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KathyBC

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  1. While I agree with Farrar, relationships trump rules, I would definitely have felt the same way. If it was important to me, I would outright ask the niece's parent, next time we spoke, "Hey, did niece mention gift? We were so excited to get it, and were hoping they would like it." Because I would want to know!
  2. I scrolled by a letter from Faulkner the other day, and marveled. I leave dangling participles recklessly in my wake. Any suggestions on how to craft better day-to-day missives? Would sentence diagramming, something our homeschool never got to, help? Is there a free app for that?
  3. Oh in a friend setting? Naturally.
  4. No caterers. I would find dancing on grapes and other dropped food disruptive. YMMV.
  5. I feel like at this point I'm going to have to start giving a blow-by-blow detail of the entire wedding, lol. At this point, 10pm?, people had moved outside into the night air, others were taking down tables, I thought perhaps there might be dancing later. My kids were, I hope, just good-naturedly bugging me about my predictable character traits when I got out the broom.
  6. As a young adult, it was pointed out to me that the host might be offended I hadn't offered to help clean up. I was mortified that I had missed out on a commonly held social expectation. Have I been overcompensating ever since? Maybe that expectation is not that commonly held? Crazy, I tell ya.
  7. Regentrude, I am now dying to know how you interact as a guest.
  8. I guess it would have been relevant to mention this was at a rented venue. Everything needed to be cleaned up by a set time, which would be long after my family left. I wasn't sure how many people would be left to help my sister by that time. As a volunteer I help run a rented venue, so finding cleaning supplies in hidden cupboards, etc. just seemed like a normal thing to me. Hard to turn that off, I guess.
  9. Ok, would you ask first or jump in?
  10. K, see now this is more like me when I am the hostess. My sister is way more chill than me. She asks, and is happy to either help or not. It truly never occurred to me to ask in this context. The majority of attendees were in their 20s and having a *really* good time, so I jumped into mom role and should have asked first, I guess.
  11. I am happiest at an event when I have a job to do. If I don't have one, I can usually find one. I used to be a kid and happy to let people do stuff for me, but now I always "see" what needs doing - even if at some point probably others will do it - and am happiest jumping in. But my now-adult kids are poking me that when I am just a guest I should sit back and not do this. Context: my sister lives in another province and had a smallish wedding for her daughter this weekend. I was happy to clear empty cups and cans, sweep the floor, reload ice, etc. My kids were picking on me. In hindsight, I don't want my actions to have made my sister feel like she didn't have things covered. She is very capable and competent. That is just my go-to behavior. But it occurs to me perhaps this is maybe more narcissistic than helpful, a 'savior' complex. Thoughts? Can you just relax and be? One other thought: could be mild ADD, a way to keep myself entertained productively.
  12. Thanks. That is really helpful. Exactly, I could always correct myself if it came up again.
  13. I've done it mid-conversation but not 30 seconds after everyone has walked away. I need to get braver.
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