Alicia64 Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I'm not good without enough sleep. I'm an absolute zombie if I haven't gotten at least seven hours. So, I told my boys, both 11, that they could open the gifts that were "from Santa" (they don't believe anymore). These were highly prized Lego gifts that were first on their wish list. So I thought that they'd open them w/ DH and just play Legos until I got up at 9 a.m. (I actually was hoping I'd be up by 8, but -- okay -- dh wanted TeA for his gift the night before. I was tired.) Last night, as the boys were falling asleep, they told me that it just didn't feel right to open those gifts and then just walk out of the room as if nothing special was happening. I was so sad for them. DH was there. I thought they'd play. It sounded like it was just "blah." And, in fairness to my kids, DH doesn't make things fun. He's pretty low-key. But DH did make cinnamon rolls and they were gone by the time I woke up. This sounded lovely to me. It wasn't until bedtime that they complained. Once I woke up we had plenty of presents to unwrap. I feel so badly for them.They sounded low telling me about it. I felt/feel like a bad mom. Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Tick Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I think it just sounds like a life-lesson for them. This was what they thought they wanted, what every kid thinks they want. Next year they will probably be happy to wait. Maybe they will spend their morning making you cinnamon rolls! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 You know, it's quite possible that it didn't have anything to do with you. I remember reaching a point where Christmas didn't seem "magical" anymore and it was disappointing for a few years. It didn't have to do with not believing in Santa any longer, because it started a few years after that. I think I was about 11 or 12 but I'm not sure. I just have a strong memory of "blah" Christmases for a while. Then, it got to be more fun again. I wonder if it was just a growing up thing? In any case, :grouphug: to you. I know the feeling of messing up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurel Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 (Hugs) Christmas is hard. There's always so much hype and excitement, and it's very rare that the day can live up to those crazy expectations. You certainly didn't mess up Christmas. Even if there was a bit of a low first thing, it sounds like you all had a lovely day afterwards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 There is a lot of pressure on a big day to make everything perfect. You shouldn't feel bad because you need sleep, sleep is essential to keeping mamma happy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JessReplanted Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 You don't need to feel badly about anything. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I agree with others : It's not you, it's them. That's the age my kids started being a bit sad about Xmas. And also, they weren't telling you you messed up, they were telling you they had missed you. That's nice! It's good to be missed! And you're doing great because they're able to tell you things at night. Good job mama. Have fun playing but fwiw, in my house, the anticlimactic feelings often persisted for days and presented as a bit of a small funk... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I think you are making this more than it is. I would have told them flat out that the festivities would start at 9 when you get up. I told my kids 8. They'd wake me up at 3. No...I won't go for that. They waited actually until 8:30. They wouldn't dream of starting without me. But anyway, this isn't the end of the world. And at least now you know what you mean to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dancingmama Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I also think it's the age. My daughter,10 - almost 11, had a bit of a blah Xmas but she got everything she wanted. Hormones, critical thinking, so many changes. Sleep is important. And I agree, they missed you. That's a bit of growing up, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 You didn't mess up Christmas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cakes Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Aw, it sounds like they just missed having you there in the morning to share in the moment. Maybe next year gifts could wait until later in the morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peaceful Isle Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Im sorry you feel bad. :( They will be okay. I think boys in general just love their mom tons. My son just squeezed my arm last night telling how much he loves me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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