So being a good mother-in-law I made a decision

[lynn]

To tell my son and dil that since we have something going on as a family every weekend this month that it would be okay with me if they didn't choose to come for Thanksgiving, they are an hour way and will be driving here several times this.month.  I thought more of my son who travels daily for work and he could relax and be with in laws who are closer.  My dil thanked me and that they chose to do Thanksgiving with her family.  Now I'm a little sad that we won't be together but okay with it at the same time.

Edited November 14, 2023 by lynn

[maize]

Well done

[Kassia]

Yes, well done.  I know it's hard, but sounds like it will be very good for your son and his family.  I'm sure they appreciate you doing that.  

[BusyMom5]

Hugs!  My oldest isn't coming home for TG for the first time.  She's going to her boyfriend's family.  It's logical (we are 6.5 hours away,  they are one), but it's still kinda hard.  Hugs!  I think it just sunk in for mine that she won't be here to do our normal stuff, including the tree.  I'm trying to be supportive and upbeat for her!  

[fairfarmhand]

Good for you, and I get the mixed feelings. I've resolved to be the most low maintenance mother and mother in law ever, especially around the holidays. 

[Harriet Vane]

An act of selflessness and courage that will pay you back in terms of the trust and safety and goodwill in the relationships. Good for you!!! 

[Anne]

And now you can plan a great time for your family when your son & dil do come - It can be whatever version of special works for you and yours.   Don’t put Celebrations in a calendar box!

And I know its super hard the first time your kid doesn’t come home..