jacqui in mo Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 If you haven't seen my op yesterday, my dad died June 29. I sorta know the stages of grief but I don't think my dh does & he's not sure how to help me deal with this. I was kinda a basket case this morning. I didn't realize how hard it was leaving my mom all alone yesterday after spending a week & a half at my childhood home helping her. I was so busy there supporting my mom & helping in any way I could, that I thought I was dealing well with my grief, but it really hit me this morning. My poor dh acts as if it's his fault I'm crying & feels badly & tries to cheer me up. Is there anything that would be helpful for him to read? I have a very hard time being transparent about my feelings. I need clues for dealing with my kids (6, 9, 13) too. Yesterday my 9 yo was being pretty stubborn about not helping out when I asked him as we were preparing to leave my mom's home. (we live 3 1/2 hours away) My mom sensed that he wasn't just being ornery, but was in fact having a hard time dealing with leaving. I didn't see it in my busyness to get as much done for mom as possible. My mom was able to talk with him & they both had a good cry. I was sorry I missed this type of clue. I'm feeling better this evening than I did this morning, but now I'm wondering if I'm going to have such a hard time in the morning again. It was really hard getting myself going today... Very hard to be the wife I'm supposed to be. Thanks for listening if you got this far. I appreciate the virtual support. Jacqui Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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