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:iagree: :iagree: :iagree: My people or kin, who were not that bright still outshine my dh and his brilliant family of doctors and surgeons. Street smarts or common sense can trump high IQ.

As a child, I tested 30 points higher than parents and siblings. If you met my family, you'd realize they were either right at average IQ or below average IQ. ;) Not sure if that says a lot for me... but I was a square peg trying to fit in a "round" hole with my kinfolk. My dh tested into Mensa while in High School on the other hand. Ds recently tested about 8 points below dh's IQ and considering his rare liver disease can have some serious cognitive issues due to toxic buildup of ammonia that can deteriorate the frontal lobe... he is doing pretty good. Now, before ds' coma in 2004, he was VERY intelligent -(more so than dh)- but his IQ dropped due to some brain trauma & coma with his rare (genetic) liver disease. And my MIL, dh, and ds were very intelligent -- highly talented in science/math, but all of them struggled with Dysgraphia. Interesting topic.

:iagree: My ds was like this since day one. I would have loved to bundle him up, but he tended to overheat easily. Many times he had night terrors from being too warm at night. Our pediatrician told us to use a portable fan in his bedroom, use a cold washcloth to cool him off, and give him an Otter Pop right away. It worked like a charm and he could go back to sleep once cooled down and hydrated. We learned to install a ceiling fan in his bedroom and don't go nutty on tons of layers. Ds is 17 now and loves sleeping with a thin sheet in the summer or a light-weight blanket in the winter -- with 2 fans running in his bedroom. :confused:

This is myself right now. I am surrounded by young moms in my homechurch. Only one of them is a know-it-all and us older moms know to bite our tongues with her. ;)

Oh dear. The age of social media makes these things even more worse. :glare: I hope your relationship with your Grandmother is doing better. I find as people age, these $$ pop up often as a marker or test of family love or loyalty. Strange. But I have seen this before. :grouphug:

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:grouphug::grouphug: Many little ones in our rare liver disease group have to go thru this with ports and the risk of infection. I'm glad your ds is doing good.

:iagree: They also have a spray too. I ditto the recommendation to get someone from ICU or NICU to draw the blood, if one cannot go to a Children's Hospital. I'm a weak (hard stick) draw myself... over the years, I finally know the "sweet spot" on my right arm to tell the phlebotomist where to stick. Only 3 times in the last 9 years did I encounter one who doubted me and drew blood from the other arm... only to go what I call "deep sea fishing". With bruises a day later. OUCH. ;) Then they try my first recommendation and go, "Hey! You were right." :glare:

:iagree: I'm now afraid Henry's dad (Emma's love) is Rumple's son, Bael.

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Good question. Let me dig out the CD and my notes on the labs. I know I had priced them versus the lab kit. I used Home Science Tools catalog to price and they have low prices too. If anything, the nice thing about the CD is she can watch Dr. Shormann demo the labs as he lectures. She can take lab notes and count it as a credit, kwim? No need to buy anything! :D Before I look for the CD, I'm off to load the bread machine... be back in a bit!

Forgot to mention... The lab kit for the DIVE Science CD (Chemistry) is about $291. :svengo: But you can pick and choose which labs to do -- watch them on the CD/PC if you do not wish to replicate them at home. And maybe only do 4-6 labs? Price is cheaper that way.

Ah... mystery solved. Why not just have her watch the labs on Youtube or DIVE Science? I have a DIVE Science Chemistry CD I am not using and would be happy to mail it to you free of charge. He has tons of labs and extra learning tools. Caveat is you will have to buy the lab supplies. But if you want my CD (unused) -- you save $50. :D PM me if you are interested.

You'd be spending a ton of money to replicate what the professor wants in his weekly labs. :confused: I'm not sure if it would be prudent to do so. Personally, I would have the student take both days and attend -- the lab experience in a college setting is very educational and fun. Wouldn't the prof mark down her grade for not participating in labs on campus? I know my old profs would have. (??????)

:iagree: Be sure the N/P letter or letter from specialist verifying the LD is within the last 3 years. Eeek. My son has severe Dysgraphia and the idea of a prof doing this scares me. Ds is a high school junior but I frequent this board and get tips from y'all. He needs to be registered with the Office of Disabilities. They will intervene on his behalf. Document the meeting with the professor also.

