Live a few hours without snacks. Speak for yourself. ;) OP, your purse class sounds fun and you did a good job.

Maybe it was the "best" option thing that bothered him. To him it's not the best option. That's probably all a matter of opinion but both of you are maybe hearing it presented as fact. "Very much needed" may be an opinion but could sound like it's stated as fact. Perhaps both of you should work on "I" statements. "I think this is what is needed." "I don't think that's the best option, Mom." Or whatever.

Weird, this showed up in my newsfeed on FB and had a thumbnail image of underwear. See number 16. http://www.providr.com/now/things-you-didnt-know-about-objects/15/?utm_source=fbkxd&utm_medium=object_d_a Basically, they are saying that the pairs that don't have the sewn edge were done that way because the sewn edge is uncomfortable. I don't believe everything on this list so take it with a grain of salt.

Don't ask him to repeat himself. You could simply ask, "do you think I missed something?" without asking him to repeat. I think just asking him to repeat implies, "I wasn't really listening" even if that is not the case or it just makes him tired of talking because he feels like a broken record. That's my take, anyway.

I have mixed feelings on leggings. I personally feel naked wearing them in public as pants, but I see lots of women wear them... even at ds' school which sorta surprised me just because I wouldn't think to wear leggings as pants to a job. It's so common though I don't think much of it anymore. Mostly long flowy tops are paired with them and boots. Dh got me a sweater dress for Christmas. It stops right below my butt. I tried it on with leggings. I felt sooooo naked. I don't know if I could ever leave the house wearing that without feeling like I'm wearing a mini skirt. Forget about trying to walk with my toddler, I'd have to lean down to hold her hand and worry about looking inappropriate, like my butt is sticking out. I could wear it as a top with jeans, but my jeans aren't slim fit so I can't wear my dress boots over them. It's similar to this without slits on the sides: http://www.target.com/p/women-s-long-sleeve-cowl-neck-side-slit-pullover-kit-sky/-/A-52079071

Thank you. I was told I was "too sensitive" my whole life, even from my own father. Later he's the one that picked up the book The Highly Sensitive Person and read it and then let me have his copy. It's aggravating to go your whole life treated like you're defective because of it. I cannot handle certain imagery but it's not because I need to be conditioned or something. I think it's just because it's how I was born. The Walking Dead is one of my favorite shows, but I know my limits and leave the room or close my eyes if it's too intense. The sensitivity I referenced in the book is not limited to taking things to heart. It also affects ability to read a room. Some but not all HSP are empaths. I now understand why my sister has more trouble than me with certain situations.

And no, I don't think friends have to be similar in every way or let every topic affect their friendship, but it was the way in which you spoke about your friend and her children that made it sound like this person isn't such a close friend. If I was your friend I don't know if I'd want to be after reading a post about my family like that. It just sounded kind of harsh. And I don't think it's so much that highly worded hyperbole is unheard of... it's that it's being said by someone who has a history of acting jerky/isn't a close friend to the recipient.

It did sound like bullying that the OP described because everything she said implied to me that this child was rude and/or mean. Not playful banter between two friends. She maybe didn't really explain it was a running joke in the family. Just saying that it was something she was doing because someone hated it does not give the full picture you gave me about years of flamingos. I can see why the kids would not grasp it if she didn't elaborate. I never said I was against playful pranking. I don't know if you are under the assumption that I am. I never spoke about pranking anywhere in the thread.

"Mom's gonna kill you" seems like use of a common expression, whereas things like "light your eyeballs on fire" doesn't. It's more jarring when it's not commonly heard I think or can't be explained away as "just an expression." And of course context and even age of the speaker/recipient. Sounds like you can't stand this person's way of raising their kids or their kids. Hard to believe you find them tolerable enough to be your closest friend. Some of the things I bolded can be perceived as justification for bullying. "Toughen up, buttercup. Kids do these things" mentality. While I do agree that it seems extreme for a kid to cry everytime they are around other children joking, I wouldn't say that it's necessarily a good way to build friendships, either, just because it's how those particular kids choose to bond. The way you describe these parents makes me think you may want to pick up a copy of The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron. Sensitivity is a spectrum and some of us fall much closer to the other end. It doesn't mean we're weak or inferior or defective as so many people like to imply.

