fairfarmhand Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 (edited) My son is 12. Very twelve. One of us may not make it to see his 13th birthday if this continues. That's all. (I cant decide if the tears, crabbiness, and drama of a 12 yo girl is worse than the drama, loud, irritating, intentionally stupid of a 12 yo boy. And oh yes, they both have drama.) Edited February 17, 2020 by fairfarmhand 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 I have three big boys and my youngest is a dd about to turn 12. I realize the worst may be yet to come with my dd, but 12 for the boys was so much worse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 ((Hug))) one step at a time. My dh always says—they aren’t finished yet. But, yeah, been there (and am in a gap right now—the last two are four years apart—coming out of it with a nearly 15 yo and seeing glimmers of entering with a nearly 11yo.). I gotta say, though, that my dc who internalized it all ( and had no external drama) ended up needing the most mental health support. So, I try to remind myself that showing it externally is actually healthy bc at least I know what they are going through and thinking. Anyway—everything is not your fault no matter what they are telling you—lol 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted February 17, 2020 Author Share Posted February 17, 2020 Just now, teachermom2834 said: I have three big boys and my youngest is a dd about to turn 12. I realize the worst may be yet to come with my dd, but 12 for the boys was so much worse. I have three older girls and a boy. I really find the girls less irritating. They were more self aware, so even if they have foolish moments, they passed more quickly and were more ready to admit they over-reacted. My son doesn't realize the over reaction and flat out ridiculousness of his behavior unless we have happened to catch it on video. Some of that, I"m sure is due to personality. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 3 minutes ago, fairfarmhand said: I have three older girls and a boy. I really find the girls less irritating. They were more self aware, so even if they have foolish moments, they passed more quickly and were more ready to admit they over-reacted. My son doesn't realize the over reaction and flat out ridiculousness of his behavior unless we have happened to catch it on video. Some of that, I"m sure is due to personality. That is how I think of it too, honestly. They are just loud and all over the place and think they are hilarious (or justified if it is an emotional thing but usually mine were just loud and inappropriately energetic). I also had three boys in five years so it was ALOT at times. My dd is absolutely more thoughtful and able to discuss what is happening. And there is only one of her. But having survived three boys at a time, one girl seems a breeze. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 Dd1 is 12, nearing 13, I am sure hoping it gets better. It is hard with her b/c she was the most sensitive, helpful, and selfless kid and now is the opposite of that half the time. And she totally doesn't see it, she has been very unlikeable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 (((FFH)) Right there with ya. Sorry it's hard. If you have any flashes of genuis on how to survive this season, feel free to pass them along! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RootAnn Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 4 hours ago, freesia said: Anyway—everything is not your fault no matter what they are telling you—lol Goodness. It has become a family joke that DD#1 blames me for everything inclyding breaking YouTube (almost globally). "It Ain't My Fault" is her theme song. I have a 12 yr old boy & a 10 yr old. The older one is pretty much over the moodiness & we know how to deal with each other most days. The younger one might be the death of me if this continues to 15 or 16. I've been dealing with it since 7 or 8. ... I have three teenager girls & they have their moments, but 13-14 was about the peak of drama. Maybe. My memory is already foggy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momto6inIN Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 I was telling my 2 teens that it would be a good idea to pray for their younger sister because she's 11 and she's starting adolescence, and don't you remember how it felt to be 12 and 13? DS's eyes got really wide and he said, "Oooooooh. I forgot all about 13." LOL Yeah. 3 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 49 minutes ago, RootAnn said: Goodness. It has become a family joke that DD#1 blames me for everything inclyding breaking YouTube (almost globally). "It Ain't My Fault" is her theme song. I have a 12 yr old boy & a 10 yr old. The older one is pretty much over the moodiness & we know how to deal with each other most days. The younger one might be the death of me if this continues to 15 or 16. I've been dealing with it since 7 or 8. ... I have three teenager girls & they have their moments, but 13-14 was about the peak of drama. Maybe. My memory is already foggy. Yeah, like childbirth. lol You should see the contortions my ds goes through sometimes trying to figure out how everything is ultimately my fault (situations like the Youtube one.) Sometimes I laugh. Being the third to go through it is hard bc you do get laughed at more. On the other hand, he pushes my buttons less bc I don't take it as personally. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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