few other instances but they are similar to this one. I am not interested in solving the friendship part. But I do want to make sure my son is not growing up to be an @ssh@t.

For some reason, this makes me really cranky. Of course you didnt say anything in the moment! shocker! But that doesn't mean it is too late. I am not sure I would actually do this but I would be very tempted to send her an email asking her what she was hoping to accomplish bc as far as I could see all she did was make me feel like crap. Why should she just get to dump it on you and let you hold it; she opened the door! I would write an email, prob several bc that is how I process things. I would not send it bc I talk more than I act :tongue_smilie: and in the end I would want to drop it especially since she is not a part of my life. I am a different person than I was then also. That is the point in some ways- we are not going to be the same as we were in junior high and college! But even in 12 step places they (should) teach when it is appropriate to make amends and when it will do more harm. I mean really. What was the point?

If your 8 year old is obsessed with C and H, what other books did he like? He also has loves The 13 Story Treehouse and sequels. I can get him to get read other things but it is *not* happily. TIA ETA- We did try others by the author of 13 Treehouse and ds was uninterested.

Thank you for updating. I hope it works :grouphug:

I signed up for a class - I will review it for myself and see about ds. Wanted to pass it on for anyone interested. Genocide" MOOC, offered by the Open University of Israel. The course start date is March 18, 2015. Thank you for the website and book recs!

Really showing my ignorance- but we looked at a PBS documentary and it is not exactly what we are looking for. I think a book would be better. My son is 12 and has asked why Jewish people were hated so much. He had just finished The Book Thief. I told him I thought it had to do with the death of Jesus but then I started thinking and really they have been persecuted throughout much of history right? Just sort of conflict of religions (can you tell we aren't passionate religious people?) Maybe we need a good book. Anyone read one? Or a better documentary/website/explanation/whatver! (I kinda feel like apologizing for my lack of knowledge but ...sigh) :lol: :leaving: