Thank you for the book recommendation!
To the OP - I could have written your post. The whole touch thing has actually brought a lot of strife into our marriage. My husband felt deeply rejected by me not willing to touch and receive touch as often as he needed. It took a lot of serious talking and vulnerability for us to understand each other. The Five Love Languages book was an eye opener.
So, I've decided that I'm going to learn and to be fluid in his language, just like I learned English.
I look at it as me expressing my love to him in the best way he could understand.
It was hard in the beginning, but I've learned to enjoy it. The whole thing has actually sparked our interest in massage and trigger point therapy, for a great benefit for both of us, as well for our friends and family.
In return, I enjoy him speaking Quality Time. :)
I do think I have sensory issues, noise especially and crowds.