What happened? Nothing. I've never enjoyed it. Perhaps it is the tension and expectation and the feeling that no matter how grateful I am it's not enough like Hornblower suggests. I am gracious and thankful I just don't know why you asked if you didn't plan to honor my wishes. I have convinced my family to do a food bank donation but it seems co-op students, Sunday school students, neighbors, group members, etc all feel the need to give. It is overwhelming. I don't want to be churlish I just don't want to then feel bombarded with stuff and also know that in many cases it is expected that I will reciprocate ( I am a terrible gift chooser too. I usually give homemade stuff or cards containing nice thought).