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  1. Check Vandy’s homeschool requirements. A LOT of schools that are test-optional for everyone else are NOT test-optional homeschoolers.
  2. That's how it was last year for DD. This year is totally different - tons of stuff is happening. So much, in fact, that DD is sort of having whiplash and feels that everything she applied last year regarding time management/friendship management/ etc is moot and she has to start from scratch. She's frustrated but happy that things are "happening." She took on/was elected to a lot of leadership roles last year that felt totally doable - but this year they're having sooooo many meetings in person and scheduling tons of events (that she *has* to attend) that she's overwhelmed. πŸ˜• DSs school is back and forth like a pendulum! lol He's still trying to find a place for his feet to land. It's been online/back in person/maybe back online already and they're only several weeks into the semester! πŸ₯΄
  3. I'd base that decision solely on the academic competitiveness of the schools he is applying to. If his first ACT score is "in the range" of acceptance - then go for it and update that score later! If that score is low for that university - maybe hold off? Then, at least he could get a look at the music school apps for some of the schools he is applying to right now and focus on those first.
  4. I'd say black, since you're selling - but if that picture above of the Deep River Green is close to your shutter colors, it might make either the door or the shutters look off-color (since they'll be *so* close, but not quite the same). So, I'd probably opt to paint it that same color of green or a dark, rich brown or a dark orange.
  5. Stalk the girl's and her friends' public instagram accounts from last year for ideas! lol Homecoming really seems to vary by region/district. My homeschooled ds went to two homecoming dances and the only guys there wearing tuxes were the homecoming court escorts - everyone else at one wore suits, basically and the other group wore sports coats and khakis. The girls, in both cases, went with him to the florist and picked out what sort of flowers they wanted because he told them upfront that he had no idea. πŸ€ͺ He just paid the bill. One group split the cost of a limo (good thing because most of those kids got smashed before and after the dance) and the other, he drove his date to the dance and to the after-dance stuff himself & they met up with her friends there. Girls at both were all in short dresses with teeteringly tall heels they discarded as soon as they walked into the dance. πŸ˜„
  6. Between all of us in our family, we have each had to fly multiple times over the past year. I would go with zero hesitation. Bring an n-95 mask, keep it on. Aim the air thingy up above your head right on your head (they are filtering the air in that plane super fast, so the air thing is pushing freshly cleaned air right onto your head). Like I said, we've flown multiple times through pretty much ALL the stages of Covid. Never once had even a Covid scare after a flight. (Depending on our travel reasons, I've sometimes viewed the people we were going to see on the other side of the trip as more of a Covid risk than the flight itself!)
  7. We all loved Ted Lasso!! We just watched it with dopey smiles on our faces most of the time. πŸ’› Can’t wait for Season 2! More Ted Lasso positive energy! πŸ˜‚
  8. Here, all schools are planning to open in person in the fall - community colleges and four-year universities.
  9. I'm replying before I read the entire thread - but it would take a LOT for our family to lock down anywhere near as tight as we did the first time 'round. I honestly don't think the other 4 adults in our immediate family could handle it. I think it would take people bleeding out of their eyes with symptoms of this disease before we'd be able to muster up the energy to lock down that tight again. It'd be worse this time around because - the first time we didn't *know* what it would feel like. But with hindsight now - oof. And with having full freedom to go pretty much anywhere right now... I don't think we could manage another season of holing up. Especially if the vaccines are still basically working for the most part.
  10. When I'm out nowadays, I see maybe one masked person per 200 unmasked people. We don't wear masks anymore, but carry them with us so if a store has "masks required" or "please wear a mask" posted on their door, we'll pop our mask on before we enter their store. Other than that, we're trusting in the vaccine (while still washing hands like crazy and giving strangers plenty of space around us).
  11. Oh, wow. I haven't heard of this happening - but it is certainly not okay!! 😢 If you ever figure out the problem and solution, please post it here for posterity's sake in case it ever happens to others!
  12. My daughter is a college freshman, but she and most of her friends wear either no show socks or knee high socks. LOTS of mostly-white tennis shoes, most commonly Adidas or Nike. Also Converse. I’ve attached two photos to sort of show the knee high socks and the tennis shoe style most of them have (diff colors, of course, but this genera style).
