OnTheBrink Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ok, I've posted before ( a while back) about a man at church who does really sweet things for me, never asking for anything in return. I've offered to make him some cookies, etc, but he always politely declines, saying that he wouldn't eat more than two. He always says he's just happy to do these things for me. So, knowing he does woodwork, I asked him if he had time to make my dd a doll bed for Christmas. I asked him to give me an estimate of the cost, too. Well, tonight, he said that the cost was under $15 and that he was happy to do it and didn't want to charge me for his time. I really want to do something nice for him. Is it appropriate to make dinner for him? (I know he likes my cooking; that info has trickled down to me from his friends). I know I must sound like a complete idiot, being my age and not having a clue what to do in this situation, so go easy on me. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ok, I've posted before ( a while back) about a man at church who does really sweet things for me, never asking for anything in return. I've offered to make him some cookies, etc, but he always politely declines, saying that he wouldn't eat more than two. He always says he's just happy to do these things for me. So, knowing he does woodwork, I asked him if he had time to make my dd a doll bed for Christmas. I asked him to give me an estimate of the cost, too. Well, tonight, he said that the cost was under $15 and that he was happy to do it and didn't want to charge me for his time. I really want to do something nice for him. Is it appropriate to make dinner for him? (I know he likes my cooking; that info has trickled down to me from his friends). I know I must sound like a complete idiot, being my age and not having a clue what to do in this situation, so go easy on me. ;) Is he interested in you??? It sounds that way to me. If you aren't interested in possibly starting a relationship, dinner probably isn't the way to go. If you are, I'd say it's perfect :D Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 I say bake the man a lasagna with beef, buffalo, and/or sausage as a "thank you" for all he's done for you and your family. Being kind can never be taken the wrong way. And if he's interested in you, so much the better! Wait. Are you married? :D Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Well... I think we need more information. Does he just do sweet things for you, or is he actually sweet on you? Are you sweet on him? Were you thinking of inviting him to your place for dinner? Because dinner could be dinner, or it could be, you know, dinner. As in, a date. Or were you thinking of sending him home with his meal to go? It's totally appropriate, though, to do something for him and you are a dear to want to show your appreciation in this way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 She drops this bomb, and then leaves!!! :eek: Details!!!! Does he like you? do you like him? Come on!! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 You know, I've wanted to ask you about this situation for awhile now, but I didn't want to be too pushy. Well, what do you think about him? If you cooked dinner for him and he acted like he was interested in you, would that be okay? If he didn't show interest, would you be hurt? Can you imagine yourself being alone with him? I don't mean in bed or anything, I mean can you imagine just sitting with him and talking and does that thought make you smile? If you think you'd possibly be interested in him, cook him dinner. If you aren't at all interested, give him a gift card to Home Depot. Or Lowe's. Or Macaroni Grill or something. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aggie Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 I agree with Barb. If you're not interested in a relationship, a gift card to Home Depot would probably be appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 I'm with the other ladies, we need more details before we can answer. If you are interested-invite him to dinner by all means. If you are not interested, I'm afraid asking him to dinner may imply that you are and you should therefore do something different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Well... I think we need more information. Does he just do sweet things for you, or is he actually sweet on you? Are you sweet on him? Were you thinking of inviting him to your place for dinner? Because dinner could be dinner, or it could be, you know, dinner. As in, a date. Or were you thinking of sending him home with his meal to go? Yeah, see that's what I was wondering because I can't see how bringing a guy a meatloaf could in any way be inappropriate. But if Michelle's *inviting* him to dinner I want to hear more :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Details!!!! Does he like you? do you like him? Come on!! :D I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thought this. And golly. I hope I'm not confusing her with another mom, because I really wanted to say, "Well, honey, make sure he's not gay before you invite him over!" And then I started imagining all the funny ways one could go about acquiring that information. