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  1. Farr I really understand what you are saying but dd normally does say hi to her, all the time but not a full stop everything greeting every time they see each other. She does the same thing to dd but it does not phase dd. She knows folks are sometimes focused on something else so it is no big deal. They also share many of the same interests which they are normally talking about, sharing video all that teen stuff. The book was just something dd was not into and the girl kept insisting that dd look through it even though she knew we did not want to see it. Dd did talk to them if they asked her a question and she was not upset they were talking about the book, it was just not her thing. There was a group of 6-8 girls sitting at the table, all freinds so there were various cobversations going on. The only person who has an issue with dd is this girl who is supposed to be one of her best friends. Dd is also the type of person who can make friends anyplace. Most people find her very caring and sweet. Her one other friend jokes saying they are going to start a fan club for her. This is why it is so frustrating. Dd has really been focused on this friendship for over a year and it really has overshadowed other friendships. Dd is getting to the point where she is afraid to say or do anything because this girl will misinterpret it and then get mad at her. I have been working with dd to ask this girl exactly what is wrong. Unfortunately she usually will say things like you know what is wrong ( um no that is why she is asking) or brings up obscure things that happened weeks or months ago. It is just so frustrating. I know we is not always correct and sometimes can be moody . Normally if that happens she will go back a few days later and apologize if she realizes it. No one is perfect and I tell dd she has to take responsibility when she does screw up but it feels like she cannot do anything right when it comes to this girl.
  2. Thank you everyone. I was really upset last night about all of this. Dd is having a birthday party and I had received an email from the mom (who is supposed to be one of my friends) stating that her girls ( this girl has a sister that dd is also friends with) saying they could not come to the party. There was no explanation either where she would usually give me one or call me if there was a conflict. Right when the incident I mentioned happened dd had been invited to sleepover at their house but that was called off without a reason too. I was very hurt that the mom did not even call me. This morning I found out something that happened yesterday at our co-op. Right now only certain classes are going on so dd needs to only be there for one period, unfortunately I need to be there a different period so zi make her bring school work to do. Well this girl is only there for the first period. Dd was headed to the bathroom and passed by her and briefly nodded at her ( she was in a hurry). After she got out of the bathroom she looked briefly for the girl and then went back to getting her work done. Well I guess this girl was mad because we did not look for her hard enough. She said she basically stalked her to see the effort dd put in to finding her. Are you serious? DD had things to do. She had not been ignoring her ( which is what the girl accused her of). I do know this girl has some self esteem problems ( dd has some too but I think hers are just normal teen age uncertainty). She has had some major health issues which I think she may be using to her advantage, I do not know. I would hate to think so, I really have liked this girl and her whole family but it is getting too crazy. I am thankful that dd does have some other friends who are coming to her party. I am definitely going to have her actively peruse those friendships.
  3. Hi all I need some advice her. My daughter has a really good friend who she has had several misunderstandings with over the past couple of years. Sometimes I know my daughter has said somethings that this girl has interpreted wrong and has probably said somethings in frustration to this girl but not in an intentionally insulting or hurtful way. No child or person is perfect. The thing is this girl gets mad at my daughter for a ton of things and most of the time my daughter has no idea what she has done and why this girl is suddenly giving her the cold shoulder or ignoring her. One of the latest things happened at co-op during lunch. The girls were sitting at a table with a few other teen girls they normally eat with. This girl was looking at book with one of the other girls and they tried to get my dd in the conversation but she said she had no interest in the book. They went on talking and dd just sat and started to eat her lunch. When the girls were done this girl tried talking with dd but dd was in the middle of actually eating so she was not fully engaging in the conversation but she was responding. The next period the two girls were in different classes. Dd was in a class with the girl her "friend" had been talking to. After class they were engaged in a conversation and headed to the next class which all 3 girls were in. Dd and this other girl went to sit down and continue their conversation before class started. Her "friend" was sitting at a different side of the table and gave dd a stern look and then pointed at the seat next to her so dd went to sit there. Now after all this the girl is saying that dd has been ignoring her. Dd has been trying to talk to her via hangouts (their normal communication method) but the girl has only briefly responded. The thing is that this girl does not say anything when something upsets her and then it blows up to a big thing and dd does not even know what is wrong. Over the past year or two my daughter has really spent more time with this girl and has not done spent a whole lot of time with her other friends. It has become so draining I do not know what to tell dd. Anyone have any advice that I can give my dd in this situation.
  4. We used to have one (it broke and we have not replaced it, but I want to) and it did work on carpet with cat hair. It also worked really well on picking up the Cheerios that our toddler left all over the living room ?
  5. We just got a Kitchenaid last year. It is the BEST dishwasher we have ever had. The dishes are spotless (always had issues with our old GE). This dishwasher is also so quiet you barely even notice that it is working. My sister has a Bosch and that is what she recommended to us but due to the height of the space the Bosch was 1/4" to tall at its lowest height.
