After homeschooling our two oldest for three years we had to place them in public school because of some health issues I was having. After two years we brought them both back home. My oldest was in the 7th grade at the time. He was so angry with us and made me pay for it at home for a while. We knew, however, that it was God's leading and felt sure of our decision. Just make sure your daughter sees and knows that you and your husband are united in this decision and that you feel very sure about it. (That's hard to do sometimes, I know). She's smart enough to know if you're not sure of yourself. Kids are pros at putting mom and dad on guilt trips. Remember, you are the parent, not her. She's still so young. I'm sure she'll readjust soon enough. And NO, I don't believe you're scarring her!!