Thanks all, I think I have her stalled for now. Told her we would help find something cheaper if possible and to start second job/ get license before signing a lease.

Thank you for the link. She has learning disability, anxiety, depression but can function enough to work full time.

I’m going by what we were told in high school transition planning. At one point we were given a brochure about vocational stuff but it was for basic jobs like floor sweeping. She works full time but for minimum wage at a school for students with disabilities. my dh says she could work at one of the local factories for a lot more money but currently she lives what she does and is good at it. To get SSI there is an income limit too though, right? So if she lives with us it would be too high but maybe on her own? I don’t even know about things like food stamps if she was on her own… maybe she’d qualify for things like that. Who do you even ask for help on things like SSI?

Yes on the BC. Absolutely. At this point she doesn’t qualify for vocational rehab or SSI since she got a diploma and her IQ isn’t low enough. On paper, she looks “normal” enough that she should be able to get by. Honestly I hadn’t thought about income controlled housing at all. I will check on that, for sure. Wasn’t even on my radar. Thank you.

Definitely the lease. They already did the application. She forwarded the lease to me to print. I’m just shocked they’d rent to someone with so little income.

I dunno. I decided to call them and ask a few questions. Is there an income percent for rental amount, etc. that they go by to decide to rent to someone. I’m not sure what else to ask about. I really want to tell them that renting to her would be a mistake- they are going to lose money 😞 but it seems like a betrayal or.. something. And if she knows I interfered, next time she won’t tell me anything until the lease is signed. And it could be worse.

We talked today about medical expenses since she assumes I’ll just pay those forever. Tbh if I stop paying for her mental health meds and appts, she will stop taking them.

I could probably call this realtor/ property manager place and give them a heads up that she’s not likely to be able to pay.. but then she’ll just find another to try. And if they were to tell her that it was because of a call from me, she would probably hold it again me forever. Things are difficult enough.

She did have to sent a pay stub. But no one could think she can afford it!

The realtor already sent her the lease to sign!

Dd, 20, is intent on getting an apartment by herself that she cannot afford. She could move in with friends, but wants her own place. She’s stubborn and think she’s knows everything. “I’ll just get a second job”. She has learning disabilities and doesn’t quite grasp how much stuff costs. Just sat down to look at the numbers with her and she’ll be short a few hundred each month. Without any extra spending like fast food, clothes, make up, etc She won’t listen to me and is going to sign a lease. I’m half tempted to call the realtor and tell them she can’t afford it and they’ll get stiffed the rent eventually. At this point I think the only thing I can really do is just watch it unfold. I told her that we won’t help with the rent and neither will her grandparents. I think she just needs to learn the hard way. There are a few other issues- she doesn’t have a license yet and thinks her co workers are always going to be happy to pick her up. It’s a train wreck I can see coming 😞 ETA- she lives at home right now and does not need to move out. I get wanting to grow up but this is not going to work.

OMG!! 😂

I tried tried to like this but finally stopped listening- nothing ever happened… at least I didn’t make it that far, I guess.

well crap. I LOVE my Zumba and hip hop dance classes! BUT- almost every week I hurt my back (always same place, it’s bothered me there for like a year). I do all low impact versions of the moves. And still wind up hurt 😞 Maybe it’s just too much bending and quick movements. I really don’t want to stop going- working out with a group is so much fun & especially dancing. My other activities are walking, biking, water fitness, yoga. But nothing is a workout like the dance classes. I dunno what to do. I feel like I need tai chi or something “easy” (not available here) but I want cardio, and a group class set to music. Not for the elderly, 😂 headed to the hot tub to soak my back

I’m no help. I sorta just realized I’m miserable lately with teaching full time, still having little kids at home (& in school, always rushing) and worrying about the not quite grown adults. Add in trying to exercise and cook for everyone and it’s not good. Spent a hunk of time today looking for other jobs I could do part time.

I always recommend The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern! Read by Jim Dale of Harry Potter fame 🙂

We have to have them trapped and removed. We get a lot of skunks in our neighborhood a d they den under our deck. they started spraying the neighborhood cats and the smell comes right in our foundation into the house We tried all the tricks- nothing deters them!

I read Malibu Rising last night. Fun twaddle 🙂

Safe travels. I’m glad you’re going. 🙂

Yes to this! Our little kids museum closed whencovid started. The library is the only place to take kids for activities unless you drive a few hours. And ours is wonderful and inclusive now. We love it! 🙂 Ours does have a play house, kitchen area, train table, car garages, shelves of manipulatives, a tent, etc. I think it’s awesome. They have a great book selection too and even board games and stem kits you can check out.

My in laws who I was NOT close to came to the hospital within the hour of my oldest being born and stayed for hours. I was miserable but too young and intimidated to ask them to leave. Dh didn’t get the hint and they never left the room for me to tell him! I couldn’t even get up to deal with the blood and what not because in a gown I wasn’t going to walk around in front of them. It was bad. then they never showed interest in our kids again, weird. for the next child I put them on the hospitals”do not allow in ward” list that my midwife told me about! All that to say, don’t have her tell to to “see how she feels” unless she’s confident in her ability to stand up for herself and hold her ground. Between hormones and being overwhelmed by twins, it’s going to be tough.

You can use magna tiles on a light table too! Get the off brand ones, they’re fine.

45 minute on indoor track, 15 on bike- trying to get back into biking shape a bit before I try spin class! Fixed my phone myself though 🙂

Stupid broken pipes sprayed everywhere in dd’s room today. Not the workout I was planning on. She has the flu and has been miserable-not the best AM. stress ate carbs and did some yoga trying to calm down. Now the home button on my phone stopped working and none of the quick fixes worked. Installed an assistive touch one but it’s a huge hassle. Should help me cut down on screen time. Tomorrow can only get better, right?!

We still do the QU wedding in K here. It’s creepy, imo.