  6. Five In a Row is a great foundation for a co-op class targeting those ages. Our co-op has done that several times.
  7. As a former Catholic and now Methodist (both are Christian from my perspective) the issue I have would be the use of BJU and how the teachers use it. BJU can have a decidedly anti Roman Catholicism view. I have used BJU in the past for history but I have had to modify some lessons and really speak to their view point. I would talk to the administrators at the school and see how they would handle that. There are some Christian Churches that are decidedly anti RC and if this school is affiliated to something like that then it would be a no.
  8. 5 Crowns is a big one over here. Qwixx is also another good one.
  9. Check out your local 4h program. most cities have them and even have horse programs in them. 4h has some great horse curriculum. You could also look at joining a 4h group and doing the horse bowl and/or the hippology contests. If you are not familiar with them Horse Bowl is an academic quiz competition where the kids answer questions about horses. Hippology contests are also done as teams but for the most part the only thing the team works together on the the team problem (they are given a horse problem/situation and then have to present the issue and solution/treatment to the judges as a team. It is not a big research thing they work together for about 10-15 minutes discussing it and coming up with an order to present it). The other parts of the hippology contest include horse judging, stations, written test, and slides. We have not been able to afford riding lessons for dd but she has been doing the 4h stuff for the past 4 years. She went to states once for horse bowl and has been to states 3 times for hippology. Dd also goes to a camp in the summer where they do trail rides each day and then this year she was able to get into a group through our 4h that showed mini horses.
  10. Yes you would skip the Geometry book. You can put Integrated Algebra 1 on your transcript. Integrated programs have the geometry through out the courses and colleges should recognize that. You really should not have him doing just the odd or even problems. The program is designed for the kids to do all the problems to get the proper reinforcement of the material. How long does it take him to do a lesson. It normally takes dd 1.5-2 hours to do one lesson. If it is taking your child longer then maybe you need to spread one lesson out over two days. You may not make it through the Calculus book at that rate but there would be a solid foundation for Calculus in college.
  11. Which version of Saxon 1 did you do? if it was 2nd or 3rd you would move on to Algebra 2 if it was the 4th edition you need to add in the Geometry. For literature you might just look at doing several literature guides with him. Novel Units and Progeny Press are both very good literature guides. You will find more a selection with Novel Units. The nice thing about doing the Lit Guides is you can allow him to choose the books or choose books that you think will interest him. October Sky is one we did with sd (Novel Units) and then we watched the movie. Another option for English might be Movies as Literature. We did that for sd's senior year and it was a lot of fun.
  12. We love our Kitchen Aid. The 5 qt Artisan should be fine for the average family. I have a cover for mine and the nice thing is it has a pocket on the outside where I keep the different beaters, dough hook and whisk. As for attachments I like the pasta roller and we have one of the food grinders (I think with the vegetable strainer) that I have used in the past for canning (we have not done that in a few years). I would love to get the pasta cutter and the ice cream maker too. Oh another good thing to get is the pouring shield. It is great in helping to prevent getting flour all over the place or things splashing out of the mixer.
  13. We have ordered full exhaust systems from Amazon Prime. I felt bad for the guy delivering but it sure made our life easier. You can get just about anything from Amazon Prime. We always check local and then check Amazon to see if it is a better deal.
  14. You may want to ask what the levels are. If you are in the upper range of normal you could still be having thyroid issues. When I was first diagnosed with hypothyroidism my levels were in the "normal" range but due my symptoms and a family history my doctor decided to try me on meds. Within a week I was noticing a major difference. The doctor just upped my meds because my levels where creeping up wards, still in the normal range for others but not for me.
  15. It is definitely worth it for us. We order just about everything from Amazon including car parts. The amount dh has saved in shipping for those parts (and the ease of getting them) has made it worth it to us. The two day shipping has a spoiled too. We occasionally use the Prime Video but to us that is just a bonus and not our main reason for keeping it.
  16. Rise of Augusts and Five Crowns are favorites over here.
  17. We have not been on a big family vacation since we got married 17 years ago (dh had a 9 year old so instant kids in the family). I too have been jealous of friends trips and wondered how they did it. Some go into debt for it, some have them gifted by family members while others are really good at saving. We are going on a trip this year which was made possible by an inheritance I received. If you are really interested in doing a vacation what you may want to do is price out where you want to go. Look for all the different options (airbnb instead of hotel, driving vs flying...). Looks for the deals. If you are interesting in something like Disney look for their free dining days or other special deals. Check for places that have specials or time it around homeschool days. I know Colonial Williamsburg does a few days to a week with discounted admission for homeschoolers. If you belong to a museum or zoo check to see where there may be reciprocal admissions. Get yourself a reasonable budget for it and then make a dedicated savings for it. One family I know takes all their change or loose money out of their pockets/purse every week and put it into a special savings for a vacation. Others take back soda/water bottles and put that money into a savings. I know one family that has a small amount in their budget set aside for vacation. Maybe ask for money towards a vacation for Christmas and Birthday instead of gifts. It may take a while to save it but if can be nice to watch that savings grow.
