amo_mea_filiis. Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 My neighbor is trying to cause trouble for us. This is the neighbor/homeowner of the house we were going to rent (he is trying to say *I* defaulted on the lease and wants to sue me for $1900). He called children and youth to report "yelling" which doesn't do anything because we already have a caseworker (therapy services for ds). I don't let things really get to me, and this isn't too much. I could let it go with no problems and do nothing about any of his tactics. Or I could start reporting things he does. The one that comes to mind is burning. Burning is not allowed in our borough. I'm tempted to report him the next time he's burning his trash. He'll get a fine. WWYD? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 Would you/do you report other people who burn? If so, then report him, and don't think of it as retaliating. If not...well, it hurts your own soul more when you feel this way than it will hurt him to be reported, KWIM? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WishboneDawn Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 Honestly, not with your motivation. Retaliation is an ugly business and you've got a family to think of. It's a little much to start a war with the neighbour on top of everything else, don't you think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amo_mea_filiis. Posted September 2, 2011 Author Share Posted September 2, 2011 No one else on our block burns anything. I was leaning towards just ignoring anything. CPS/children and youth means nothing for us. I'm not doing anything wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mynyel Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 If he is constantly doing things to you then I would keep a log. Date, time and what happened. Then if it continues for a time or gets worse then contact the authorities. Do not do anything yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meggie Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 I would probably just let it go. Make a well documented case for your side in the housing issue and let the rest slide. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Maybe I'm petty, but if someone reported me to family services you better believe I'd retaliate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Aren't you now eligible to move to other housing? How long is the waiting list. I would think positive thoughts about moving. (And I would document anything you can about the lease and all the hassle you had from him.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amo_mea_filiis. Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 We could move, but I think I want to stay here another year and then the housing voucher is mine and we can move anywhere. Besides, moving 2 rooms was enough and I don't want to do that again! LOL. I'll just keep a log of everything he does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Would you/do you report other people who burn? If so, then report him, and don't think of it as retaliating. If not...well, it hurts your own soul more when you feel this way than it will hurt him to be reported, KWIM? :iagree: (However, I would personally report my own family for burning right now since it is bone dry where I live. :tongue_smilie:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I would keep a detailed log of all the things he says/does towards your family. How do you know it was him that reported you to CPS? They are not supposed to reveal who did. Yes the timing indicates it was him but there is no way to know 100% it was him. I would not retaliate, that just ups the ante and he will push back harder. Instead document, document, document. If he says anything threatening, call the police. If he keeps pushing the issue with the lease, tell him to speak to your lawyer. There was no lease signed and the home was not ready. Did you take photos like others here suggested to cover your behind? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Other. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Ignore it for now, retaliate (better) later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 If he is constantly doing things to you then I would keep a log. Date, time and what happened. Then if it continues for a time or gets worse then contact the authorities. Do not do anything yourself. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Other. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Ignore it for now, retaliate (better) later. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amo_mea_filiis. Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 I would keep a detailed log of all the things he says/does towards your family. How do you know it was him that reported you to CPS? They are not supposed to reveal who did. Yes the timing indicates it was him but there is no way to know 100% it was him. I would not retaliate, that just ups the ante and he will push back harder. Instead document, document, document. If he says anything threatening, call the police. If he keeps pushing the issue with the lease, tell him to speak to your lawyer. There was no lease signed and the home was not ready. Did you take photos like others here suggested to cover your behind? She didn't tell me who is was, but the report was screaming in the house. Anyone else would have come over and told us to shut up! LOL. I took a few pictures to show the house wasn't ready. I did sign a lease, but it was never signed by my father who was named as the guarentor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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