Who is calling whom a bad parent? There is a big difference between explaining the source of an attitude and saying that that is the right attitude to have. Yes, there is a backlash against medicating boys and early formal schooling. It just exists. It doesn't matter if it doesn't apply to your case: the backlash is there. No, people should not lash back at caring parents or any parents for that matter, but instead take a reasonable, moderate approach. But OP asked why people acted a certain way and at least in my case, I'm explaining why people may act that way. My explanation does not imply approval. As a matter of fact I watch all kinds of things go on IRL and I keep my big mouth shut.

Wine is nature's crack.

Rabbie Burns night!!!

The cache dump is a great point. Google always forgets where I am when I do that at work.

Phone quote sorry!

I cannot speak for California, but some of our state Us and the flagships in particular prefer foreign language even from a transfer. They will, however, count Latin and Greek. So home study with grammar is a possibility.

Yes.

Was that Google? Could you have left your Google account open somewhere?

I'm disappointed in myself. It's all Grateful Dead and nature videos over here, too. I'm not into ultra hairy guys so it wasn't too upsetting when I didn't see any.

What is funny about that was that in the part of Asia I lived, they had a superstition that if a pregnant woman didn't get cravings satisfied, her baby would have blue eyes--blue eyes appearing to them pale and weak! Funny.

I think medical professionals will note when they are the third or fourth person to be consulted for a physical problem opinion, too. Sorry but I have heard nurses and doctors talk about this. "Eventually someone will tell her she has X but it won't be me, the tests don't show it." Eta: This is when someone goes to more than two doctors to get a particular diagnosis, not when a symptom is dismissed, though that happens too.

What I am saying is that people who are pushing against intervention are over-reacting to the trend of misidentifying not reading at four, five and six as a disability. I'm not saying they are right to over-correct for that trend.

What I am saying is that people who are pushing against intervention are over-reacting to the trend of misidentifying not reading at four, five and six as a disability. I'm not saying they are right to over-correct for that trend.

That must be frustrating. I think that it's less of a pushback against labels and more of a pushback against unrealistic standards for kids. So. Many. Kids. Aren't. Reading. At. 5. Even in Taipei, even on Seoul. So when I see parents say, "Well geez give it time!" I feel they don't trust general wisdom about child development. The PBS development tracker is a great resource. I basically committed to, if my kids aren't hitting 90% of those milestones by the end of the year, then I'll consider an evaluation. Although they were behind in some things and ahead in others, we usually hit 90% by their next birthday. The tracker provides a wide range but if the kid is nowhere near a good chunk of the skills it's worth looking at. It's a good rule of thumb for testing anyway and may give you something to say when people say they don't know how to judge. PBS Development tracker. Give me about 9/10 of each skill by the end of the year and I'm good.

My daughter would be in fourth in several states but in ours she's in third. I considered getting an exemption but in the end we weren't in the US on time. I feel your pain. I think for most kids it won't matter: the pros and cons even out. But for those who need to move on earlier or need more time, that will be clear as they get further along. Good luck with your decision.

It will be okay. I personally would not stop school--not reading and math for a second grader. If I stopped school every time something came up in life my kids would have had all of 1 year of school by now. Ex-h was military. We moved almost every year. The kids have lived in three countries. It is HARD but it will be okay. Focus on reading, writing and basic math. Set a timer and then let what didn't get done, rest until tomorrow. Float on. :)

Oh yeah. I can recite the preamble to the Declaration of Independence as well as the bill of rights. I thought that was a nerd badge not a party trick though.

I love this idea as I have a creative girl who sometimes balks at things that have to be perfect. I think she'd love creating a cursive font!

I am really good at parties. I can wiggle my ears, I can bend my fingers at any joints, I can write backwards and upside down with both hands or either hand*, and I can cross one eye at a time. I am dying to hear Me out to the ball game take. *Including in languages that write right to left, so for example, I can write Persian left-handed from left to right, and Russian left handed upside down. However, I was mixing up my numbers and letters until I was 7.5.

A lot of organic milk goes to just plain milk. Organic certification is hard to get so many creameries that are small--which great cheese creameries are--take longer to get certified. The land has to be organic for so many years pre-certification. Cheese is also expensive due to aging and processing. So when you add on the expense of organic milk, it becomes a luxury product that almost nobody can buy. I mean, we buy organic mozzarella (string cheese) and organic cream cheese. These are short time frame cheeses and the kids eat them. Organic cheddar, also not very aged. So these you will find organic but they cost twice as much as non-organic cheese. But even that is not so bad. People still buy it. Organic gorgonzola? Think about how much gorgonzola costs. Are you really going to double that? So I think all this contributes to an unfriendly environment for organic cheeses in the US. Even in Europe. It's just so expensive. One would hope that as we increase organic production and oversight that we could get more organic cheeses, but what I'm seeing is that many people prefer organic milk to conventional, so on the contrary, as organic grows, for the time being, it is really expanding to a larger population. You can get organic milk on WIC in some states. So we haven't had organic butter from Organic Valley (which is the only Oregon Tilth certified butter we can get at the corner store) in a year I think. We can get Horizon but it's not as popular as they are certified by QAI which doesn't have a great reputation. When I look for cheeses I look for reputable local cheeses. Around here that is Rogue River Creamery. They have not been certified organic but they are pretty good. It's the best I can do. I don't know of chocolates that behave like Hershey's. I don't like Hershey's. It tastes powdery to me. I am sorry.

Half open or all the way open? Half open can be found in those with sleep apnea but I'm not sure there have been studies on it. I wouldn't worry about the eyes open but continue being cautious and observant as you already are. Snoring in addition to eyes open, in conjunction with a new medication, would bring me to the doctor prescribing the meds.

I need that app! I totally do that at work, play looping rain and/or ocean sounds. It's so relaxing. You do find some odd loops though. One was "rain on a patio". It was... loud.

This won't work with kids your kids' age though. To them it's just an ominous threat. They can't act on it. MAYBE the seven year old if she's an excellent planner. EDITED: You know, I wrote this long agitated post and I'm sorry. I will summarize the point which is to say, most of us are living normal lives, without diapers, and with teeth brushing. Yet, there are posts galore all over the net about how to get kids to use the toilet and brush their teeth. If modeling worked for most kids there would not be the slightest hint of a market for parenting books. Clearly in a modern society, modeling is not working for many, many families. So if it worked for you, that's fantastic. However, I think suggesting it's an actual method is naive. Not to say that it never works, but to say that, if you're asking for help, chances are, it's not like you've been pooping ourself every night and ​if you'd just model good toileting habits eventually the kid would pick it up. So by the time you get to "please help because the easy stuff isn't working" saying "the easy stuff worked for me" is really never going to be revelatory.

Thank you for sharing this unique perspective!

Sorry you are in pain, Jean.