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Everything posted by KathyBC

  1. Glad you figured out the hangry part of things. IMO it is a legitimate life choice for adults to do a bare minimum of housework on busy days, and then do a mini-marathon on a day off, motivated by a nice reward like visiting a friend. I don't see it as allowing a child to "get away with something". This is why I do not listen to podcasts by people who make me feel this way. ETA: I feel the dirty dishes left abandoned pain. It does seem to be a stage they can grow out of. Okay, I missed the pictures, so maybe I'm missing some context here. Glad to hear things seem to be getting sorted out.
  2. Anyway, she has a Zanzea shirt that looks nice with those pants and with a maxi skirt.
  3. My dd is in a major boho phase right now. She has found a slightly less baggy version of these for cheap (please no guilt) on Wish.
  4. That is a really good idea, lol. So I should maybe add Zumba back into my winter exercise rotation!
  5. Our library system has that title, thanks. This morning I discovered a notebook with quotes in my handwriting from The Gap of Time (Winterson). Now that I've googled it, I do remember reading it, but had no memory of the book, the quotes or why they were there whatsoever. I need to discover what lifestyle changes I need to start or stop! Yikes!!
  6. Ankle boots with flat or low heels look nice.
  7. My sister took up running a few years ago, and has now done both half-marathons and her first half-ironman. She is completely intimidated about trail running and running hills. It is so strange to me because the thought of running asphalt is completely unappealing to me. My aging joints and I appreciate it that the ground has some give! I would imagine the treadmill having some shock absorption, too.
  8. Just popping by to say I ran my first 5K yesterday! About three months ago I found a very modified Couch to 5K plan, and modified it further still. 😝 When I discovered one of our local outdoors clubs was hosting it's first trail run half marathon, with 10K and 5K options, it seemed fortuitous. When I registered, my 19yo son offered to join me and do the 21 km half marathon, so I had a buddy to attend my first event. (He ran track a few times in high school, dirt bike races and rides his mountain bike in the hills behind the house. His training in the three weeks beforehand involved running 9km twice and running 21km once just to be sure he could do it in under the allotted 3 hours. Since he could, he felt good to go. Must be nice.) Unfortunately the 3x week for 9 weeks plan I was on was going very slowly, and I had only completed 18 of 27 sessions by race day. (Aging parents, helping dd get her first car, work, yada yada.) So that meant the longest I had run was 3 km, and my last 2km session was a run 8 min, walk 1 min, run 5 min, walk 1 min, run 8 min. But what the heck, I just moved on to the next couple of training sessions for race day (combination of run 8 min, walk 1 min, and run 10 min, walk 1 min) and completed the 5km in 52 minutes, way ahead of my usual pace. Competition helps! I was middle of the pack, 5th of 19 women, 10th of 29 racers and super happy with my first event!! So thanks for letting me share. Oh yes, and to brag on my son, he placed 4th of 23 racers, 3rd in mens. After the race some local guys invited him to another event out of town in November so he's probably hooked now. It was a really fun day, spending time together and with our local community!
  9. Those would be typical, maybe on the more modest side here. I take it volleyball is out then. 😝
  10. Both my sons were younger than that when they built knives with their dad. One was a large Sax knife. I wouldn't say NO for the reasons your DH is saying, but I do trust a parent's instinct, and would maybe want to have further conversation to see if there are any other concerns.
  11. I think people do a lot of things by themselves in their vehicles they might not do while transporting other people's kids. YMMV.
  12. In those situations, I have done most of what you're doing. Also gone for walks, bought a 6?-session swim pass close by, balanced the chequebook, written Christmas cards, brought big items to a nearby laundromat...
  13. I could *so* see this happening in my world. Events like this one is why my siblings and I now keep in touch ourselves (we have a facebook chat group), not just with our parents.
  14. Your point was strangers can't judge a book by its cover? Well then we certainly do agree.
  15. Oh absolutely true to the bolded! Many on this thread have made great points about the dangers of people's rushed judgement of others. As to your last paragraph, what I actually said was: I meant you can't let other people's inaccurate assessments sabotage your efforts at that which is important to you. I fully agree with all the other posters who have said that life sometimes has more important priorities, and have made those choices myself.
  16. This is *exactly* why personal responsibility is a moral quality. Persistence and finding work-arounds may not lead to the same result as someone else, but you won't get anywhere at all until you accept your unique situation in this world and work with the hand you were dealt. Dealing with the ignorance of others is certainly an unneeded challenge, but you cannot let it sabotage your efforts.
  17. That's not something I'm remotely qualified to comment on, nor was I trying to.
  18. I think that's part of why motivation has been a bit easier for me: At this stage of life (approaching 50), nearly EVERYONE I know has to do this to stay at a healthy weight, even my previously lifelong underweight dh. So I don't feel alone, I feel like as you age your metabolism slows down so it's a natural stage of life. I enjoyed eating everything when I was younger, now that the kids aren't littles I actually have time to exercise. I still plan to balance moderate enjoyment at Christmas and other special days, and when my aging parents or young adults need me, might have to drop all my ambitious exercise plans for a skimpier version (FlyLady exercise, lol). I've made the mental adjustment. I think. Fingers crossed.
  19. Okay, thanks so much for that Maize, because I think I understand the article's author a bit better now. For her, size 16 *is* a sign she is conquering an area that is difficult. It looks the opposite from most people. It shouldn't be necessary to explain all of your personal back story to people, so how frustrating to get mistaken comments.
  20. I see what you're saying, I think, but the whole "If it is meant to be, it is up to me" concept of personal responsibility is in there somewhere too. I'm not saying that anyone can do anything, because obviously they can't, but if you can find methods that work to tackle even in small measure an area of life that doesn't come naturally to you, that does seem to have some moral quality to it. If we are not going to call it self-control or self-discipline then what would be a more accurate term or description?
  21. More ramblings, maybe you just need to reframe their comments. Like instead of thinking, "Great, how crappy did they think I looked before?" you could consciously think, "Wow, people are really noticing all my hard work and consistent effort."
  22. Wasn't sure if this was JAWM or if you would like a discussion, but here's my rambling monologue, lol. I can't really relate to the gist of this article because my issue is not appearance and control from eating disorder, but rather, like probably most people, from loving food beyond healthy eating. So for me, self-control, self-discipline (which are moral qualities), are likely going to lead to being at least somewhat thinner, but also stronger and fitter. And it's not just selfish. My family should be better off if I'm not hoarding all the treats; if my joints last a bit longer from carrying less weight; if I am more productive at work because I've eaten in a balanced way and am fit enough for a busy day. Anyway, I'm only talking 20-30 lbs (which is a lot really), but maybe not enough that I get the comments. Or maybe it's that folks in my world do recognize a stronger, fitter body but are too tactful to say anything because it would point out the time before when life got crazy and there was not enough space for self-care and poor choices were made, but everyone has made poor choices, so why draw attention to any of that? Small town, we are all well aware of each other's hardships and poor choices, so safest not to judge out loud in public, lol. ETA: Or maybe it's just my RBF? You should get one, stop the comments! 😂
  23. All folded down and put inside of one of them, then replaced in the back of the vehicle for next time.
  24. My dd's MinPin helped decorate Christmas cookies back in December.
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