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted September 18, 2008 Author Share Posted September 18, 2008 *wailing in frustration* I don't know!!!! I do like him, and if he asked me out, I'd go in a heartbeat. But, I've been divorced for over a year, and he's never asked me out once. But, he comes over and helps me with my car (before I bought the new one), he picks things up at Sam's for me if I ask, and he watches me. I see him watching me (not in a creepy, stalker way, but I'll be at church in conversation with someone and look up to find him watching me. What does that mean??) His friends are very very nice to me (more so in the last year than previously). A friend asked me tonight if I'd date him. She doesn't have any "inside info" or anything, but said that he's so nice, and I'm so nice, that we should date. But since he's never asked me out, I guess we're not gonna date. LOL But I don't know if he needs encouragement that I like him, or if I'm giving a weird signal or if he's just a great guy helping out the single mom. After being SO deceived by EX, I'm petrified of misreading or misinterpreting this and I really don't want to look foolish. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thought this. And golly. I hope I'm not confusing her with another mom, because I really wanted to say, "Well, honey, make sure he's not gay before you invite him over!" And then I started imagining all the funny ways one could go about acquiring that information. :smilielol5::smilielol5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted September 18, 2008 Author Share Posted September 18, 2008 I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thought this. And golly. I hope I'm not confusing her with another mom, because I really wanted to say, "Well, honey, make sure he's not gay before you invite him over!" And then I started imagining all the funny ways one could go about acquiring that information. ROFL! He's made it abundantly clear to me over the past year or so that he is most assuredly NOT gay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 *wailing in frustration* I don't know!!!! I do like him, and if he asked me out, I'd go in a heartbeat. But, I've been divorced for over a year, and he's never asked me out once. But, he comes over and helps me with my car (before I bought the new one), he picks things up at Sam's for me if I ask, and he watches me. I see him watching me (not in a creepy, stalker way, but I'll be at church in conversation with someone and look up to find him watching me. What does that mean??) His friends are very very nice to me (more so in the last year than previously). A friend asked me tonight if I'd date him. She doesn't have any "inside info" or anything, but said that he's so nice, and I'm so nice, that we should date. But since he's never asked me out, I guess we're not gonna date. LOL But I don't know if he needs encouragement that I like him, or if I'm giving a weird signal or if he's just a great guy helping out the single mom. After being SO deceived by EX, I'm petrified of misreading or misinterpreting this and I really don't want to look foolish. If he is doing all that stuff for you and watching you (in a non creepy way) he likes ya Sister!!!! Go for it. Make him a meal. That will def. be the test for if he likes you "that" way or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 ... and he watches me. I see him watching me (not in a creepy, stalker way, but I'll be at church in conversation with someone and look up to find him watching me. What does that mean??) He totally likes you. That's what that means. He likes you. He's shy. Invite him to dinner. Now. Do it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aggie Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ya know, sometimes the men are the clueless ones. :) Not in a bad way, there's sometimes just an innocence about them. Have him over for sup, then, I say. BTW, I know several women who actually asked their now-dhs (apostrophe or no?!) first. Not a women's lib thing, just a casual "let's go out". Because the men didn't have a clue. Aggie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Girl...you two are in love :D Invite the man to dinner! Bill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Okay, I'm putting on my Dear Angie hat: Invite the man to dinner. Find out what he likes and cook it. Make something really yummy. But have dd make the dessert or something. And keep her around. You like him, you like him, you like him!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 He totally likes you. That's what that means. He likes you. He's shy. Invite him to dinner. Now. Do it now. No pressure or anything. :001_huh: Hehehehehehe :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted September 18, 2008 Author Share Posted September 18, 2008 If he is doing all that stuff for you and watching you (in a non creepy way) he likes ya Sister!!!! Go for it. Make him a meal. That will def. be the test for if he likes you "that" way or not. Will you come over and hold my hand so I don't have a nervous breakdown? Or would that send the wrong message? LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Girl...you two are in love :D Invite the man to dinner! Bill See a MAN agrees with us!!!!! