teeterbunch Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 My husband says to stop badgering my 16-year old son about getting his work turned in, and just give him a 0. Does anyone do this to motivate your child to accomplish what's on the schedule for that day? Ashley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 Could teach a good lesson, since colleges often do this; on the other hand it could backfire and discourage him from trying. Do you think he is easily discouraged, or is he motivated by consequences and grades? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RootAnn Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 Would it motivate him? Is he motivated by grades? If he doesn't care, it isn't going to make a difference. Would you normally grade for these things? (Papers, for example, would normally get grades at my house - but only final copies. Daily work in math, on the other hand, isn't graded.) Getting him to do the work every day is a harder problem to fix, IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teeterbunch Posted April 4, 2015 Author Share Posted April 4, 2015 This is for daily assignments. It would basically be 100 or 0. He is motivated by grades, but is also easily discouraged. My fear is that the zeros would accumulate and then there would be no reason to try. Any other suggestions? Ashley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 How much of his grade are the daily assignments worth? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teeterbunch Posted April 4, 2015 Author Share Posted April 4, 2015 It varies, but for math it would be 30% of his grade. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverMoon Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 That would really depend on the kid. Mine have been homeschooled all their lives and a 0 wouldn't mean much to them. My oldest in particular would not be motivated one scrap to work better or quicker by one. He would just raise his eyebrows as if to say, "So what?" :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RootAnn Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I have a friend who removes privileges when work is not done by the end of the week (on a weekly schedule). Another simply requires her kids to work over the weekends. One offers to drive her daughter to the local fast food joint so she can apply for a job there if she isn't going to do her work... With the idea being that her daughter is making her own future with her choices. At some point, the kids have to start motivating themselves. Have you sat down & asked why you have to keep nagging him to get his work done? Specifically? Does he do this for all his subjects or just particular ones? If it is mostly math, is it too difficult? Does he hate the program you are using? Or, is it just a hard subject for him & he doesn't want to work at it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 That wouldn't be motivating for me, though I did need to learn that sometimes late means not done, ever. I think it would be good to separate motivational strategies from learning about the value of late work (some things aren't better late than never, actually at some point late is the same as never). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie of KY Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 It wouldn't motivate my kids. What's the actual consequence of being late? Ultimately, a bad grade hurts his college application, but doesn't teach my kids about being on time, etc.They've needed some hand-holding to structure the studying to be able to meet deadlines. If it's a problem of being disobedient or wasting time, then the consequences are losing computer, tv, activities, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 I would help give my kid the tools they need to get work done in a timely fashion (show them how to use a planner, not overload them, help them with time management), but then I pull privileges when my kids don't meet expectations because of dawdling or goofing off. I would hesitate to give zeros and permanently leave that mark on a high school record. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 Can I add, it is refreshing to hear about a team of parents homeschooling? So often it seems to be one person's job. I have no doubt that having both of you, even disagreeing, is a really positive thing for your kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 Can I add, it is refreshing to hear about a team of parents homeschooling? So often it seems to be one person's job. I have no doubt that having both of you, even disagreeing, is a really positive thing for your kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G5052 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 I've never done that. I have taken away computer privileges and time with friends on weekends. That does it. Every time! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom22ns Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 This is for daily assignments. It would basically be 100 or 0. He is motivated by grades, but is also easily discouraged. My fear is that the zeros would accumulate and then there would be no reason to try. Any other suggestions? Ashley I don't grade assignments. We check them, but no grades are recorded. My dd has often said she wished she was allowed to fail rather than having to do everything to my standards :huh: . She wants good grades, but not enough to be motivated by it on a daily basis. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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