  13. Oh, sure! But my kids are all grown adults whose schedules are all over the place, coming and going all the time (or, during pandemic, holed up in their rooms doing schoolwork and coming out for breaks). They're a bit old to tell to stay in their room. πŸ˜… It's now me "alone" with one or two others all the time. So it's not that they are bombarding me all at once - it's just that when any of them are alone in the house with me, or there's only a couple people home, they want to chat while they have the time. They do take the dogs all the time - for walks, to the park, etc. But, there are a lot of hours in the day, and we have a lot of dogs! Someone is always in need of something. Maybe I need to set up office hours. πŸ˜‚ I'm just mainly focusing on the fact that things are opening back up, the kids are starting to move forward with their life plans after being stalled for a year, and one day I'll be wistful, sitting in a quiet house wishing one of my busy kids would call me on the phone. πŸ˜… DH will always be needy, but we'll find a new normal once the kids are on a regular out-of-the-house schedule again.
  14. Thanks, everybody. I feel better knowing I'm not alone in being initially confused by this. Your explanations helped tremendously; I do appreciate it. We had a long conversation today and I think this kid has a spark after all... There are a few complications to his application: a paid off house and $$$$ in the bank (that will be used next year to buy a new house... but the CSS won't know that. I'm trying to convince them to buy sooner, rather than later, if the market chills out soon...). They own their own business, never went to college, and are super busy, which is why I'm helping him out. The good news is that he's really not a super picky/school-snobby kid. He has a pretty basic engineering major in mind and a few location-specific requirements (for his sport) and he really does want to go out of state (I don't blame him) - but has to remain close to a coach/team/training facility (there is potential for the next Olympics, if he makes up his mind to do the work). It's a new learning experience for me! I ran away from understanding the financial calculators as long as I could and each of my kids started to get big scholarship offers before we had to get down to the nitty gritty of actual costs of college, so I'm woefully inexperienced on this particular aspect. He has a 33 ACT right now and is taking it at least two more times. At home, his practice tests are in the 35 range, he told me today. Not that that'll make much difference over a 34, but... πŸ™‚ (And color me shocked. This kid is sweet, but comes off as quite an airhead. lol! Just shows you can't judge a book by its cover! He's just always been sooooo chilllllllllll. My son says that information just soaks into his brain and he never forgets a thing. But... soooooo chillllllll about it. I've "known" him as a friend of ds's for years and had no idea he was smart (DS goes camping & boating/skiing with him a lot - he has a lot of friends I only sort of know, lol). I just thought he was the Chief Party Dude and Chick Magnet (which he is - both...). πŸ˜… DS says when he shows up for Honors Society/AP student stuff the other students are always surprised to see him there, but they find out that he has highest GPA in the class & is apparently in line to be valedictorian of his very large high school without anyone other than the hs counselor realizing it. Last year, a teacher wrote him up for suspected cheating at the beginning of the year (pre-Covid - so over a year ago?) and he had to stay and take a new short-answer test alone with the teacher and the principal in the room plus write an essay from scratch. He aced it and the teacher said it was probably the most thoughtful essay he's ever read. He wrote the kid a letter of apology and complimented him on his writing and has mentored him since, encouraging him to enter essay competitions that the kid hasn't bothered to do, lol. I guess the kid isn't quite as white-bread boring as he makes himself out to be. He'll have to work some of this into his essays - he might have a hook after all! I'm going to have to sit down with him and ask him more questions since there's more than meets the eye. I have a feeling we're just scratching the surface. Olympic training, effortless valedictorian, and suspected cheating proved wrong doesn't equal "no hook, I'm boring" to me. And I think that teacher or principal should be who is writing his LoR if he hasn't asked him already...) (also - realizing that none of this will necessarily help him attain a huge merit/competitive scholarship since he really hasn't "done" anything other than his sport - but it should help ensure his acceptance at most schools he'll apply to... but if it came down to an interview, he's a pretty darn good conversationalist)
  15. ooooh, yes. Same, sister. SisterS, apparently, after skimming this thread. My dh also just accepted a promotion that will allow him to work from home except when he needs to go out and visit offices/jobs/people here and there. But homebase is now home. This would have been UNHEARD of in 2019 - but his office just did a renovation and REDUCED the number of offices in the space. 😳 So, it's a trend that's here to stay for at least a couple of years! It's been a long learning curve of a year. We did build an office for him so he has his space. This is nice, but it's unfortunately *literally* at the center of the house, so his extroverted energy permeates right through the doors. lol DH is lovely. He is also loud, extroverted, high-energy. I am the exact opposite of all of those things. With the kids being at home 24/7 as well, they all talk at me. A lot. A LOTTTTT. We've had several heart to hearts when my cup is running over (not in a good way) and we've mostly come to a comfortable arrangement. I'm no longer homeschooling, though, and will be going back to work soon, so DH will be home alone several days each week. My introvert self is seriously suffering, though. There's nowhere I can go in my own house and be truly alone. Someone always finds me. It's as bad as when the kids were little!!! And, if it's not them, it's one of our dogs, which have become SO NEEDY during the pandemic. lol They're so used to having my full attention as well that when I sneak off, they come looking for me too. No matter where I go. *sigh* Good luck!
