Impish Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I know that there have been folks out there wondering how things are going since my thread about marital issues, and my struggle to become a better wife, so I thought I would update. Things are certainly improving...its almost miraculous how quickly they're turning around :D The biggest issue is keeping on with what I started. Its so easy to give in to temptation, let things slide a bit. As much as I believe in God and Christ, I do believe that the adversary is very active, and I know there have been times that the adversary is trying to throw me off stride. Things like negative thinking. I caught one time where there was all this negative thought in my mind, and it was frightening to realize that this wasn't originating with me at all, that it was as though someone was whispering in my ear, planting negativity. I know to some that that sounds as though I'm schizophrenic, but I swear I'm not. Heck, I even have the papers to prove it, since Workers Comp demanded a psych eval, wanting to prove the pain is 'in my head' as opposed to real :lol: It both amazes and shames me how fast my husband reacts to my efforts. Its as though he's been parched, waiting and hoping for me to step up and be the wife he needs that he reacts to every effort with such pleasure...it shames me that I haven't been doing this all along, seeing how much it means to him and effects him. The best news of all is that SpecialMama has offered to come and stay with my kids so dh and I can go away for a weekend! How incredible a blessing is that?! So, next wknd, we're off. My birthday is on the Sunday, so its a beautiful gift! Wolf and I haven't had a night away from the children since our 1st wedding anniversary, 5 years ago! I'm so excited, and nervous too! So, there's the update. I've been doing the Love Dare, but have discovered that many of the things that I started as being part of the wife I should be, and that my dh needs are a part of the Love Dare, so I've already completed the 'Dare' before it comes up in the book. I also got out of bed at midnight this am, realizing that I hadn't made dh's lunch. Hoping that becomes a habit soon, as I've forgotten upon occasion. But, I'm trying :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabeline Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 That's wonderful. I am so happy it is working for you and your husband. I firmly believe that if you live by God's word, God will put His peace in your heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Thanks for the update. I'm so happy to hear things are going well. You've been in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 Thank you so much for the prayers! I have no doubt that the prayers people are giving us have been a huge part of this recovery :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coralloyd Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Congrats! This is awesome Impish. I'm still praying for you guys. Have a great time on your weekend getaway! Don't put too much pressure on it, just have fun.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 OH, that's so wonderful! I'm so blessed to hear things are improving! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan in KY Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Very good news! Thanks for the update. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Woohoo :party: I'm so glad to hear everything's going so well. You'll keep doing this, because the rewards are great (amazing how much a happy dh can make a house, or wherever he is, home). :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 :D:D:D:D Shall I take before and after pics of the happy couple? :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 Noooooooooooooo! No pics! Good heavens, woman, are you trying to kill me? :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 ROFL, nah, don't wanna kill the honeymooners. ;) That just wouldn't do. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 LOL! Honestly, this is more of a honeymoon than the one we actually had. Our 'honeymoon' consisted of going to stay with friends of dh, and dh spent all day drinking beer with his buddy :glare: and then passed out at 8pm :glare:...and that was after the hotel bounced us on our wedding night! We'll actually be ALONE this wknd, in a hotel! W00t!!! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wyndie Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Wonderful wonderful news! I"m so glad you're able to stay the course and seeing the benefits already. Enjoy your weekend! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 And did I catch a reference on another thread to this being while MIL is in town?! Good job setting boundaries on your marriage! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 Yup, she'll be in town as of Wed, and we're leaving Sat afternoon. Pray she doesn't find out about it til after we leave! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blessed2fosteradopt Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Such a lovely and uplifting post. The Holy Spirit is using you as a way to convict me. I fall so short in this area and on top of it, my DH is a non-believer. I hope you have a very special time together with your hubby! Blessings, Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted August 1, 2009 Share Posted August 1, 2009 I'm SO happy to hear this!!! I've wondered how things were going. It's TOOOOO cute that you're getting nervous about going away with hubby!!! :001_smile: Specialmama, you're a GOOD friend to be doing this for them! Any GOOD friend would want to show the couple, and thier WTM friends, the before and after pictures!!! ;) AAaaw, come on? :D Have a FANTASTIC time, and I'm praying God blesses you both tremendously! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted August 1, 2009 Share Posted August 1, 2009 Your post really blessed me today. I'm so happy to hear that things are improving. I hope you have a terrific weekend away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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