:grouphug: A lot of us with boys understand... :grouphug:

I wonder if some of the rolling app schools on the CA are just backlogged due to technical problems. At least I hope so. We are waiting here for some rolling decisions. And, I don't think acceptances show on the CA.

How wonderful! I love how sports can bring us those transcendent moments. Kudos to your dh, all the coaches and especially the players!

My kids aren't like this, but I was. The one thing that helped me was doing handwork/sewing. I wanted to do it, but I had to teach myself. No video courses back then, so there was a lot of trial and error. Lots of error. But no one saw my errors which helped with my embarrassment over not being perfect. No one is perfect at knitting/crochet/embroidery/sewing right off the bat. I have purposefully modeled my new attempts to my kids since they were little. I don't know if it helped them (only dd1 has anything close to perfectionism), but it has helped me let go of my perfectionism.

Well, I was all set to push, push, push through high school. But my son wasn't. He wanted balance and time for music and composition. He wanted to study what he wanted and work on the things that were important to him. It made for a very rocky 9th grade year. I had to let go of the things I wanted for him and concentrate on the things he wanted for himself. I did insist on a few things and I made his classes (on the subjects he chose) challenging enough for him. He would jump through a hoop for me, but only once. So, he took the SAT once, and then said, no more. When I sat down to do his transcript, it wasn't terrible. He is educated. 9th grade was a waste of time and stress for him and me. I should have followed his lead from the beginning (which I admitted to him this summer). And he has some acceptances to colleges. No Ivy or top-tier but he is happy and his siblings are thankful that he forged his own way. Follow your children's hearts and do what it takes to have a relationship with them and shepherd them to adulthood. And pray, pray, pray.

I think that being aware of what coaches are doing and saying during practice is extremely important. For every sport. My kids participate seriously in swimming, climbing, water polo, judo and rugby. Parents are welcome at every practice. I would not have my kid on a team where I could not see or hear what was going on. I know it is common on lots of swim teams to have parents banned from deck. But I also know abusive coaches who have gotten away with horrible behavior because parents never see it. And the kids become accustomed to tantrums/verbal abuse with some sorrowful results.

I loved the pictures and thought he looked like Kate. Still so happy they named him George, such a sweet, handsome baby.

8:30 pm, back home finished everything on list, except picking up downstairs. That will have to be done tomorrow! Having a beer and watching World Series instead!

Thank you from here too! I didn't think any of ds1's schools needed the Profile. Turns out 1 does. :glare: Thankfully, the due date is for Regular Decision.

My day is half over, but I still have things to do. AM practice drive-done! Dentist appointment for ds3-done Clean master bath-done check college financial aid deadlines- done (only a small bit of hyperventilating-Victory!) "encouraged" ds1 to finish scholarship application and 2 college applications by Friday-done (agreement reached!) have a healthy lunch clean kitchen make dinner plans pick up downstairs before we leave PM practice/aikido/climbing (we are gone from 3-7:40) finish novel that is due back to library

All Quiet on the Western Front A Farewell to Arms Regeneration Triology by Pat Barker, also Life Class and Toby's Room Goodbye to All That by Robert Graves (memoir) Parade's End by Ford Madox Ford (also an HBO miniseries) Also the WWI poets, Wilfred Owen, Siegfried Sassoon, Rupert Brooke Dentist appointment now, will probably think of more later!

Well, coming at this from the perspective of someone who would love for her son to show some initiative and drive, I think I would figure out how to make it work for him. If you or your son could get on the phone with admission people or department people to answer the questions about age, that could help. But I would say you could apply and if the money doesn't work out, defer or try again. But, 8FilltheHeart's question is right, if college doesn't work out next year, he would be graduated and then transfer stuff would apply. And, I think, that situation is to be avoided if you need a lot of scholarship $$. But as a dancer he might love a gap year to only dance/sing/act. Good luck!

My dad passed away a year ago from dementia/Alzheimer's. In retrospect, we should have noticed more how he was refusing to engage in any social activities. He was always sort of a loner, but it became quite extreme. He had plenty of physical activity (walking) but not enough social or mental activity. Knowing what I know now, I would have pushed harder for planned social activities when he had more capacity to enjoy them. We waited much too long to fix that problem and by that time he was incredibly rude and difficult to the caretakers. I don't know that the activities would have slowed the dementia, but I think he might have had a happier last few years. The social isolation was very hard on my mother, but she didn't advocate for a change either. :crying: Dad said he didn't want to do things with the crazy people. But he fit right in. :laugh: Maybe you could find some activities or tours where you or siblings could go with her, or a few regular outings. That might make her feel more comfortable and less singled out as a "problem."

Jean, I hope you feel better today! A.M. practice for girls-done WWE with ds3-done grade chem quiz for ds2 pay bills-ugh fix coat for ds1 go over week's goals with ds1-try not to lose temper! Science with dd2 clean out my work area clean kitchen do laundry P.M practice/aikido/climbing drive leftovers for dinner! some sort of exercise weekly meeting with dd1

My favorite, L.A. Story with Steve Martin. I bet I have seen it 20+ times.

I have always found that whoever cares the most should do the chore. So, since I am happy with sandwiches, everyday for dinner, my dh makes dinner nearly every night. But I care more about the state of bathrooms, so that is more on me. Maybe, and this is just a suggestion, you should take over laundry and give her something that is more important to her and less to you. Or give her whatever chore makes you cringe. My dd1 cleaned out the refrigerator for me in exchange for doing the kids' bathroom. Well worth it for me.

