Our oldest son did this for us. They're all grown now.

Poor baby. I'm sorry.

My mom was raised in a small town during the depression. The only woman I can think of that has any real value to her is her cousin. During WW2 a bunch of the women who were sisters lived together with their children while their dhs were off to war.

Kansas

Tell him to start working on horseshoes and head this way.

Sad but true. My mother always said when your dh tells you to do something or how to do something or whatever and you don't agree with it you just say "Yes dear" and then do whatever you damn please when he's not looking.

Oh hell no.

Wow! Not only would I not give a reference, I'd call the adoption place and fill them in so she couldn't sneak around you.

OMGoodness, why have I not seen this before? Misogynistic describes her to a T. Critical of the girls, boys could do no wrong. Contemptuous of her female friends and simpering to any man. Also she has NO self worth unless she has a man in her life. She's been married three times currently single and on the prowl at her independent living place. And when she does have a man in her life she shoves him down our throats. "Thank so and so for lunch, he paid. Thank so and so for this and that, it was his idea" Got to the point that we refused to meet her last crush, because we are so tired of her routine. I wonder if part of it is her generation raised in the South!?

Well, she is VERY manipulative. She and dad are divorced and when sister and I visit she does everything she can to keep us from having any time to visit him. She is very impressed with people who have money. She always pays more attention to her friends in the "best" circles and is contemptuous of those who aren't as "socially acceptable." She is very judgmental about people. Especially about their weight. She is super sensitive about pictures of herself, complains when she thinks it's a bad picture but if she's all dressed up for a party she wants something on Facebook. Once she wouldn't talk to me on FaceTime because she didn't like the way she looked at the moment. I think she remembers saying what she did about me, I just think she was lying about it. So, you could be right.

I don't even know what I'm asking here. My mom is 82, and looking back on growing up I see that she was always VERY critical of everything I did. I had to date the right people, be a cheerleader, be homecoming queen, have the right friends. Never enough. Always "why are you such a tomboy?" "Why do you walk like a farmhand?" Even after I was married it continued including being degraded in front of complete strangers. (Complaining about my weight. I weighed 120) Like she was always embarrassed by me. Took me years to figure this out. FWIW the boys were never treated like this, only we three girls. I have to say she is very generous financially, like expensive gifts. She has given me several antique pieces that are just beautiful. Now, hang in here, this is rambley. Yesterday she calls me and wants me to drive 3 hours to sister's, pick up sister and drive 5 hours to pick her up then back 5 to sister's house. Then I can drive 3 hours home. Then a day later 3 hours back to sister's, pick her up, 3 hours back to my house. She visits one day. Next day back to sister's, 3 hours, 5 more hours to take her back, 5 more hours to sister's house and 3 more home for me. I don't mind doing any of this but I will not do it for a 24 hour visit. I tell her so and the next day I am a bully who yelled at her and told her she was stupid. I keep telling myself that she might not be around for long and I should just let it roll off. Sometimes I think she is getting worse but then I look back and think no, I just had no idea how she was when I was growing up. I don't know. We are not on good terms this morning because I called and asked her why she was saying that about me. She denied it. Ugh.

Someone once told me that the best way to raise a pre- teen son is to put them in a barrel with a hole for passing food. Then when they become teenagers you plug the hole. I know your situation is not funny. I'm sorry. How would you react if he did not have other issues?

Consider this as me refraining.

I'm heartbroken for you. We have in and out cats and some that do both. Really, some cats do not tolerate being only indoor kitties. It always hurts so badly to lose one. Bless your sweet children's hearts.

Become an alcoholic drink drinker. Seriously, I didn't drink when I was a homeschooling mom. I drink now when I feel like it and when I don't feel like it I don't. When I was babysitting my grand girls recently my son said "mom, there's some rum in the kitchen" and me "YOU THINK I'M GOING TO DRINK WHILE I'M BABYSITTING" and my dil "my mom can't babysit UNLESS she's drinking!!" (which I doubt, I know her mom!)

YES! Also- chunkers (of junk) and junkers. Mayonnaise eaters vs Miracle Whip eaters. Single ply vs two ply toilet paper. The list is endless.

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I have a big rock retaining wall in my front garden around my raised beds and next year I want marigolds all around it's base. I've got tons of marigolds in the garden and they are beginning to go to seed. Is is too soon to harvest and sprinkle the seeds where I want the flowers next year? Should I harvest and save until spring? Or both?

Block him.

Me too.

Meh. He's old enough to do it himself and he should have. Mommy shouldn't have to hold his hand and give him a ride for this.

yep

Yep. Floaters and sinkers. But still crack them in a separate bowl so you don't ruin what you're making.

Your poor dds. That had to be hard on all of you. Shake the comments from the friend off. She's clueless.