  16. Help! 😁 Speak slowly because this stuff always confuses me. We've not needed the information since my kids got specific scholarships that sort of canceled out the need to know this information. However, I'm now helping a friend of my son, who will be applying to school next year. We used a school's financial calculator this evening, using his parents' tax information. This is a CSS Profile School and says they will "meet demonstrated financial need." The "expected family contribution" at the end of that calculator gave us around $12,300 as the EFC. But, the "Total Due" at the end (after subtracting $ for ACT/SAT scholarship, some grant money, and the $3,000 federal loan) said the balance was $24,837. If the family's "EFC" is only $12,300, how is the balance due $24,837? Obviously I'm missing something super obvious, so obviously I'm asking for some obvious help. πŸ€­πŸ˜… πŸ₯΄ Dealing with these huge numbers has always confused me, so I've been grateful that my kids were able to secure scholarships that either put the Balance Due at $0 or a nice, round number I could deal with. DS's friend isn't likely going to have that kind of luck. He's a strong student (4.+ GPA, 33-34 ACT, good student with lots of APs) but not a lot of extracurriculars other than his sport (which isn't a DI sport, unfortunately... because he's amazing), white-bread kid with no catchy hooks/life story/volunteer hours other than his sport success and lots and lots and lots of outdoor, camping time and probably a lot of party-dude skillz, lol. So - we're not expecting any of the large, competitive scholarships to work out for him (not that he won't apply if/when possible...). So, he has a list of schools and we're sorting them out and digging through the calculators to see which schools he can already scratch off his list, and which are worth applying to. He wants to go out of state.
  17. We're looking at August 23rd for both kids - but one is moving in a week early for an on-campus job training. Considering that I'll be driving/helping with move-in, I'm really glad that worked out the way it did!
  18. This just makes me tear up. I hate how much it's taken for granted that we'll all see/learn/hear things through social media. And, in the early days of trying to secure vaccine appointments, that is EXACTLY where I learned when/where/how to get appointments for all the people I was assisting. People very much like this young man - who just didn't have the right social media connections, or know where to look for this information - people who wanted to get vaccinated, but just don't know how! πŸ˜• I don't know how to fix the problem, but it makes me sad to hear that people are sort of information stranded for sheer lack of know how. I'm so glad you were able to point him in the right direction to get the vaccine! Boy, wasn't it, though?! I spent hours upon hours refreshing the computer over and over for days and days trying to get appointments secured for older (and, later, vulnerable) family members, neighbors, and friends. We know a lot of people who didn't get vaccinated because it was all "too much" to keep up with. Now that there's a vaccine on pretty much every corner, though, those same people are still lazy about it. They're not particularly "against" getting the vaccine... they just can't be bothered. These are people who've pretty much been living life as normal for the past year, so I guess the vaccine didn't carry the promise of "freedom" like it did for me, yk?
  19. I LOVE THIS!!! YAY for choices and I hope this is just the beginning of some freedom for these young gymnasts to have some autonomy. My girls personally know several girls who quit gymnastics after a certain age because of body issues. They suddenly felt very exposed in their competition leotards even though they had been competing for years. As their bodies changed, they became very self aware and uncomfortable and quit the sport entirely. πŸ˜• That's just not a thing that should happen because of a leotard. πŸ˜• Letting the boys have shorts that are a couple inches longer and letting the girls determine the length of the legs of their leotards just shouldn't be such a struggle, yk? I've always heard the "Body lines" argument - but the boys are wearing loose-legged PANTS for half of their competitions. Body lines be damned!
