smilesonly Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 i'm so shocked by the stats on boys viewing p$rn!! a 1st time viewing occurs on AVERAGE at age 11!! 80some% between the ages of 8 and 16 view it regularly while doing schoolwork. i know we can't protect our kids all the time. they have access to trash at the library(seen it!), friend's houses, extended-families houses-and the sidewalk via smart phones and ipods. so, wanting to narrow the opportunities, we are installing a filter. net nanny looks good, as does safe eyes. what says the hive? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHomeScientist Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 I wouldn't bother installing anything. Any self-respecting teenage boy can figure out how to bypass such filters. If one of his friends doesn't teach him how to do it, he can find detailed instructions on the Internet. The filter is likely to cause you a lot more problems than it causes him. Kids also keep "best of" collections of porn that they trade on discs or thumb drives, which filters don't do anything to stop. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AimeeM Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 Eh. We didn't put any filters on the comps. There are adults in this house who should feel free to view anything they wish, without having to bypass a filter; and really, children are so comp savvy these days they're pretty pointless. Most children, with the desire to access forbidden sites, can figure out how to bypass those filters. Better to trust your child's personality and go from there. Autumn received a horrible, violent porn link hidden in a smiley face in a benign looking e-mail from a name she recognized; clicked on it and came running, crying. She's 10. Her personality is such that porn offends her. If she had a different personality, we would watch her more closely; but as it is, she takes personally explicit scenes and inappropriate language to the point of covering her own ears during movies and asking me to change a radio station because a song is "inappropriate". I will note that she has her own computer in her bedroom and we often watch shows like Criminal Minds, House, and Bones with her; so she isn't exactly sheltered in what she views. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaz Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 We like Safe Eyes. We have one setting for the adult log-in and one for the kids. The filters have worked really well. I understand that kids can find p*rn through many different ways if they are looking for it. I'm trying to prevent my kids from accidentally coming across it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolphin Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 We have mobli clip on ds's itouch. We also used a site that walked us through how to make it as secure as possible. So far he hasn't figured out away around it. We are moving our family computer to the kitchen with the screen pointing into the room next year (double digits) I figure that will work better than most filters. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 It's called "Mom and Dad" -- ha ha. :) We keep our computer in the dining room where we are all the time. Also, our kids up to a certain age were only allowed on the internet with a partner (meaning an adult or older sibling). Only our kids 21 and over have a device that would let them access the internet outside of the home, such as an iPod touch or Blackberry. I know it's not the answer you were looking for... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 We use K9 Web Protection. It doesn't cause any problems for us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmyontheFarm Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 We use bsecure. We have it installed on all the computers and teen's ipods. I can customize the setting for each age level. Very strict for the under 10 crowd up to the wide open setting for adults. Interesting my teen girls have been ok with stricter settings because they were tired of their friends coming over and wanting to search things on the internet that the friend couldn't search at home. This is partially because we allow them to take their laptops to their rooms. But the bsecure has also protected them at school when they've taken their laptops to the school, again friends couldn't access questionable videos on their laptops because of the program. That being said, when a child comes to me and asks about adding permission to a specific site, we look it over and usually it can be allowed. If it isn't allowed it's the teen's choice because one is an adult and the other is just on the edge of crossing over to adulthood. The teens understand that these precautions are in place to protect their younger siblings. Now they know the password to my desktop computer which is located between the kitchen and the living room and is basically at a wide open setting with bsecure, they can access anything they want on the web at any time on that centrally located computer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue G in PA Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 We also use K-9...after finding out that one of those 11yo boys (our own) had viewed internet p*rn on several occasions. While he "may" figure out other ways to do so other than the internet...I'd rather have this be one less avenue. KWIM? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted January 15, 2012 Share Posted January 15, 2012 It's called "Mom and Dad" -- ha ha. :) We keep our computer in the dining room where we are all the time. Also, our kids up to a certain age were only allowed on the internet with a partner (meaning an adult or older sibling). Only our kids 21 and over have a device that would let them access the internet outside of the home, such as an iPod touch or Blackberry. I know it's not the answer you were looking for... With all due respect, I once opened the blog of a religious organization and on the middle of a page about a new book, there was a pornographic photo that was quite revolting. I suspect their site was hacked or something. I have no idea how one would avoid such a thing. I also was a witness to a junior high school group using the library with their tutor when pornographic pop ups appeared. The children didn't do anything wrong. I've also gotten pornographic search results for really tame searches, to the point that I finally turned on safe search on Google, which I never anticipated wanting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 16, 2012 Share Posted January 16, 2012 I'm trying to prevent my kids from accidentally coming across it. I was thinking the same thing. If a kid goes looking for it, that's one thing, but coming across it by accident is something entirely different, and is something I would like to prevent from happening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbara H Posted January 16, 2012 Share Posted January 16, 2012 Some kids act impulsively to break rules because they don't think through the consequences of their action. For this type of situation, having software and clear limits may act as a deterrence. Yes, a really motivated computer savvy child may be able figure out a way to get around limits, but that doesn't mean they have no value. They can act to protect accidental exposure and they may also serve to provide some safety to kids who are impulsive and they can also be a place to begin a conversation with your kids about Internet safety. There is also the option of a keystroke recorder as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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