I recently met a high school friend for a drink. He was a smart kid in school, popular, class clown, cute, everyone liked him.
It wasn't long into our conversation that he admitted that he bullied another kids in school. He told me that he thinks about it *all* the time, and often has to take sleep aids because he can't get it out of his head. He is terrified to see that kid again- terrified that the boy would not forgive him. His self-disgust has crippled his life, and he seems to be unable to hold a steady relationship.
I am sure there are other factors involved but I was too horrified and shocked to delve any deeper. On the surface he had a perfect childhood; obviously there was more going on than I saw. I have contacted my friend again, but he has not returned the contact.
So yes, I think some bullies end up with similarly tragic lives to those bullied. Perhaps it would be important to also find out *why* the bullies are bullies.
Ugh. The whole thing turns my stomach.