Tanaqui Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 *hugs* They're horrible people, and I'm sorry to say that your only consolation is that they have to live in their own little heads all the time. You can move away from them, but they can't move away from themselves. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 That is truly sick. I am sorry for your continued heartache caused by these people. I am also sorry that your dad didn't stand up for you. That's got to be a whole 'nother sort of hurt. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 That's awful that they made you move. At least you aren't next door to them anymore tho. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 (edited) I'm truly glad that it will be easier to distance yourself from these people. They sound absolutely toxic and cutting contact 100% is the right thing to do. Edited November 7, 2016 by WoolySocks 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shawthorne44 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 I wonder if they will actually pay rent to your dad? Considering their entitlement I doubt they will pay more than a couple of token payments. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeachyDoodle Posted November 7, 2016 Author Share Posted November 7, 2016 That is truly sick. I am sorry for your continued heartache caused by these people. I am also sorry that your dad didn't stand up for you. That's got to be a whole 'nother sort of hurt. Yeah, it kinda is. I think he feels bad about it. And I think, in his way, he was trying to protect us by getting us out. I suspect that there were threats or other meanness said behind our backs that he's not telling us about. My parents have gone out of their way to try to make things as easy as possible on us. They initially wanted us to move into their house (back in April, when he made this decision that we should get out) until we were ready to build (next spring, we'd hoped). But we didn't want to move twice, so we found a house and decided to buy. It wasn't their fault that deal fell through. Not ours either. That was another complete mess; we seem to attract those these days. I know the situation with us living at my grandmother's was miserable for him too. They (aunt, cousin, cousin's wife) would show up at his house in the middle of the night demanding that we move, etc. It has been a total disaster. But partly he is to blame for letting them get away with this bs for so long. I think he knows that, but I don't understand why he doesn't just cut them off. He's never been close to his sister (go figure). I wonder if they will actually pay rent to your dad? Considering their entitlement I doubt they will pay more than a couple of token payments. They bought the house -- at a ridiculously low price, because my aunt of course gifted them her half. They put up a big fight on the price, but my dad did get what was coming to him out of it. So there's that. This is the reason he wanted us to move -- so he could be finished with dealing with them. This was the last remaining piece of the estate. Not that he will cut her off personally but at least he isn't forced to deal with her making decisions, etc. Dad was the executor of the estate, so in the end, she really had little say, unless she wanted to take him to court. But he tried to play fair until the end. You just can't play fair with people like this. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 I found myself wondering why your dad didn't force a sale; your post above clarifies that he did part with the house. That's a good thing. I do hope it's possible for you (and your folks) to move on with them not part of your daily lives. I'm sure some contact is inevitable but at least now there is probably a nearer chance of reducing interactions with them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 :grouphug: I hope the coming days bring peace for your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 That's horrible and I'm stunned. I'm so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted November 8, 2016 Share Posted November 8, 2016 Oh. My. Word! What horrible, bizarre people!!! ((((hugs)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted November 8, 2016 Share Posted November 8, 2016 Wow. Just wow. Sometimes family can be such pieces of shit. I only recently learned that one. Sounds like it's old news to you. I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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