I hope they get the water on tomorrow!

We've found tutors for various languages (and other subjects) on preply.com.

Wow, that makerspace sounds amazing! What a cool library system.

@heartlikealion could you try the test and see how you do? You might have enough Spanish to pass it and surprise yourself--the level they are looking for might not be as high as you anticipate.

Anxiety brain does us all in sometimes ((()))

I don't think there are formulas for finding "the right" partner because, frankly, every individual and every relationship is different. A guy who pursues a woman vigorously could be a good match and excellent future partner, or could have narcissistic tendencies and be love bombing her, but that behavior will fizzle out once she falls off the imagined pedestal he has put her on. A guy who is slow to warm up or who doesn't want constant contact while dating may be a bit of an introvert, or cautious after past relationship failures, or just not a hot-burning romantic type, or... In any case, there's no reason to rush--either to rush into a relationship, or to rush to turn a temporary relationship into a long-term commitment. There are few downsides to letting things play out over time (just the discomfort of sitting with uncertainty--and while that can be a real pain, it's ultimately less pain than some of the alternatives).

Why? I truly don't understand why we would think women should be pursued more than men. I think that a woman who finds a man who is worth pursuing has every right and reason to pursue! Yes, there's a point where the level of interest needs to become mutual, but some men are slower to warm up to that point just like some women are. Women aren't pretty little flowers waiting for someone to come by and pick them; we are as capable of actively choosing to go after what we want as men are!

I'm glad you're OK Heart. That sounds super scary.

In many relationships one person does more chasing than the other, but in my experience it's as likely to be the woman as the man.

I'm glad the SS card came quickly!

Can you lower the price on the washer and dryer?

I love your apartment! Much nicer than some rentals I've lived in (no ugly rental carpet and a living room separate from the kitchen!) It feels like a place you could make into a comfortable home. And will feel so much cheerier once that Christmas tree is up and decorated 🎄. I'm thinking this means you can get the rest of your stuff out of storage?

Oh good, I'm glad you get a bit longer visitation with the kids for Christmas.

Hurray for good news! I'd love pictures of your new home at some point ❣️

But WHY force the kids to stay in the class second semester if they aren't doing well? Why force them to sign that waiver? My guess is it's class size considerations and logistics, but if there are regularly that many who want to drop it seems to me the school could plan for that.

Interesting perspective. I did always live in apartment housing in college, and the only stuff I had was what was with me. My parents were hardly going to move boxes of stuff from continent to continent for me. I just didn't own much. Home had to be wherever I was.

For those of you who don't count college apartments/dorms is it because you didn't consider that home? I count my college apartments because that was the only home I had at that time. I don't count the places my parents moved to while I was in college as "home" because I only experienced those as places to visit, not places I lived. I definitely lived in my school apartments. I could see it feeling different if you saw school more as a place you just stayed for awhile while viewing your family home as still where you actually lived. I guess how settled your life was in general would also make a difference--some of the homes my family occupied during my childhood were home for a shorter period of time than the number of months I spent in my college apartments.

I was unaware of any sexual connotation to mojo. I associate it with energy/drive/gumption.

Our insurance company told me they default to fairly generous payouts because it saves them time and costs haggling with their insurees. Also did your insurance include an extra percentage on the payout if the car was totaled? Ours was an extra 20% or something as "replacement value". It was an optional add-on when we bought the insurance and I'm glad we opted for it.

I counted 12 houses, 15 apartments, in 7 countries. I've been in my current home for almost 13 years though, and that is nice.

I'm so, so happy to read this update Heart. Uncertainty is the worst--having a job and place to live locked in must be a huge weight off your shoulders.

Yes. But the one I cared about most has been torn down.

I think that kind of interaction would drive me crazy! I Do Not want lots of little interactions interrupting the flow of what I am doing. Texts weren't a thing back when I was dating but neither dh nor I are the type to send regular texts. I've been trying to pull together the energy for two days to respond to the last text from a friend who likes to text regularly. I like the friend, I care about the relationship. But back and forth texts arenotarenotarenot my thing.

I don't think I have ever seen anyone learn or change in any positive way from being given a taste of their own medicine. It's an attempt at manipulation at best and entirely ineffective as a method of improving a relationship overall.

I'm so glad you had a nice day with your kids!