  18. I have had good luck with Ford vehicles. We just semi retired my 1998 Ford Escort. I know my sister and her had a Focus they really liked. The nice thing to was that the parts were easy to get when dh had to do repairs (repairs on the Escort were minimal for the age of it). Toyotas and Hondas are fairly reliable too. Our Toyota has over 200,000 miles on it but it does need some work ?
  19. I use a template that I made up, I do one for each piece of curriculum or sometimes subject (mainly curriculum though). It is laid out for 5 days a week although I usually only plan for 4 (some things I might plan out for only 2 days a week -I did that with art quite a bit). The first thing I do is decide how much of that piece of curriculum I want to do for the year. Dd is now in high school so for something like grammar I may use one book for 2-3 years as review but something like Math I want to get through the entire book. I then print out the sheet and then plan out what I need to do. I usually aim for 4 days over 30-32 weeks although somethings like Math may go longer. I keep all those sheets in a binder and then each week I check off what we have done and then fill out a weekly plan sheet for the upcoming week. Doing it this way gives be a big picture for the actually curriculum but allows me flexibility to adjust what we do each day based on what is going on. So for some subjects we might be on week 20 day 2 but another we would be on week 19 day 3 and so on. I attached the files of the templates I use in case you are interested. School Year blank 02.docx Weekly Planning Form.docx
  20. My niece went there. It was an excellent school and has a top notch mock trial program (she was very into mock trial). My niece was in the upper middle class but I would not call her preppy. She did have a car in high school but it was an old beater and she had to contribute for it (and then drive her sister around as part of the deal). She did do the whole greek thing. I think the school is like any other large university, you just need to search to find your tribe.
  21. I always suggest that high schoolers do a consumer math class in 12th grade even if they are taking a stronger math class too. The practical aspect of consumer math is something that many high schoolers especially those who are strong in the STEM areas are lacking when they get to college.
  22. I like the way BJU is written better that Abeka. Their questions sort of bridge a gap between Abeka and something like Notgrass. I would say that there is a little more critical thinking in BJU than Abeka but that is not the focus as in something like Notgrass.
  23. Even without doing tests and quizzes in History you have a lot of writing for that. As a History major in college I did not do that much writing even in my non test classes. If you are looking to make sure she read the material a couple of short paragraphs a week would be all that you really need. As I said it would probably be better to do a couple of longer and more in depth essays over the course of a semester. You could have her do some of the document based essays. This is a good source for them https://www.amazon.com/Document-Based-Assessment-Global-History-Theresa/dp/0825163374/ref=pd_sim_14_3?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0825163374&pd_rd_r=P563ZXYDA6KEPSZ8Y4KP&pd_rd_w=6XqL2&pd_rd_wg=qhw1e&psc=1&refRID=P563ZXYDA6KEPSZ8Y4KP The other thing is to remember you can always adjust what she is doing as you go along. If it is too much cut somethings out, if it is not enough add some in.
  24. I would say two short essays for History is a little much in a week. We did not even do that in college. Maybe 2 longer "test" essays across the semester and then one paper would be more consistent with a typical college class if that is what you are trying to get her used to. I would not bother with timeline work unless she likes them or is a visual learner. For literature why are you doing a World History text? I would just do 4 pieces of literature a year. I normally tie mine to my history and add in a Shakespeare play. You can just get some literature guides to go along with the books. That along with the writing would make a full English class. For dd this past year we did the following and it seemed to work well: Math : Saxon Advanced /Calculus English: The Odyssey, The Iliad, Julius Caesar, Selections from Canterbury Tales, IEW Research Paper Intermediate, Jensen's Vocabulary, Easy Grammar Ultimate series History: Global Studies course with sections from BJU Geography, BJU World History and a college text book. Supplemented with the occasional document based question (one per quarter or so) French: Switched on School House 1 College and Careers: 1 semester course using Switched on School house and supplemented with career research and college research Logic: Argument Builder Science: Apologia Biology with labs Music: 1 hour lesson 1x a week and 45 minutes a day along with 2 hrs Sat. orchestra rehersal
  25. That is exactly what I needed. I did buy a test prep book so we have that for practice but I was really unsure of where I needed to get to in the Saxon book at a minimum for her to do the test. Not sure if I am going to bother turning in the syllabus so I can list it as AP, I just might put it down as Honors Calculus. It depends on how energetic I feel. lol
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