That fascinates me. And yes... I do not find that strange, either. :lol:

Oooh, girl... have you not read my posts on my nutty family? :D

I was the child of a bitter divorce and living in a small town... endured the relatives of the ex who wanted to stay in touch but my mom refused to allow us to even say hi to them when we met them at school or at the store. :grouphug: It can cause a lot of built up resentment in a child to the parent making the rules. When my mom died, I finally got to meet my father's side of the family and realized how normal and DELIGHTFUL they were. I felt ripped off from a relationship and truly was furious at my mom. Mommy issues. HTH P.S. If it helps, my father was always a jerk. Still is. We do not speak to each other for 20+ years. But I keep in touch with his side of the family and love them. They admit my father is a piece of work. LOL

:iagree: See the cardiologist. Get the EKG, echo, x-ray or 24 hour wrist band... whatever is needed to see what is going on. It is scary, but you hopefully will get a better idea of what is going on with ds. :grouphug:

BINGO. This was my DH during the ending of his mother's life and after her death. He was raw emotionally. And then he had to be the parent and care for his father who emotionally was numb and alone. FIL was suicidal when he was by himself. He cannot take care of himself. My MIL took good care of his needs. DH now is coming to terms with the fact his father needs a replacement partner (not necessarily love in FIL's case) who will be his caretaker in his old age. It was difficult for DH to get over what he saw as betrayal to his loving mother's memory. But now is trying to see his father's side of the picture. DH still refuses to speak or visit his father & stepmom... and I have to allow him the right to feel this way. It is his family. I play the part of peacemaker and avoid the whole drama by focusing on Grandfather and Grandson's relationship. My son understands the mess (he is 17 -- and sad to say his first reaction to new 50 year old Grand-stepmom was, "Oh. So, Gramps is now a Sugar Daddy?" :lol:) Ds and FIL have a good relationship and I tell ds to ignore the war between DH and Gramps. Ds needs to love his 75 year old Grampy no matter what. It is very hard tho'. I look at it from the aspect of my MIL was totally awesome!! I never as a DIL got to see her in this light until after her death. After her death, the family skeletons came out of the closet... and up to her last minutes here on Earth... not once did I see MIL complain about her lot in life. She was a gem. Now that I realize how unhappy she was in her marriage to FIL but was long-suffering... makes me even more appreciative of what she went thru. How can I complain? She never did and make it look like she was happy and loving. Wow. And the non-stop brutal pain she endured to her last minutes as cancer ate her body -- just makes me think again of how MIL never complained of the pain. She was kind and loving in her fight. Makes me want to rethink how I easily complain about my issues.

Totally agree. In my previous post in this thread... FIL confessed to not truly loving the woman he just married. But due to the 15 year affair behind MIL's back, he realized he is emotionally attached to her being his caretaker. And quite frankly, MIL was miserable in her marriage to FIL but stayed loyal during the 50 year marriage. FIL had a lot of regrets in his hasty actions after her death (i.e. not overcoming his agoraphobia and taking MIL on travels or cruises as she loved traveling and people) and he really was horrified to find out his son (my husband) was furious over the quick marriage 6 weeks after MIL died. We knew of the affair for many years. We wanted them to wait 'til at least 6 months for the estate to be settled and the children (now grown ups) were able to meet & allow the stepmom to enter the picture. FIL agreed he would have waited out of respect for his kids -- but told me why didn't I warn him? I told him I did many times, but he was too self-centered in his grief to see it. I feel like a therapist between these feuding family members. What a mess. :glare: :iagree: One of our concerns was that FIL do a pre-nup agreement or create the will/trust papers to grant the bulk of the estate to our SIL and only grandchild (my son). FIL agreed to the creation of a trust for SIL and his grandson willingly. I do not know if new stepmom has any idea of what FIL did legally. She has no control of the books and an outside accountant does the budget. DH has his name as co-signer on FIL's bank account and is co-executor of both trusts. DH also inherits a piece of luxury vacation real estate his mother promised to him before she passed on. FIL kept the promise in his will too as right now we do not want to inherit the real estate property as it is very expensive. She gets an allowance basically. But my FIL tends to be frugal and a penny pincher. :D :iagree:

I did the same thing when we moved out of our old home. I rented it via the city and they charged me like $75 a month. It was a great tool for dumping old boxes, furniture, etc without going to the dump. One issue I had was a cranky neighbor two houses down from us who was trying to sell his home and lo and behold... there was an ugly dumpster sitting in front of our house. For 3 months. :lol: I did not like the neighbor as he was a big jerk. So, my passive-agressive side had to take my time cleaning the garage, house, bushes/tree clippings... LOL!! Perhaps this neighbor is running a side business stripping cars, selling items, or who-knows-what. If it is a business... are you zoned for this? I bet the city would love to check and get the tax man after them!

I was thinking the same thing. Here in TX many of my friends do this out of their home. Not always a great deal, to be honest. ;)