No, but I was reading the post as one train of thought... "his teacher sent home a note. Both parents laughed..." as if they laughed at their son getting a note sent home. But the laughing may have not been at the note at all, just what they did online. It's kind of hard to say.

My dh does this crap and it's the most annoying thing ever lol. Or I send more than one ques. and only get one answered. Then don't know how long it will be before they get back to their phone.

I grew up with just sisters. Yeah, not having brothers probably does influence my stance on this stuff, but also the fact that my father is very much a "turn the other cheek" type. He tries to remind us not to let others influence our reactions, pray for our enemies, etc. I don't think he fits the mold of the stereotypical male.

The parents lack tact if they are going to laugh about it on social media in a group text that includes the parent (if I'm understanding that part of the thread correctly). Not that I never make faux pas, but this just seems like an indication to me that the child does these things because it's not viewed as wrong/inappropriate to him. Or at least not seen as a particularly big deal. Like did they even try to correct the behavior? I've read that sometimes it's best to just apologize on your child's behalf if they do something upsetting to another child, rather than force your child to give an apology. I have a feeling they wouldn't be the type to apologize and just shrug and think the upset child needs to loosen up. /shrug

well it can come out post shower but this doesn't seem relevant if you aren't going to get a pap smear or internal ultrasound. Or I guess as someone else mentioned give a urine sample.

ahh I see

lol!

I always like to shower after tea. I feel dirty. But I admit I have issues with germs so there's that.

Maybe the spouse needs to clarify a bit more about why this is bothersome. Like are they afraid there is a chance of a smell or something (not really asking for an answer just speculating).

Don't be sad. I know you were torn so now you don't have to fret. Depending on how hungry everyone is, I guess you could bring heavier food. Guess it depends on what is the easiest. Like you could bring your own food and store it in the church hall fridge probably.

Well, fruit can be expensive and may not fit the requirements of the sign up sheet depending on what you are asked. A side I like to bring to potlucks is Yankee salad which consists of fruit (I don't think I spend that much time/effort because I buy the kind that is already sold cut and it has other ingredients so it doesn't have to fill the whole bowl) and then I'd have to come up with a second side. It would feel like a chore to me, but I don't really like to cook and find doing anything in the kitchen a hassle, especially if I have to think about transporting it and keeping it hot/cold. I'm lazy and I admit it if that makes a difference.

I guess I don't follow the logic. If kids got sick, didn't their families go home? If they left, then why did the church need more food? Wouldn't it all even out? Unless their family provided a main dish and everyone else there brought sides.

I'm leaning toward this, except that if she has 80 families attending I wouldn't ask anyone to bring a dish to feed 80. I would think a smaller number would suffice so there's variety but no one feels the pressure to feed everyone their dish. Wait I'm confused. Maybe you mean each category combined equals the number of people attending and I'm just not computing today.

These seem like extremes lol I wouldn't want to ask families to bring a main dish and a side/dessert. That seems like an awful lot of work for each family but maybe that's just me. And a bunch of people just bringing chips sounds like something you definitely want to avoid lol. Perhaps some guidelines sent via email or on the website would help, but I don't know if you can add all that info. Like "dessert to feed X number" so they don't show up with just 12 cookies.

I remember you discussing baptism in another thread, but don't remember what the outcome was... baptism included in Mass or not? That may or may not affect how hungry people are afterwards :laugh: They may not eat beforehand and be ready for a late lunch. I'd consider the restaurant as a place for a meal if everyone is starving. Otherwise, I'd consider asking to use the parish hall and just having something simple set up. You can probably give the parish a small fee/tip for the use. Between our two kids we have done things both ways. We don't live near family but had baptisms done near the family's church rather than our regular one. For me personally the restaurant was a little stressful because of the ages of some of the attendees. Ds' godfather's grandchildren came and they were a bit of a handful. And ds was a baby so we hated going to restaurants at that stage. But I think once the food came out it was okay. You would have more privacy in the church hall if you're concerned about noise disrupting others. We just did a First Communion celebration at the most random place Lol. Our family was staying in a hotel and Mom can't go out easily and doesn't like to eat in public (she has Parkinson's). So we ended up bringing pizzas to the hotel and they let us use the lobby. It actually worked out perfectly.

I don't think they have ever seemed like they were right for my body before or after kids. I overlap the seam with panty liners and pads. And what's worse is when the pad has wings and the wings don't line up as well as I'd like because I move the pad forward. TMI but whatever ha