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom to Aly Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Michelle, if it were me, I would invite him over for dinner. Now, I've been single for 5 years, well, that is when I found out about my xh, anyway, and I still haven't gotten ready to date yet, but if I were you, I'd go for it, as in, um, do the dinner thing. That is making the first move without really risking anything, kwim? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Okay, I'm putting on my Dear Angie hat: Invite the man to dinner. Find out what he likes and cook it. Make something really yummy. But have dd make the dessert or something. And keep her around. You like him, you like him, you like him!!!!! :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Will you come over and hold my hand so I don't have a nervous breakdown? Or would that send the wrong message? LOL Hmmmm..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom to Aly Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Will you come over and hold my hand so I don't have a nervous breakdown? Or would that send the wrong message? LOL :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Girl...you two are in love :D Invite the man to dinner! Bill Bill (dear Bill) is just crazy bold tonight. He used the "L" word! :willy_nilly::willy_nilly::willy_nilly: And I knew at once he was right! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Will you come over and hold my hand so I don't have a nervous breakdown? Or would that send the wrong message? LOL hehehehe Sure I will be right over. :auto: We can put an earpiece thing in your ear and I can tell ya what to say and......................hey wait this sounds like a really bad movie :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jojomojo Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 BTW, I know several women who actually asked their now-dhs (apostrophe or no?!) first. Not a women's lib thing, just a casual "let's go out". Because the men didn't have a clue. If I hadn't asked my husband out years ago, we wouldn't be together! He was way too shy lol I say invite him over for dinner! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Will you come over and hold my hand so I don't have a nervous breakdown? Or would that send the wrong message? LOL We can't hold your hand, any of us, but we can send recipes, and we can wait up late, trolling the boards, waiting, waiting for a report. And then we'll collectively scream with delight when you refuse to tell us whether he kissed you goodnight! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom to Aly Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Girl...you two are in love :D Invite the man to dinner! Bill Well, I hate to quote you when so many others have, Bill (I like to be the odd one out, you know ;)), but I can hear a sort of Barry White voice here stating: Girl...you two are in love :D -- and now it is ringing in my ears!!! Hey, Bill for president!!! You've got my vote!!! Um, can we discuss a few issues later? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted September 18, 2008 Author Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ok. I'll ask him to dinner. But I can't do it NOW because it's almost 11 pm and the man is a pilot and most likely has to fly in the morning. So, if it's ok with the rest of you, can I wait until I see him Sunday and do it in person? Email or phone seems chickeny. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Well, I hate to quote you when so many others have, Bill (I like to be the odd one out, you know ;)), but I can hear a sort of Barry White voice here stating: Girl...you two are in love :D -- and now it is ringing in my ears!!! Hey, Bill for president!!! You've got my vote!!! Um, can we discuss a few issues later? Anytime Kiran :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Okay, I'm putting on my Dear Angie hat: Invite the man to dinner. Find out what he likes and cook it. Make something really yummy. But have dd make the dessert or something. And keep her around. You like him, you like him, you like him!!!!! Totally :iagree: On all counts. I'm just all :w00t::w00t::w00t: over here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 We can't hold your hand, any of us, but we can send recipes, and we can wait up late, trolling the boards, waiting, waiting for a report. And then we'll collectively scream with delight when you refuse to tell us whether he kissed you goodnight! Please don't do that, that just wouldn't be fair, don't we deserve to know since like, we helped (or tried to) you and all........:001_huh: I think i am getting ahead of myself.....er,.......yourself. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ok. I'll ask him to dinner. But I can't do it NOW because it's almost 11 pm and the man is a pilot and most likely has to fly in the morning. So, if it's ok with the rest of you, can I wait until I see him Sunday and do it in person? Email or phone seems chickeny. YOU ROCK!!! :party: Absolutely ask him in person on Sunday. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ok. I'll ask him to dinner. But I can't do it NOW because it's almost 11 pm and the man is a pilot and most likely has to fly in the morning. So, if it's ok with the rest of you, can I wait until I see him Sunday and do it in person? Email or phone seems chickeny. Yes, in person on Sunday (this Sunday!). This is exciting :D Bill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted September 18, 2008 Author Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ok, if he plants a smooch, I'll let you know. