m0mmaBuck Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 DS's party is tomorrow and DD's is next Sunday. I have not received an RSVP for either part so I have no idea who is coming to either one. I remember this same thing happened for their party last year (we did a combined party) and about 14 kids ended up attending. Is the etiquette of an RSVP a thing of the past? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alenee Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 For some I think it's a forgotten etiquette however I think for most, it's more a matter of being busy. I've found it helps if I follow up with a phone call. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 I still do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m0mmaBuck Posted February 20, 2011 Author Share Posted February 20, 2011 I still do. Me too! I guess that's probably why it frustrates me that other people don't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plain jane Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 I still do. Me too. Do we count? :D FWIW, I've not noticed this trend in my circle of friends/acquaintances so far- everybody still sends some form of RSVP. Of course, now that I post this, it could very well all change. :rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m0mmaBuck Posted February 20, 2011 Author Share Posted February 20, 2011 Me too. Do we count? :D FWIW, I've not noticed this trend in my circle of friends/acquaintances so far- everybody still sends some form of RSVP. Of course, now that I post this, it could very well all change. :rolleyes: Hmmmm... Come to think of it I did get ONE RSVP for DD's party.... from the mom who is actually my friend. The other party invitees are children that are friends of DS's or DD's but their parents aren't necessarily my friends. They are good kids and the parents seem like decent people but we run in different circles. I wonder if MY friends would RSVP.:glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 I still RSVP but I rarely have anyone RSVP for things I am doing. It makes it very frustrating when trying to plan food, party favors, etc...Usually the people least likely to RSVP are my family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danybug Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 I am always frustrated when it comes to my kids birthday parties, because we do not get RSVP's either. I usually end up calling/emailing people right before to get a head count. I think it is rude because how are you suppose to get an idea for food, etc. Any function I plan for church always ends up the same way. People are just to busy with too much on their minds, but still. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 Huge pet peeve of mine. Unless the RSVP states: Regrets Only you need to RSVP. It is simply rude not to. That said, we all have the occasional brain freeze. I have had my turn at getting caught up in life and forgetting. It is the habitual person who forgets that drives me crazy. Some people just don't get it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1GirlTwinBoys Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 I think it's rude when people don't have the courtesy to even respond. It's hard to try and plan food etc... for a lot of people and have no idea how many are even coming. Apparently sending thank you notes is also a thing of the past. :glare: My children sign or write their own thank you notes but NEVER have received any from their friends after giving them a gift. I'm really shocked by this. Guess I'm just "old school" and think politeness and courtesy should never be outdated.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blakereese Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 This bothers me, too. The last few birthday parties we have had, I have had to call/email parents several times to hear if they are coming. It is just awkward. I don't mind with my friends, but I hate trying to chase down the parents I do not know as well. I know people get busy and forget, but when 1 person out of 10 RSVPs and they all end up coming, it is a problem. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m0mmaBuck Posted February 20, 2011 Author Share Posted February 20, 2011 I guess it has become the "norm" all over then. DS only invited 7 kids to his party today (bowling) and I have no idea who, if anyone is coming. Of course now it's Sunday morning and all of his friends' families go to Church so by the time it's 9:00 (in my mind, an OK time to call) many of them will be gone already. I guess we will see when we get there. I hope it's not just the family. That would be so sad for DS. I do have time to call RE: DD's party next week. 3 of the kids she invited are from the same family so I want to make sure they are coming! RE: thank you notes, I make the kids write and send them. Some people feel like a goody bag does the job but that is just not the way I was raised. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 I have six boys in my yard right now who all responded to our invitation. No one was a surprise. The one who couldn't come also let us know. The key was that the invitation went out by email as well as on paper. Parents could just hit reply and let us know. If I can RSVP by email, it makes my life so much easier. I can do it when I get back from my morning run while the rest of the world is still asleep. I don't have to worry about inconveniencing someone with an improperly timed phone call. And my kids send thank you notes and we always get them from my kids' friends. Maybe it is a location thing? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m0mmaBuck Posted February 20, 2011 Author Share Posted February 20, 2011 I put my phone number and my email on the invitations so I don't think method of response was the case. It could be our location. The Pacific NW is pretty lax on most things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 The key was that the invitation went out by email as well as on paper. Parents could just hit reply and let us know. I've been doing this for years and I still end up chasing people down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 E-mail invitations do make it easier; I just reply right away or keep it in my inbox until I know if we can make it or not, and then I add it to my google calendar. But even with written or phoned invitations, I still RSVP -- it's rude not to do so (unless it says "regrets only"). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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