Hathersage Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 Ever have one of those days, where you just can't stop crying??? And I have no friends to call. Oh this is going to be a challenging day to get though. I'm sad and I need some friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ferdie Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug:I am so sorry. :grouphug::grouphug: We are here if you need to vent or discuss, (as long it is not political). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 Sometimes it seems like the entire weight of humanity is bearing down on my tear ducts. I'm with you sister ;) Heck, I'm tempted to ask or give a # for some commiseration. People and everything just really stink sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OH_Homeschooler Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 I've been there before and I'll be there again. Usually I prefer to be alone on those days, but I do what Oprah calls the ugly cry and I do not want to be seen. Why not go with it and watch some tearjerkers? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry! Yes, I have one of those days every now and then. It will get better. Take a nice cool shower, splash with some nice cologne, eat a healthy snack, and prop your feet up for a rest or a fun magazine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 Lol, or you could bury yourself in a pile of blankets, drink too much coffee and read read read.... that's what I do :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hathersage Posted June 12, 2009 Author Share Posted June 12, 2009 Well, its not political and its not about the spouse. I'm just dealing with hurt feelings, illness that is interferring with my ability to be the best mom I can be, and well, not knowing how to get the help I need. But I've isolated myself, and now I have nearly no one to talk about it with... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 :grouphug: I'm having one of those days too. :crying: Maybe we could have a good cry together. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 Well, its not political and its not about the spouse. I'm just dealing with hurt feelings, illness that is interferring with my ability to be the best mom I can be, and well, not knowing how to get the help I need. But I've isolated myself, and now I have nearly no one to talk about it with... Sometimes you just have to purge. Even if it has nothing to do with politics or the spouse ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Chris in VA Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 You just callllll out my naaaaammme, and you know, whereva you are We'll come runnin' to give you support Classical, Charlotte or Un... Sweetie we're lotsa fun And we hear you, Yes we do You've got a Hive:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kfamily Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 I have these days sometimes too.:grouphug: Sometimes these are the days when you should throw out routine and do something...anything different. Sometimes I take the girls out for ice cream, or we go to the park if its a nice day, or if I have to stay home then I indulge with a movie, take-out instead of cooking, etc. Sometimes it is enough just to sit and hug and cuddle the girls for awhile. Hope your day gets better!:001_smile: Chris, I like your song! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hathersage Posted June 12, 2009 Author Share Posted June 12, 2009 I feel like i've been throwing out the routine for months now. I need a schedule, but I'm sooo unmotivated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I hope you feel better soon! Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 clean out your coffee pot. It's easy and effective, you can see a difference... either that or dust the top of the refrigerator. Either way, you get something that needed to be done, done, quickly, with immediate results. Oh, or you could wash the car. Those kinds of things. They make me feel moderately better when the dumps have lasted beyond a week. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 This is way TMI, and I don't want to make this about me... but just in case it helps... Hon, it sounds like you have depression and/ or hormones that need to be dealt with. And if you have CFS/ FM or anything remotely similar (Ulcerative Colitis with related RA) I know exactly what you are going through. No one understands... yep. Isolated? yep. Magazines and support groups make it sound as though the whole world is against you. And sometimes your family members really don't get how hard things can be, I know. You could be surprised how many people actually do understand, however. Once I wrote a letter to several judgemental friends really laying it all out for them. (I was so weak I could barely push down the gas pedal and I felt that they were judging me b/c my house was cluttered and I often missed religious meetings.) It really helped. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in the Kootenays Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug: BTDT and it's not fun. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen sn Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 Ever have one of those days, where you just can't stop crying??? And I have no friends to call. Oh this is going to be a challenging day to get though. I'm sad and I need some friends. I'll be your friend. I will try to be a nice one.....coming out of a year long funk myself. Maybe you need to just cry. Sometimes I will watch Little House on the Prarie or a sad movie just so I can get it all out. Sometimes a glass of red wine takes the edge off! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen sn Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 Isolation is bad....... About the mommy guilt - call the kids into the bed/couch/blankets on floors and watch a few good movies. Wizard of Oz always makes me feel good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hathersage Posted June 12, 2009 Author Share Posted June 12, 2009 This is way TMI, and I don't want to make this about me... but just in case it helps... Hon, it sounds like you have depression and/ or hormones that need to be dealt with. And if you have CFS/ FM or anything remotely similar (Ulcerative Colitis with related RA) I know exactly what you are going through. No one understands... yep. Isolated? yep. Magazines and support groups make it sound as though the whole world is against you. And sometimes your family members really don't get how hard things can be, I know. You could be surprised how many people actually do understand, however. Yes, I do have mental health issues that need to be dealt with, but finding the right doctors, etc has been nearly impossible. And why on earth would I want to take meds from some doctor who hasn't read my medical record?! I have CFS. maybe. they don't know. Hormones? Well, I think there is something wrong with them, but so far neg. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hathersage Posted June 12, 2009 Author Share Posted June 12, 2009 :grouphug:I'm having one of those days too. :crying: Maybe we could have a good cry together. :grouphug: Sorry to hear your having one of those days. We can definately cry together :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hathersage Posted June 12, 2009 Author Share Posted June 12, 2009 I'll be your friend.I will try to be a nice one.....coming out of a year long funk myself. Maybe you need to just cry. Sometimes I will watch Little House on the Prarie or a sad movie just so I can get it all out. Sometimes a glass of red wine takes the edge off! Thanks for the offer of friendship. I know I need to cry, but I want to know that the crying will stop, you know? and that isolation won't last forever. And my child will in fact still be better off at home, even with all the craziness, but oh there is that my dd won't ever learn math guilt. I know she's only a K'er, but the pressure is on..with all those people that know I have mental issues looking on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 I didn't mean to upset you. Yes. Most MDs are pretty darn well useless. You have to mostly figure it out yourself and find one that won't fight you.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hathersage Posted June 12, 2009 Author Share Posted June 12, 2009 I didn't mean to upset you. Yes. Most MDs are pretty darn well useless. You have to mostly figure it out yourself and find one that won't fight you.:grouphug: Oh no, you didn't upset me. I'm just frustrated at the system. In fact I was waiting for a call back all day that never happened! And why does my husband have an easier time getting me help than I do? :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 I know that feeling! "From Fatigued to Fantastic" is a book that really got me on the right track. There is a website endfatigue.com and a list of doctors on that site as well. Dr. Rind at drrind.com has worked with me too. And just recently, I have treated my own depression with natural meds (because several medications would not work for me). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonesloonybin Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 :grouphug: I am sorry you are having a hard time. I am totally there too. I have IBS (or do I?? Still waiting to find out, they keep changing their minds) add in PMS and BAM. And it is so hard. When I am not feeling good, I really have nobody to talk to. If your leg hurts or you have...I don't know...allergies or something, it is easy to talk about and get sympathy for. But with IBS, (or mental/emotional issues) you cannot really talk about it. "hey, I am really having a hard time. I will go days where I have to almost teach school through the bathroom door because I have diarrea so bad." Suddenly, they find something really interesting on the other side of the room. :tongue_smilie::glare: Even my husband tries to be supportive and listen, but how sexy is it to talk about the fact that you have gas worse than a trucker that ate a gallon of chili and deviled eggs?? :confused: Then you read all you can about IBS/Crohn's/UC, and discover that you DON'T have the ONE symptom that would be a benefit (weight loss).:glare: I cannot win! Oh, sister, let me cry with you. Not to mention, health care is getting so expensive. I had to have a scoping and the "prep" stuff cost $50!!. The sad thing is we have insurance and they paid $9! That is it! And we have been eating healthier than we EVER have. I know it is just as bad for mental/emotional issues. Many doctors just pooh-pooh you. You have to FIGHT for help. Do some research yourself and go in armed with knowledge. Keep trying. Don't give up! We are here for you.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hathersage Posted June 13, 2009 Author Share Posted June 13, 2009 Wow. Thanks for all the show of support :grouphug: Oh, I did really stress out today. thanks everyone, and its nice to know I've got friends...Its been a long time. I'm not even sure I know how to talk to people anymore. Heather Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hathersage Posted June 25, 2009 Author Share Posted June 25, 2009 Just when I thought things couldn't get worse, they did. and after midnight. I doubt I'll get any sleep tonight :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 I have definitely been there. And with no one to call. :grouphug: Hope you feel better soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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