I just wanted to point out that head injuries seem to be on the radar in most youth sports here. Ds2 has to wear one of those soccer helmets in aikido. His sensei is very concerned about the cumulative effects of falling on the mat. The judo senseis are only really concerned with the big injuries. Any contact sport has the potential for injuries, big hits or cumulative hits. I agree with Bill that football poses the biggest problem and it is taking up the limelight. And, it's football season right now. Other sports might take up this conversation in the spring. For all the injuries I know about, the worst concussion story is from gymnastics, where the athlete smacked her head on the uneven bars. She was out of school nearly 3 months and out of the gym 5 months.

I love Keegan. His overview, A History of Warfare, is also good at tracking technological developments. I know it is a bit silly, but meeting some reenacters and getting your hands on replicas of weapons can bring some good insight when reading "dry" history texts. There are all sorts of military history buffs and people with collections. Helps to have a high tolerance for unusual, though...

Ages ago, I studied military history in grad school. If you want to design your own class, I would look at a few books. Some are old, but well worth the effort. Military technology goes way, way back...not just air power but chariots, stirrups, siege machines, etc. So I would start with a solid overview of military history, a textbook maybe, or a single volume history, like Theodore Ropp's War in the Modern World (it is old, but really good-only goes up to WWII). Then start with more specialty books, like The Military Revolution by Geoffrey Parker (rise of the west, 1500-1800, illustrated nicely), Technology and War by Martin Van Crevald (more argumentative, published in 1989), or Rise of American Air Power by Michael S. Sherry (1987). These are all pretty old, and just what I have on my shelf. But I think that the arguments about what constitutes technology, how it impacts both strategy and the soldier, and the effects of a technological "race" are all interesting and can be studied even in ancient accounts. Sometimes the arguments are clearer when we are not blinded by the "wow" factor of new technology. Ds2 is reading The Military Revolution now and loves it. He also reading a Tom Clancy (I am not sure which one, I think Red Storm Rising) and I think it is a good pair. HTH!

So nice to read other people's good news! Here, dd2 scored 93% on her math test-- she had to double check that it was an A, she has never gotten one before.. But, of course, I heard her tell her older sister that it was a 39. Gotta love dyslexia! :laugh: Swimmers had a good meet last weekend. Ds1 and dh drove 1300 miles safely to check out some colleges. Both were hits!

I did the same as previous posters. I listed all the classes and in the spot for credit/grade put "in progress." He will take a spring class at the cc and that class was listed as TBD with the asterisk indicating it will be taken at the cc. He's applied quite a few places and no problems (that I know of) so far!

Ds1 could have done it with some help to get the data. DD1 no (had a slow start with math--though now a sophomore on track with Pre-Calc/Trig) DS2 yes, with minimal help on the steps DD2 no (dyslexic) DS3 who is currently 9 (4th grade level), he could do the math, but would need some help working out the steps. DS3's best friend who is 9 but in 3rd grade at ps would not be able to do the division.

Congratulations!

My ds1 is a senior this year and I worried and still worry about his time management skills. I, too, read all those threads and fretted that I did him a huge disservice by not putting him in school or community college classes earlier. But he didn't want to go to school, and frankly, we didn't have the money for classes. So, I did a few things. 1. He got a job, so he had to manage some time. His days didn't stretch out. He had to leave for work every day around 3 pm. 2. All of his classes for me had deadlines. With the consequence of dropping a grade, looking foolish for his father, and losing internet access-the whole family would lose it. They all believed me. I was dead serious. 3. None of his homework had deadlines. So this meant, I didn't have to nag, prompt, cajole daily. I just asked everyday, what he accomplished, was he satisfied, and if he was on track for the final deadline. If I didn't think he was on track, I would ask if he needed anything from me, like a tutor or a class, or turning off the modem, or taking the computer away during morning hours. I found that having a written assignment due weekly led to nagging and irritation from both sides. But having four due monthly worked nicely. No chapter tests except for his own diagnostic purposes. Just a final, with one grade. He dropped a grade in two classes. Yes, he is a homeschooled student with a C on his transcript. But he learned. And he learned that he works well with big deadlines. And he is managing his cc class this semester very well. So far, I say darkly. I still worry, but I am pretty sure I will do that forever. He teases me that I will be reminding him about grad school assignments.

Hi, I am a long time lurker here and just started posting. I, too, have an 11 year-old girl (4th out of 5 kids) and I will say I never know what the day is going to bring. This year and next are going to be tear-filled and angst filled at home or at PS. I have found a few things help. First, the relationship is the priority. She has to know that you have her back and like her. Ask questions, learn her interests, pretend she is a visiting guest for a while. Second, do look into the 2e thing. Dd11 is dyslexic and some days are awful. We just have to stop and try again another time. Some days are great and I will just be grateful. Third, daily hard exercise. She will sleep better and that can help with schoolwork. Last, try to find her a group of girls her age. Dd is on a swim team and loves her gang. She hears the good and bad of middle school and has recently wanted me to give her grades so she can join in the conversations. This last thing is so important to her and has changed her attitude about life and school so much that I really recommend doing whatever you can to find her a group. HTH!