TKDmom Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 (edited) We just got home from an OM competition. One child scored first and is going to the State competition next month. :hurray: Another scored 8th. Out of 8. :crying: The third was in a non-competitive division, but received high marks. So my house is full of tears tonight. Tears of disappointment. Tears of guilt. And tears just because everyone else is crying. :( My ds's team had his coach drop out 2 months ago after one of the parents was particularly nasty to her. I stepped up in her place because no one else was willing to do it.Their old coach was amazing and I wished she could have stayed. I was so proud of those kids. They worked so hard, and they improved so much over the last few weeks. We all thought they did really well. I almost wish we had skipped the awards ceremony, but I was sure they'd get in the top 5. In the big scheme of things, this will just be a blip on the radar. But it's so hard to see your kids hurting. It was just such an emtionally draining day. I missed the performances of two of my kids and we almost didn't get one of the essential props in ds's performance to the competition. I think I want to go sleep for a week. Edited March 3, 2013 by TKDmom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 Congrats to the winner and better luck next time to the other. it's a valuable life lesson to know that you win some, you lose some. No fun when you're in the latter position, but they can only go up from there :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: Sometimes days of just managing not only your own emotions, but everyone else's are just So hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: Sometimes days of just managing not only your own emotions, but everyone else's are just So hard. So true. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TKDmom Posted March 3, 2013 Author Share Posted March 3, 2013 Ds(9) was so sweet tonight. During our family prayer he gave thanks that his sister could get first place. :) I'm proud of him for not being jealous or bitter. And next week he's got Pinewood Derby with an awesome car. He loves Pinewood Derby. I'm sure it will raise his spirits. After talking to Daddy he wants to try again next year. Odyssey just sucks the life out of me for 3 months leading up to the competition. I suppose I have 5 months to decide if I want to do this again. But I'm gonna want someone to kick me if I do decide to do it. Especially since the chances are pretty high that I will be pulled into coaching again. Why do we do these things for our children??? :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 I'm so sorry you guys had such a rough day. Your ds9 sounds like such a sweetie, though -- a lot of kids would be feeling envious and mean, but your ds is happy for his sister and is proud of her. I think that's really cool. :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 I feel for both the winner and the loser. Neither really knows what to feel in the moment. But I have a feeling this will help them bond, knowing how much each one's happiness depends on the other's. The Williams sisters come to mind. I had a client who had 9yo triplets. Two of them were consistently #1 and #2 in Judo competitions. Needless to say, celebrations were muted. But how proud he was of both of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 :grouphug: It's such a tough lesson to come in last place. It's a valuable one though. How tough for your family. Congrats to the winner though! (It's so important not to down play a victory. I've made that mistake.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hillfarm Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 Why do we do these things for our children??? :p Yes, someone please tell me. Today after church I am going to don my "below freezing" gear and go stand in a snowy, windy field for the first day of 4-H archery training. Actually I will be the safety gear officer and will be in charge of making sure everyone has on eye protection, finger tabs, arm guards, and all hoodie strings tucked well away. It's going to be a long, cold afternoon. Regarding the competition and disappointment issue, my dd cares about it a lot less than I do. I have a very competitive nature, but she takes after dh and is pretty laid back about it. So I have to hide my disappointment while she says, "Oh well, there's always next time..." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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