:grouphug: I was in a church once where I just didn't fit in. I did find another kindred spirit, but then a friend of hers went through a major life crisis and all her time was spent caring for her friend. I felt pretty left out and I really didn't fit in anywhere. I tried a few things, but it was pretty cliquish too. I felt pretty lonely during that time. Church was not really what I thought it should be (although I don't think it should be exclusively a social group - it is an important aspect of church community, IMHO), and I would come home crying.
I don't really have much advice because what happened to me is that it, and a few other things, spurred me to find out what happened to the early church community... and I ended up Eastern Orthodox several years later. They take community pretty serious. :)
I hope you find a friend soon.