LMA Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 What would you do? I offered someone lots of my baby things for her daughter in law and son's baby girl, who is 6 weeks old. I'm handing down good to new clothes, shoes and sandals, high chair, play pen, Little Tikes garden, baby bunting, etc. That was a week ago. I haven't heard back. My mother saw her today and mentioned that I wanted to get the stuff out of the house ASAP. My mother said she didn't really say anything either way. Meanwhile, I'm tripping over the things in my house. Do I call her myself? What do I do? I don't want to bug people but I don't want to give it away to someone else and find out that they wanted it. And I want to get rid of it as soon as possible so I don't want to wait on them either. Thanks. Louise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I would just give them away to someone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I would call and ask if she wants to go through the stuff before you give it away or take it to consignment or whatever. If she really wants it she will come get it, but if not she knew you were getting rid of it asap so she should not be mad if it is gone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cera Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Wait 2 or 3 more days and give it to someone else. She may not want it but not want to hurt your feelings by refusing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I would just give them away to someone else. :iagree: If your mother saw here, she is not in a coma or out of town. If they needed it, she'd have been over there in a New York minute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 If it's your first priority, call them and ask, but make it easy for them to refuse, in case. I can't imagine why they're not jumping at the opportunity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyBre Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Call and ask with a "no obligation" kind of attitude, then get rid of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 When I offer things for people I usually put a spin on it to give a time line. "I have some baby things I am donating or taking to consignment on Tuesday, if you would like to look through them, give me a call." Then I drop the subject and if I don't hear from them by Tuesday, I know they don't want them. I don't ask "do you want xyz', because it puts people on the spot and some people don't know how to say 'no, thanks' and then you are left holding the bag....literally. If it is someone you know well ( I didn't understand who she was to you by your description) I would call and say the same thing. If you don't know them all that well, I would get rid of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 I would call and ask if she wants to go through the stuff before you give it away or take it to consignment or whatever. If she really wants it she will come get it, but if not she knew you were getting rid of it asap so she should not be mad if it is gone. Tell her that someone else is picking up the remainder on such and such date, so that she has a deadline. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 My mom used to get me the nicest things for the kids, but she always wanted me to get them asap. I was tired. I did not want to go carting tons of stuff between houses and then go through the sorting and putting away. Maybe she's tired? Ask her if she wants it and (if you're willing ;) ) offer to help her put it all away. That may be all that is keeping her from coming to get it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtroad Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 Give them to someone else ASAP! She may be hoping for newer & better ... not wanting to tell you no, just in case. Too bad. I am sure you can find someone else. Wish you lived close to me!;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 My mom used to get me the nicest things for the kids, but she always wanted me to get them asap. I was tired. I did not want to go carting tons of stuff between houses and then go through the sorting and putting away. Maybe she's tired? Ask her if she wants it and (if you're willing ;) ) offer to help her put it all away. That may be all that is keeping her from coming to get it. i smiled when i read this. what a kind and generous way to deal with it. i would give her "last call" on it, with an offer of help, before getting rid of it some other way. it all will be an amazing blessing to someone, ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mothersweets Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 Give them to someone else ASAP! She may be hoping for newer & better ... not wanting to tell you no, just in case. Too bad. I am sure you can find someone else. Wish you lived close to me!;) :iagree:I'm betting that's what she is thinking. I'd give it to someone else or consign it. It was very thoughtful of you, though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 Sounds like she is not interested in your offer? Drop off the items at Goodwill or a consignment store. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Osmosis Mom Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 There is a place in Lowell that looks after poor mothers and their babies. They'd love the stuff. I donated a ton of stuff there a few years ago and it was very clean and organized (plus you get a tax write off). Of course, I am pretty sure you'd need to take it there, but to me it'd be worth it. Not sure if I can remember the name right now... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 She may not know how to tell you no. I'm like that....I hate refusing when someone is generously offering me something. When it came to my babies, I loved picking out matching things for the nursery and cute new clothes. Maybe she just wants the chance to do soemething like that and doenst know how to decline without hurting your feelings. I'd give her a few more days and then just donate elsewhere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 i smiled when i read this. what a kind and generous way to deal with it. i would give her "last call" on it, with an offer of help, before getting rid of it some other way. it all will be an amazing blessing to someone, ann It's really incredible how tired you can be with a little baby. Not everyone bounces right back (I sure didn't) and it really stinks when you know your kids are losing out, but you just can't muster the energy to get everyone dressed and out of the house and then pack and then move and then get home and do everything all over again. I don't even know how much we missed out on, because the sheer idea of leaving the house was too daunting a chore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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