Packaged lettuce is usually dipped in citric acid or aceitic acid or l-cysteine——restaurants use a spray with sulfites. If the gastro reaction is severe I am a bit worried it’s anaphylactic and you’ve just been lucky that it hasnt gone respiratory so far. I’d try to get in with an allergist for testing and epipens. My coconut allergy started off gastro only but did not stay that way.

So glad they did an investigative report and published findings to try to hold those responsible accountable. It was not only a disgrace, but it put so many into serious and real danger. Thanks for updating!

Hugs!

Continuing to think of you, OP.

Of the nonprescription stuff, for normal people, Sensodyne Pronamel is great. Biotene is awesome for people with dry mouth, gum issues, or other medical stuff going on. Rx fluoride toothpaste—Clinpro tastes better than Prevident, imo.

It’s really awesome news that her crp and sed rate are normal. I get that that doesnt resolve whatever it is that she is dealing with, but it does mean she’s not dealing with a huge swath of autoimmune diseases along with whatever is going on. You’re narrowing down a big picture of potential issues, and that *is* real and significant progress.

So glad they are doing a stat MRI.

Not all crimes are reported, but there are pretty good charts published about crime perpetrators by gender. About 90% of violent attacks by strangers are performed by men with male victims. Worldwide, women are the victims of about 85% of intimate partner violence, with women aged 16-24 the most likely to be attacked.

No manufacturer coupon anymore, and goodrx doesnt budge price much. Costco offers a 20% off if you dont bill insurance….which is still crazy expensive. IIRC, the trial and fail of a previous med doesnt take long…I know it seems pointless to re-fail a medicine, but do you have free time this summer for your kid to do it again?

How many of those attackers were female? People have mentioned that both men and women have been attacked…but how many were attacked by females?

We don’t actually purchase anything that has deposits. People just look through everyone’s bins on trash day and so ours get hit too.

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We have problems with both. The houseless raid our trash cans for recycling they can turn in for the deposit money.

Fair. So, what are your actual experiences out with teenage daughters and strange men lately? I have two teen daughters and two young adult men. My young adult men can ride public transport relatively safely here by themselves. My teen daughters have had incidents even when with us. There are real patterns of behavior they experience around “strange” men and they arent wrong to be wary as a result.

I live in a state with an estimated 30,000 black bears. There have been three reported attacks ever, none fatal. There are regular bear sightings around me and we are all in the forests regularly. Strange bear > strange man any day.

Someone upthread asked about tall people in the 3rd row of an Odyssey. They fit fine. We have a 8 passenger and to haul lots of cargo we fold down either one seat or two in the back, and we can pop out any of the seats (sides or middle) to accommodate really long stuff. I hauled 8’ long stuff in it this week by fitting the end between the driver and passenger seats. I can parallel park it just fine, but anything large enough to fit a bass + people by volume by definition has to be large and therefore a PITA to drive in the city. That said, I can haul amazing amounts of tall people and gear in the thing, and do quite regularly. My biggest person is 6’3”, 220lb and easily fits in any of the back seats. I regularly have 3 people over 6’ sitting across the back row. The middle row middle seat is the smallest, but the issue there is width, not height. We usually have its top down flipped to the console side unless we need all 8 seats.

Overall high inflammation levels can make you super sleepy too. It was hard for me to sort that out—actually went off zyrtec when I went onto an immunosuppressant and the fatigue remained. But, everyone’s body is different. You could ask to switch to loratadine and see if that helps.

"I understand that you need a person to vent to about your frustrations. But, when you vent about your frustrations, I receive that as you using me as a dumping ground for your negative emotions. It doesn't feel good to receive that. I'm glad that I'm a safe person for you to vent to, but for my own mental health and sanity...." and then say whatever your boundary and consequence are going to be. I give my kids a 3 minute freebie, but constant griping gets fined...with whatever stick works for that kid. Usually I carrot and stick. I reward going x amount of time without griping, and I assign either a financial penalty or a chore (depending on the kid) for griping. Emotional labor is labor. If they are asking me to do labor for them, they can do physical labor for me. FWIW, my constant dumper of emotions doesn't want to do the emotional labor of sorting through their own frustrations, so they just kind of pile it all up in their brain and then dump their problems on me. I realize that that is a growing emotional skills phase of development, and I want them to know that when they need me, I'm there for them, but also I'm not able to handle constant all day long dumping. They can make a list and vent at me later in the day when I'm able to listen, and then go for a walk and let go of their transferred stress. When a kid comes up to me and starts to dump I will stop and ask them, "Is this a problem that you need help solving right now or are you just frustrated?"

IMO, misogyny goes way, way back but the rise of hate radio (Rush Limbaugh), the ending of political cooperation between parties (mid 1990s also), the start of Faux News (1996), and the push by the Koch brothers to fund professors who acted as lobbyists and other think tank drivers—-all of that unholy swirl of junk in the 1990s changed us as a society and began driving wedges. The current toxic swirl of people like Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson fuel algorithmic changes to what you see and listen to that take you to darker places. People feel isolated and insecure—and there are social media personas who prey upon that.

I think it’s part of a greater societal sickness re: lack of empathy, lack of respect for women, transactional relationships, etc. I also think the other stresses on Gen Z (affordable housing, access to healthcare, media trolls, etc.) factor into this. I think an analogue may be South Korea. Women choose to be alone or in a Golden Girls setup than marry into terrible. I know women who divorced husbands who became radicalized by politics and other things (red pill, manosphere, Faux news) and all of them have said they will never marry again—shack up, maybe, or get a FWB situation, but they will never give up having their own home and separate finances after the crap their exhusbands put them through.

Dd says there are older teens she knows who are down this rabbit hole—follow Andrew Tate and say horrible stuff like he says. She’s had to deal with a few of them in class.

I am sorry you are in such a stressful situation: Timeline for Typing and staging, if it hasnt been done suggested treatment plan and timeline for that—note that radiation can take a few weeks to start, and sometimes tissue testing is done to better match your chemo plan to your particular cancer type if negative now, whether a proactive masectomy would be something to consider/something insurance would cover think a lot about what you want out of your masectomy—aesthetic flat closure (chest wall reconstruction), regular flat closure, later DIEP flap reconstruction, etc.

@Lecka—Walmart online has this brand much cheaper than amazon or elsewhere. Be sure to price around because the WM prices I am seeing online are cheaper than in store here.

Finely ground tea is designed to release a lot of flavor at once and dont have much flavor round 2. Teas that are made of larger components will taste ok round 2. I sometimes rebrew, but only when drinking back to back. I dont let much time pass due to my fears (perhaps unfounded) about bacteria.

I’d build out the back of the cabinet so the spines of the books sit close to the top of the fridge and then put in a thick wooden shelf or box of the same tone as the door. It would add some warmth. ETA: look at Trailrunner’s pics on Houzz