Night Elf Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 DH and I are wanting to recapture some of the more wonderful moments we've shared. We've gotten so bogged down in everyday life that we sort of got out of touch with each other. Well, it's really more me than him. I remember seeing a book that was meant to be read together by couples to help renew a marriage. Does anyone have any good recommendations? Please nothing religious, which would probably make this thread longer because I'm sure there are lots of good books on this subject. DH isn't religious, not even remotely so anything spiritual or faith focused will keep him from the task at hand which is a way to find ourselves again. We're still in love and committed but I don't feel like we are ONE anymore. There is a disconnect somewhere and I want to hunt it down and repair it. Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jpoy85 Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 I dont know if its religious....but last night at my MOMSnext meeting they recommended the book: Love and War by John Eldredge. Its on Amazon cheap. Im personally going to try it. I did try Fireproof but it didnt quite worked how I hoped it would. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 If you're up for something lighthearted and a bit different, you could try one of Laura Corn's books. We have 101 Nights of Grrreat Romance. Some of her suggestions are a bit silly or not suitable for everyone, but we've found it a good way to get basic ideas and modify them to fit us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bang!Zoom! Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 Is this one of the titles? I haven't gotten into this area ever in my life- but seems like a lot of people do.. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/ I have no idea of the contents, just that I see it around all the time.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeganCupcake Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 This is one I have wanted to read: Feeling Good Together by Dr. David Burns. I've read his Feeling Good, and it is amazing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 (edited) These are the best marriage books I've read and both have step through instructions of things to do together. The first is less "intense" than the second. The compliment each other well I feel. I don't believe either are overtly religious. Either would help with that connection and your library may carry them to see if they would fit well. The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by Gottman Getting the Love You Want by Hendrix Edited September 15, 2012 by sbgrace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lea_lpz Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 I dont know if its religious....but last night at my MOMSnext meeting they recommended the book: Love and War by John Eldredge. Its on Amazon cheap. Im personally going to try it. I did try Fireproof but it didnt quite worked how I hoped it would. Love and War is very much a Christian based book on marriage. So is Fireproof. I have done a group counseling course for couples with Love & War and enjoyed it very much, but op is asking for books without religious affiliation. Sorry, but in that case, don't have any suggestions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Negin Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 I love this book. It's a coffee-table book of interviews from couples who have been married 50 years or more. I didn't even know that they have their own site. Oh, the book is not religious. Some of the couples mention faith, but that's it. Nothing more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 Any of these books would be great...read the description to see which fits your needs most. They are not religious, and focus on reidentifying what drew you to each other originally, finding new ways to draw closer, etc. Very practical, not touchy feely. http://marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6000_bookstore.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted September 16, 2012 Author Share Posted September 16, 2012 Thanks ladies! That is a lot to choose from. I am starting with The 5 Love Languages, which I've heard about before, and 101 Nights of Great Romance, which intrigued me and DH. We'll see if we think it's worth doing. I've bookmarked the rest. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 These are the best marriage books I've read and both have step through instructions of things to do together. The first is less "intense" than the second. The compliment each other well I feel. I don't believe either are overtly religious. Either would help with that connection and your library may carry them to see if they would fit well. The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by Gottman Getting the Love You Want by Hendrix Given the OP's needs, I agree with this completely. There are some practical things you can do, too, OP if you want suggestions in addition to a book. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SailorMom Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 I adore The Five Love Languages. I don't care how long people have been married, or how good their marriage is, everyone should read it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Nyssa Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 This is one I have wanted to read: Feeling Good Together by Dr. David Burns. I've read his Feeling Good, and it is amazing. I got this book to read after seeing this thread. It is great! I recommend it for help with any conflicted relationship, not just marriage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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