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ok. I'll ask him to dinner. But I can't do it NOW because it's almost 11 pm and the man is a pilot and most likely has to fly in the morning. So, if it's ok with the rest of you, can I wait until I see him Sunday and do it in person? Email or phone seems chickeny. But tomorrow is only Thursday. Why can't you call him tomorrow? And you could invite him for Sunday evening. If you do it your way we'll have to wait longer, and we don't want to. We are dating through you and we don't feel like waiting til sometime next week. We want to have him over this weekend. Do you want us to call him for you? :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 But tomorrow is only Thursday. Why can't you call him tomorrow? And you could invite him for Sunday evening. If you do it your way we'll have to wait longer, and we don't want to. We are dating through you and we don't feel like waiting til sometime next week. We want to have him over this weekend. Do you want us to call him for you? :lol::lol::lol: Uh Huh, Uh Huh, what she said! :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Ok. I'll ask him to dinner. But I can't do it NOW because it's almost 11 pm and the man is a pilot and most likely has to fly in the morning. So, if it's ok with the rest of you, can I wait until I see him Sunday and do it in person? Email or phone seems chickeny. Good thinking. It's only 9 here; I forgot about the time difference. We'll totally check on you to make sure you did it, though, Sunday afternoon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Yes, in person on Sunday (this Sunday!). This is exciting :D Bill Yeah, this board needed something like a fresh romance to focus on . We're getting way too uptight ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 I think i am getting ahead of myself.....er,.......yourself. :tongue_smilie: Heck, I'm already planning their honeymoon! (He's a pilot! They can go anywhere! And they'll be so in love that flying standby will be no problem, all that waiting around. My dad was a pilot so I know all the tricks. I'm ready to offer up all kinds of packing advice, too!) Bill is right. This is exciting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Heck, I'm already planning their honeymoon! (He's a pilot! They can go anywhere! And they'll be so in love that flying standby will be no problem, all that waiting around. My dad was a pilot so I know all the tricks. I'm ready to offer up all kinds of packing advice, too!) Bill is right. This is exciting. This is isn't it?? And a pilot....how romantic.....:001_wub:. Ok this was the "dreamiest" emoticon I could find. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted September 18, 2008 Author Share Posted September 18, 2008 Sorry, you'll have to wait. Tomorrow is the doctor's appointment when we find out the results of DD's blood work. I can't be thinking about tall, moustached pilots with blue eyes and be in the same room with EX while the doc tells us what's wrong with DD. And, I want to see his facial reaction when I ask. If he looks horrified, then I'll know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Governess Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Wow, this thread became 4 pages long in a split second!! :D It DOES sound like he's interested. I'm so anxious/excited for you!! Aaaah! He better say yes! Or he'll have quite a few homeschooling moms to deal with. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Sorry, you'll have to wait. Tomorrow is the doctor's appointment when we find out the results of DD's blood work. I can't be thinking about tall, moustached pilots with blue eyes and be in the same room with EX while the doc tells us what's wrong with DD. And, I want to see his facial reaction when I ask. If he looks horrified, then I'll know. Oh my goodness!! Err...can you video it and put it on youtube for us? :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 He better say yes! Or he'll have quite a few homeschooling moms to deal with. :lol: I can't imagine he'd say no. He'd have to be crazy. We could TP his house, though, if he did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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OnTheBrink Posted September 18, 2008 Author Share Posted September 18, 2008 Heck, I'm already planning their honeymoon! (He's a pilot! They can go anywhere! And they'll be so in love that flying standby will be no problem, all that waiting around. My dad was a pilot so I know all the tricks. I'm ready to offer up all kinds of packing advice, too!) Bill is right. This is exciting. He's not a commercial pilot, so I'm not sure how many perks he'd get on a commercial airline. Besides, we've not had dinner yet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 Oh my goodness!! Err...can you video it and put it on youtube for us? :lol: :001_huh: Why are you laughing this is a FANTASTIC idea!!!!! Anyone have a video camera we can overnight??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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