SonshineLearner Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Sounds like an unaltered dog. If my husband said this...I might run:-) Carrie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yslek Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Just asked dh. His reply: "I don't identify with that at all." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Dh had something to add. Perhaps he wants to wrestle (hint hint nudge nudge wink wink) and the aggression he's feeling is not rooted in anger so much as frustration (iykwIm). Or, the guy's got serious self-esteem issues and thinks that everyone is looking down on him (or has a larger you-know-what) and he feels the need to prove his masculinity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Macrina Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Dh had something to add. Perhaps he wants to wrestle (hint hint nudge nudge wink wink) and the aggression he's feeling is not rooted in anger so much as frustration (iykwIm). Or, the guy's got serious self-esteem issues and thinks that everyone is looking down on him (or has a larger you-know-what) and he feels the need to prove his masculinity. I think Julie's husband is trying to say the dude needs to get laid!! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 I don't know if he has served in Iraq or Afganistan or not, but the first thing I thought when I read this was that it sounded like post traumatic stress disorder. I have heard that a lot of the soldiers who have returned home from the war are suffering with this and have irrational and unexplainable anger and aggression. This is so sad. I hope this man can get some counseling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 I think Julie's husband is trying to say the dude needs to get laid!! :lol: That, or he's a latent homosexual. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragons in the flower bed Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 I've had a chance now to ask my father, brother and partner. None of them identify with this feeling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BamaTanya Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 There is not an aggressive bone in his body UNLESS there is a threat. He has a tremendous protector instinct, but he is not competitive with others just for the sake of competition. Sounds like your friend's dh has some kind of issue that is disturbing. I would be concerned. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coralloyd Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 I asked dh while we were sitting at the DQ drive-thu. The guy working at DQ was coming to the window. Dh turned to me and gave me a weird look, then said, " Hold on a second, I need to punch this guy." :lol::lol::lol:. He thinks this guy is not the norm and definately has anger issues. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtroad Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 DH thinks this guy has serious issues... he is nuts! DH has wanted to punch someone but only if there is some sort of threat or danger... Surely this friend (the female) must realize this & only asked for opinions in jest or sarcasm?? I feel bad for her, if she really believes this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
msjones Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Haven't read all the posts, but this is what my husband just said: "What?! Hmmm...Well, he might not be a jerk, but that's awfully weird." And my husband likes aggression -- being a football coach and all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn in OH Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 My husband doesn't feel like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeathenMom Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 i really think the inital man who said this may have been taken out of context. i think there is an instinctual competition between men...i don't think this guy has to really work to keep himself from smacking everyone he comes across. i think he was trying to express a latent male energy that may be stronger in some males than in others. i don't think he's a violent maniac; i understand what he was getting at. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2agang Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 I asked around a little bit before answering a little background: my dh is a trainer in Muay Thai kickboxing and won the USA title and faught at the world championship. Coach Al Mitchell coached the 96 olympic boxing team and still coaches and David Reid won the gold medal in the 96 olympics and they both train my son in boxing. And I asked a pro boxer Nate and a amature boxer Jesse. They all said the samething its a anger issue. He needs help with his anger. Coach Mitchell said he would never allow him to even put on boxing gloves. David &Nate said they have never felt like just going up and hitting someone. David even mentioned when he gets in the ring to fight if he went in with anger like that he would lose over stupid mistakes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 DH cannot imagine feeling that way. Hobbes suggested that the man 'Was saying that to be in the limelight... or was a bit of a tavern brawler." Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmeliaJade Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 I'm thinking about all the men I've known throughout my life and out of all of them I can only think of two who MIGHT fit this description and they both had extreme jealousy/insecurity issues. I asked my husband (although I already knew the answer) and he just shook his head. He says he never feels that way and thinks this man may have some kind of testosterone imbalance. I have to question how this man has any good male friends if he wants to strike out at every man he meets? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Surely this friend (the female) must realize this & only asked for opinions in jest or sarcasm?? I feel bad for her, if she really believes this. :iagree::iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 i really think the inital man who said this may have been taken out of context. i think there is an instinctual competition between men...i don't think this guy has to really work to keep himself from smacking everyone he comes across. i think he was trying to express a latent male energy that may be stronger in some males than in others. i don't think he's a violent maniac; i understand what he was getting at. How do you get this?? I think you should read the OP again. This is not at all what was said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helena Posted September 5, 2009 Share Posted September 5, 2009 My husband thinks the man has serious problems, and he's super aggressive himself. My husband has been in tons of fights in his life. But whenever he tells a story, it's always while smiling or laughing. He tells me he wishes he could have lived in England during the early 80's when there was so much street fighting. That said he's a sweetheart to me and the girls. In the few times he has spoken to me in an aggressive way, he quickly apologizes. I grew up an a crazy house, the last thing he wants to do is scare me. If my husband said that to me, I'd want to end the marriage. How do you build a happy home on that? Even if it is chemical, that person doesn't seem ready or fit to be the man of the house. I bet he didn't say it quite like the wife said, I think it could be misguided bravado, and misguided oooh my husband is tough, isn't that sexy. For all we know he couldn't throw a punch to save his life. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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