If a person works full time, homeschools 2 kids, ages 11 and 6, also has a 4yo, has a disabled spouse who can't walk and is generally pretty depressed (understandably), shuttles kids to ball practices/games and other activities, how much help is it reasonable to expect from the kids? Right now, the 6yo helps with general picking up and helps put away laundry when told to. The 11yo feeds the family pets, makes sure there are drinks in the fridge, puts away own laundry, sometimes hangs laundry out on the line, and once a week or so vacuums the floors. Would it be unreasonable to add washing dishes (by hand) once per day? What else? Where is the line between helping and contributing because you are a member of the family and dumping responsibilities onto the children that really belong with the parent?