  20. Agreed. The girls in the families we know are just so.... bland. Their brothers are allowed to go out and have adventures, interests that don't revolve around the home, careers, education, etc. And the girls just stay at home, being meek and mild. If they aren't in a scenario to MEET young men who WANT a meek and mild wife - they aren't ever going to be able to get married! Because they sure aren't going out to look for those men themselves, yk? I honestly feel like the dads in these scenarios should take on a lot of that responsibility. If you're going to be a patriarch, then it's your job to find matches for your daughter. If SHE isn't allowed, then it's YOUR job to give her that life you've promised her (a husband to provide for her and babies, babies, babies!). Because the dads we know just sit back, relishing having so many daughters to "help mom" or to "take care of the house" without fulfilling THEIR part of the bargain. It makes me mad, honestly, to see these young women just ... languishing ... after being so hopeful for a husband at a young age and starting their own families. πŸ˜• I've seen this pattern too. I honestly do hate to see ANY woman who has wanted nothing more than to have a family and babies not get to have that opportunity. It hurts my heart. If I'd have never met my husband, I probably would have just gone on with life, never thinking a bit about babies (until I was older, probably, lol) But some girls are just either wired that way or programmed from a young age to have that desire and it's heartwrenching to watch them slowly realize that it's not going to happen. Especially when they're been so careful to do things the "right way" as they've been taught and to watch other young women NOT do things "the right way" and still get husbands and babies before they do.
  21. My husband and I were just mulling over this very thing fairly recently! We also had a large cohort of people around us who were raising their kids with the stay-at-home daughter/courtship mindset. All were our kids' ages up to about 6 years older. It's been fascinating. One large family married off their oldest daughter via the courtship route. She was on the older side of the group and this was held as the perfect example of courtship "Working." That dd is still married with two young children so far. That same family had four daughters immediately following that one - plus one son (and younger children as well). The next-oldest daughter is ~26 years now and has never dated or courted anyone. She still lives at home and works random jobs. Next-oldest daughter is ~24 years old and same scenario. The son is ~22. Has been "courting" his girlfriend for 4 years now? (HOW does that work?) No engagement so far. It's the oddest thing. The next daughter is 20 and has not courted anyone. The family doesn't attend church (they homechurch) so I'm not sure where the girls are supposed to meet these young men who are supposed to be courting them? Family #2 preached courting from the highest hilltops. The mother made some nasty public comments about my own kids (who were *gasp* dating) that got back to me. πŸ€ͺ Their oldest son "courted" one girl but they broke up. Then started "courting" another girl - knocked her up (lazy courtship restrictions? lol). They broke up (nasty breakup) and now he's splitting time with his ex and their young son (he's about 3 years old now). The family has since given up on courtship and their next kids (a daughter and three more sons) have started regular old dating. Another family "courted" their two daughters, who were married right out of high school. Both were divorced within 2 years of marriage. Both are now remarried to people of their own choosing and their personalities have changed dramatically. I think there was more going on at home for both of these girls, though. Marriage was an escape and once they were in the marriage, they were free to leave it. Another large family - first son courted and married a very sweet girl and have had 5 children so far. They are homesteading, homeschooling, etc. Makes their family proud. The next son turned out to be gay. The family *shockingly and happily* became very open minded about this and have embraced him and his partner. He's talked to the parents about the restrictions they'd placed on him when he was younger and they've loosened up for the next children. Two more have gotten married after a sort of hybrid courtship/dating model (the parents basically set the kids up, but the parents didn't chaperone their every move. Each of the kids courted/dated probably 2 or 3 people before finding their match and settling down. Last family had what is probably the perfect/pure courtship experience. Only son. Started courting a girl from his homeschool co-op/church after he was out of high school for two years (she was a senior at the time). He became a licensed electrician, bought his first house, became engaged exactly one year after their courtship began, and were married about 3 months later. They're on year two. It's been interesting because the success rate of the courting families is pretty much about the same as the dating families as far as successful relationships / pre-marital kids / etc. So it sure seems like a lot of work to me.
  22. Our neighbors have immediate family in India well. So much miscommunication and confusion going on right now - elevating the already super stressful situation. 😞
  23. Agreeing with these suggestions! πŸ‘
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